The Feminization Of America

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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 12:12pm
I don't always agree with his columns (who does) but he is a compelling writer and this column is no different. I think he is right for the most part on this one.


http://www.fredoneverything.net/FOE_Frame_Column.htm

Driving Down Unknown Roads

The Feminization Of America

March 29, 2004

In the United States women are, I think for the first time in history, gaining real power. Often nations have had queens, heiresses, and female aristocrats. These do not amount to much. Today women occupy positions of genuine authority in fields that matter, as for example publishing, journalism, and academia. They control education through high school. Politicians scramble for their votes. They control the divorce courts and usually get their way with things that matter to them.

If this is not unprecedented, I do not know of the precedent. What will be the consequences?

Men have controlled the world through most of history so we know what they do: build things, break things, invent things, compete with each other fiercely and often pointlessly, and fight endless wars that seem to them justifiable at the time but that, seen from afar, are just what males do. The unanswered question is what women would, or will, do. How will their increasing influence reshape the polity?

Women and men want very different things and therefore very different worlds. Men want sex, freedom, and adventure; women want security, pleasantness, and someone to care about (or for)them. Both like power. Men use it to conquer their neighbors whether in business or war, women to impose security and pleasantness.

I do not suggest that the instinctive behavior of women is necessarily bad, nor that of men necessarily good. I do suggest that that the effects will be profound, probably irreversible, and not necessarily entirely to the liking of either sex. The question may be whether one fears most being conquered or being nicened to death.

Consider what is called the Nanny State by men, who feel smothered by it, but is accepted if not supported by women, who see it as protective and caring. (Yes, I know that there are exceptions and degrees in all of this, and no, I don’t have polling data.) Note that women are much more concerned than are men about health and well-being. Women worry about second-hand smoke, outlawing guns, lowering the allowable blood-alcohol levels for drivers, making little boys wear helmets while riding bicycles, and outlawing such forms of violence as dodge ball or the use of plastic ray guns. Much of this is demonstrably irrational, but that is the nature of instincts. (Neither is the male tendency to form armed bands and attack anyone within reach a pinnacle of reason.)

The implications of female influence for freedom, at least as men understand the word, are not good. Women will accept restrictions on their behavior if in doing so they feel more secure. They have less need of freedom, which is not particularly important in living a secure, orderly, routine, and comfortable life. They tend not to see political correctness as irritating, but as keeping people from saying unpleasant things.

The growing feminizaton accounts for much of the decline in the schools. The hostility to competition of any sort is an expression of the female desire for pleasantness; competition is a mild form of combat, by which men are attracted and women repelled. The emphasis on how children feel about each other instead of on what they learn is profoundly female (as for that matter is the associated fascination with psychotherapy). The drugging of male schoolchildren into passivity is the imposition of pleasantness by chemical means. Little boys are not nice, but fidgety wild men writ small who, bored out of their skulls, tend to rowdiness. They are also hard for the average woman to control and, since male teachers are absent, gelded, or terrified of litigious parents, expulsion and resort to the police fill the void. The oft-repeated suspension of boys for drawing soldiers or playing space war is, methinks, a quietly hysterical attempt to assuage formless insecurity.

The change in marriage and the deterioration of the family are likewise the results of the growth of political power of women. Whether this is good or bad remains to be seen, but it is assuredly happening. Divorce became common because women wanted to get out of unsatisfactory marriages. In divorce women usually want the children, and have the clout to get them. But someone has to feed the young. Thus the vindictive pursuit of divorced fathers who won’t or can’t pay child support. And thus the rise of the government as de facto father to provide welfare, tax breaks, daycare, and otherwise behave as a virtual husband.

When women entered a male workplace, they found that they didn’t much like it. Men told off-color jokes, looked at protuberant body parts, engaged in rough verbal sparring as a form of social interaction, and behaved in accord with rules that women didn’t and don’t understand. Women had the influence to change things, and did. Laws grew like kudzu to ban sexual harassment, whether real or imagined. Affirmative action, in addition to being a naked power grab, avoids competition and therefore making the losers feel bad. It degrades the performance of organizations, sometimes seriously, but performance is a preoccupation of males.

Men are capable of malignant government, whether authoritarian or totalitarian, as witness North Korea or the Russia of Stalin. I don’t know whether women would behave as badly if they had the power. (I’d guess not.) But women have their own totalitarian tendencies. They will if allowed impose a seamless tyranny of suffocating safety, social control, and political propriety. Men are happy for men to be men and women to be women; women want us all to be women.

The United States becomes daily more a woman’s world: comfortable, safe, with few outlets for a man’s desire for risk. The America of wild empty country, of guns and fishing and hunting, of physical labor and hot rods and schoolyard fights, has turned gradually into a land of shopping malls and sensible cars and bureaucracy. Risk is now mostly artificial and not very risky. There is skydiving and scuba and you can still find places to go fast on motorcycles, but it gets harder. Jobs increasingly require the feminine virtues of patience, accommodation to routine, and subordination of performance to civility. Just about everything that once defined masculinity is now denounced as “macho,” a hostile word embodying the female incomprehension of men.

A case can be made that a feminized world would (or will) be preferable to a masculine. Perhaps. It is males who bomb cities and shoot people in Seven-Elevens. Yet the experiment has not been made. I suspect we will have the worst of both worlds: a nation in which men at the top engage in the usual wars and, a step below, women impose inutterable boredom.

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Thu, 07-01-2004 - 9:48am

Hi Erika!

 


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Thu, 07-01-2004 - 9:51am

>"the author of this article is obviously not very well informed"<


ITA Good post!

cl-Libraone~

 


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Thu, 07-01-2004 - 11:28am
>"the author of this article is obviously not very well informed"<

>>ITA Good post!<<

I would add... paranoid.

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Thu, 07-01-2004 - 1:00pm
Oh gag!

I've never seen so many glaring

stereotypes in one article.

"Men want sex, freedom, and

adventure; women want security,

pleasantness, and someone to

care about (or for)them."

Actually I'm a female in my 30s

and I like sex, freedom and adventure a lot!

Security, pleasantness and someone

to care about? They're ok I suppose

but not the main thing I'm looking for in

life.

I think when you start out with such faulty

premises, you can't help but write a BS article.


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Thu, 07-01-2004 - 3:12pm

>"I've never seen so many glaring stereotypes"<


ITA


Welcome to the "In the News" board.

 


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Fri, 07-02-2004 - 2:51am
I can't quite recall how I ended up reading this forum but it's sure been an interesting ride... especially since I find myself wholeheartedly (and at times, almost simultaneously) agreeing and disagreeing with most of what has been posted (why yes, I do seem to thrive on somewhat paradoxical statements!) but since everyone else has already said so much so well, I shall refrain from adding to the general discussions regarding those delightful issues such as activist judges, The Constitution, abortion, parental obligations, societal values, and last (but certainly not least!) thongs and flip flops... at least for now ^_^

All the nitty-gritty stuff aside, I just wanted to point out that some people may note that this so-called "Feminization" is merely another form of what has come before... under names such as "The Renaissance" and "The Enlightenment" (to name but two of the more well-known ones in the Western world). And since I'm obviously too wordy for my own good at the moment, I shall have to leave it at that and back to lurkdom I go! :)

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Fri, 07-02-2004 - 10:41am

Hi Chaosdreamer.

 


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Fri, 07-02-2004 - 10:49am

Welcome to In The News!


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Fri, 07-02-2004 - 9:55pm
<<>>Why fear the weaker sex.<<

Because it is bloody unlikely men would ever understand the fear we have in the same situation, because a some of you feel the need to impose yourselves on others in order to feel a sense of power.>>

Methinks someone might need to be stalked and sodomized by a big guy named Bubba (and maybe his gang) before he understands.

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I think it is sad, and I think it is an insult to your partner... if you have daughters, your point of view is an insult to them as well. Don't you feel any sense of obligation to teach them their heritage? And that heritage is a collective one, achievements of women and men... not just men.>>

Perhaps his loving wife has occasion to spit in his food. Don't kid yourself, it's been known to happen. Go sit at the head of the table if you would like. Such tiny and petty things to make big he man feel important.

Other than that this whole argument is utter nonsense. He's just trying to get us all riled up and frankly, it's not worth the effort. If America is indeed being "feminized" then these are the last gasps of a dying breed. Hardly worth listening to.

Remember girls....we can now conceive in test tubes using two gametes (that can come from a woman) and determine the sex of the child. Buh Bye Y chromosome. How's THAT for security ladies. No men at all! then we can walk down the street whatever time of night and not worry any more.

Bua HA HA HA HA!

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Fri, 07-02-2004 - 10:07pm
Whoa... those are not *my* quotes... those are vaders!



>>Remember girls....we can now conceive in test tubes using two gametes (that can come from a woman) and determine the sex of the child. Buh Bye Y chromosome. How's THAT for security ladies. No men at all! then we can walk down the street whatever time of night and not worry any more.<<

My orientation is such that you shall have no argument from me on that!




Edited 7/2/2004 10:08 pm ET ET by rayeellen

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