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| Tue, 05-13-2003 - 11:34am |
I am very disheartened to see some of the familiar names I see on the board leaving for good. I am one of the older women that have been quietly reading other peoples sorrows and triumphs for the past year. I posted in February and had to repost today with a computer that finally works. I am 44 with 45 coming in October. I finally after three years got pregnant in January when I was about to start my second IVF. The pregancy ended in a miscarriage. Of course, the clinic felt very rightious seeing me miscarry as it proved all their doubts about women having babies at 44. I have a six year old son that was conceived naturally. I have had 4 IUIs. You name it I've tried it. Ironically, I have been married to the same man for twenty years. When, I got married I was not ready to have children at 24. I have always had thyroid problems looming along the way. The fertility clinic I am seeing really doesn't want me there. They came highly recommended and I am beginning to wonder why. They are starting me out with an IUI; if there are enough eggs(more than four) they will proceed with an IVF. However, all along the way, I continually hear, I am too old. I now understand why some of these courageous women, myself included, start to loose faith that a baby may not be at the end of this long jouney. I have started taking birth control pills. I would be lying if I said this has not taken it's toll on my marriage. It took me a while to get pregnant with my son so I keep hoping that it is just taking a longer time because I am older. I had another miscarriage when I turned forty. I would love to hear some encouraging stories of women who are 44+ and actually managed to have another baby. Thank you, Tina
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I am as discouraged as you are. I am single. My husband left when I was 35 and desperately wanted a baby. I thought I would meet someone else, get married and it would work out. Well, it didn't. I had an appointment with my RE last week and he told me to use donor eggs or donor embyro. I don't think he wants me there, either. I think that he thinks I am wasting his time. But it is a new practice so he will take my money. Every time I go to the office, I am self conscious about my age. I wish I was 10 years younger. I live in Florida and am not sure any of the clinics here are any good. I have had 4 IUI cycles using repronex. I have had anywhere from 2 to 5 follicles on two amps. At least I am still making follicles. I am using donor sperm. Doing this alone is so very, very hard. My sister lives in NY and I wonder if treatment in NY would be better. I am still trying though. I will do another IUI cylce using lupron and a new drug protocol. What kind of fertility drugs are you using? I don't have insurance and so I am spending the money that maybe I could use for adoption. My RE told me that he never got anyone older than 43 pregnant. I cried all the way home in the car. Allie
I think you'll find that many of the people you remember are still around, just on a different board now. And so many have graduated too! I hope you will not give up on your dreams. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope we will soon see you on this new board:
http://www.network54.com/Hide/Forum/246423
Pat (satie37) created the new board, because this new one has become so cumbersome in it's new format.
Hope to see you there!! :-)
Linda
Please don't give up your dream. I am 44, have two healthy, beautiful sons. I had them at 39 and 42 and just got pregnant at 44 but it ended in m/c early on. My doctor is confident I'll conceive again and have a healthy baby. I do try to eat right, take some fertility herbs and exercise some. But besides that..I conceived w/o assistance.
It is possible at our age with or without some assistance.
I hope to see you at the other board too!
HUGS,
Sandy
I conceived again on the second cycle (back on Clomid, as it seemed to be better for me than Pergonal). I was, of course, a wreck most of my pregnancy, fearing the worst the whole time. I just had a beautiful baby girl a week ago. She is the love of my life, and worth all the pain and fear that came before her. I honestly don't know what I would have done if I'd had another loss. I may have kept trying. I feel like as long as you can bear the uncertainty, you might as well try. At least then, you'll feel you've done all you could, and won't regret giving up too easily. I wish you all the best.
Hugs,
Julie