Staying Abreast on Janet, and Much More.

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Staying Abreast on Janet, and Much More.
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Tue, 03-02-2004 - 6:33am
Staying Abreast on Janet, and Much More...

I am not a Superbowl watcher. But i did watch the half time show for Justin T. Why the hell did he have to take the top off Janet Jackson??? Was there any need? Other than old-fashioned sensationalism! And what the hell was SHE thinking? In public...exposing her right breast! Wasn't that public exposure? And what was that nipple ornament she was wearing??? Why would she wear that unless she intended to expose her breasts. And how about the baloney they are feeding us now...that it was an "outfit malfunction"....PLEEZ! MTV most definitely planned this as a PR stunt.

Why are so many celebrities hell bent on showing off more skin? J.Lo started the whole thing with the "Grammy dress"...Britney tried to top that, Christina got "dirrtty".... Where will this end?? And let’s NOT even start with Pamela Anderson! Is it just me, or her breasts actually seem to grow! And the dresses she wears...Oh Lord! There really is a difference between being and looking sexy and looking skanky. We all know which category Pam falls into.

What about Baywatch? the lady rescuers are all decked out in tiny swimsuits...but David darling and his male counterparts are nicely dressed in shorts(which BTW, are knee length). Why can’t there be any equal distribution of nudity...if indeed there must be any? Why all the close ups of boobs bouncing up and down; or of great buns?

And is it just me...but they DO NOT represent the AVERAGE AMERICAN. Fashion models (whom i have nothing against) grow thinner and thinner; Americans grow larger and larger. How many "fat" people have appeared in a fashion show (probably the only exception is Donna Karan's shows)? How many Average Joes appear in soaps, or dramas? How many women with stretch marks do we get to see? How many women with HIPS (Thank God for Jennifer Lopez for REMINDING people that women ACTUALLY HAVE HIPS!) do we get to see? And who in America has big breasts?

I realize their POV...that if we got it, we should flaunt it. They have every right to. No one’s denying that. But celebrities should also realize the impact they have on the general public. Teenage girls, especially. The teen years are a disaster, even in the best of times. Add to that, the anxiety of looking like Gisele or Heidi! The dieting, the bingeing and purging, the trying-to-fit-a-size 12-into-a-size 2-dress, the cosmetic surgeries, the implants. British VOGUE this month proudly announced "High heels are back in fashion". I have my share of high heel shoes and let me tell you they are NOT fun to walk in. But they do make you look great. The article also talks about how Monolo Blahnik lovers are going to the extent of having surgery to reduce the length/ width of their feet...and in rare cases, becoming four-toed. Do we NEED that? We look at these seemingly perfect looking girls on TV and wonder, Gee, where do i fit in? Britney got her boob job at such a young age...at an age when breasts have not reached their full growth. Doesn't that set a bad precedent? Little did I know that these "perfect dolls" are not all that perfect. Blemishes and stretch marks are carefully AIRBRUSHED in magazines. Where are the role models?

Madonna is one strong role model...yes, in spite of all her antics and scandals. The Williams sisters are another. Oprah Winfrey is my personal role model. NO, i am not Black, i am an Indian (from India..not the Red Indians). Among the younger ones...Definitely NOT Britney (with her "Hit me baby one more time", and her "I'm a slave"). Christina is slightly better with her "I am beautiful" song... Mariah Carey totally lost IT since she got her boobs done. Jeez, its so hard thinking up female role models.

No one's asking for a total ban on nudity ( i enjoy it!) , or on fashion( i buy nothing but foreign fashion magazines each month). But , rather, there is a need to put all this "celebrity and style" thing into perspective. Sure, its fun and all. But don’t let it take over your life. Realize that there are other things in life besides worrying about your boob size or the length of your mini skirt (yes...they are BACK!). When i was 20 years old, i used to collect pictures of Gisele and watch her on the catwalk...and spend time imitating her. But then i realized i wasnt her...in a GOOD way. Try as i might, i WASN'T going to be 5 feet 10 inches tall...and i wasn’t going to be on a Vogue cover. SO WHAT? Who are they to dictate what is beauty? Beauty is what’s beneath the skin. I find immense satisfaction in the following saying:

DON'T BE A SECOND GRADE VERSION OF SOMEONE ELSE....BE A FIRST CLASS VERSION OF YOURSELF

Of course i still have my share of "Body blues" and i still agonize over what i eat, and what i wear. But reminding yourself that you infact are "Beautiful in every single way" is such a comfort.



---Zen




Edited 3/3/2004 11:17:09 PM ET by miz_zenobia

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Tue, 03-02-2004 - 12:39pm

>"reminding yourself that you in fact are "Beautiful in every single way" is such a comfort."<


Excellent point.


It's sad to see young girls emulating

 


Photobucket&nbs

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Registered: 02-25-2004
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 1:00am
Hi,

about the plastic surgery part... i dont see anything wrong with doing it...IF (a big IF) that is what YOU (not peer pressure, boy friends, supermodels...etc) want.

But they who get it done are naive to believe that getting , say a boob job, will make their lives better or happier. After all's said and done, the novelty of their new boobs/nose/ nip-tuck job wears off and they still have to contend with their own former self...all the unresolved feelings that drove them to get the surgury in the first place.

There are a million things about me , that on a day day, i dont like. my nose is too big, cheeks too full, cellulite, blah blah blah. But i have nice boobs, full lips, and am thin. How many girls even have that. Would i like to look better...SURE! But am i unhappy with the way i am ...NO WAY!

--Zen




Edited 3/3/2004 11:16:35 PM ET by miz_zenobia