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| Thu, 02-19-2009 - 7:51pm |
In regards to Facebook's recent policy about being able to use people's info even when they have cancelled their subscription and their about face over all the outcries from subscribers,here's my question,whatever happened to if you don't want to have something embarassing popping up on Facebook (or anywhere else on the Internet) years from now if you ever do decide to run for public office,how about don't post it on Facebook (or anywhere else on the Internet) to begin with.
Why do I bring this up? Because where I work a 17 and 18 year old were written up yesterday because they used the Internet (the company computer) (Nobody was told which site by management) on company time on their break to post revealing pictures of themselves to their boyfriends on their company's computer on their company's time.
Needless to say, our manager (who is in his fifties) didn't take kindly to this and wrote them up (we have a policy which says no posting personal stuff on company computer)
They complained bitterly saying they had free speech rights and the manager "needed to get over it" and "this kind of social networking was the wave of the future and he better just learn to deal with it"
IMO,I think they should have waited until they got home to their personal computer (same with the boyfriends) and then posted that stuff

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~whatever happened to if you don't want to have something embarassing popping up on Facebook (or anywhere else on the Internet) years from now if you ever do decide to run for public office,how about don't post it on Facebook (or anywhere else on the Internet) to begin with. Why do I bring this up? Because where I work a 17 and 18 year old were...~
Unfortunately our prefrontal cortexes (responsible for impulse control, anticipating consequences, censoring ourselves, etc.) are not fully developed until our early 20's so
"Facebook's recent policy about being able to use people's info even when they have cancelled their subscription and their about face over all the outcries from subscribers"
We addressed this matter in another thread. As I posted there "Once posted on the net one can
Regardless of what Facebook's, or any "private" social networking system's policies are (...could be ironclad....the most secure in the world)....People should stop and THINK before posting personal pictures and information online. Once it's out there.....it's basically OUT there (right click and save...."view source" anyone?). Really....privacy is only an illusion when it comes to the Internet.
Even if only your "friends" can be given access....so what? Who's to say these people are really your "friends"....that they'll be your "friends" forever.....that their "friendship" with you is any guarantees that it will be strong enough to trump keeping YOUR private information and compromising photos secret in the face of their personal interests, misunderstandings, a falling out, their lack of impulse control, or that they will be meticulous about what information they might share (even inadvertently) with THEIR "friends"?
Young people and teenagers are especially vulnerable to not thinking things through, taking into account what they might want to do (or hide) in the future and being less able to judge what's appropriate for various circumstances....especially, being able to determine the difference between the loyalties and motivations of a "friend" and that of an ACTUAL friend....and no one can really know how permanent a friendship with anyone will be.
I don't care WHAT privacy policies are put into place or what assurances a place like Facebook offers....It's my belief that one should never NEVER post online anything more than the most innocuously harmless photos, information, written statements by or about oneself (or others).
Personally, I don't even send emails to someone if I'm angry or having a misunderstanding with them...That's when I either pick up the phone or even better, speak with them face to face if possible. Momentary anger can be passing or due to a total misunderstanding....a lapse in judgement temporary....a statement about another person untrue or more damaging/hurtful than anticipated...One's personal circumstances and opportunities can change at the drop of a hat....Photographic and written evidence of the baser side of ones nature after being released into the ether....can be permanent, coming out and seriously biting you (or a loved one) on the behind at any time or place (and potentially at the most inconvenient ones imaginable).
"I don't even send emails to someone if I'm angry or having a misunderstanding with them...That's when I either pick up the phone or even better, speak with them face to face if possible. Momentary anger can be passing or due to a total misunderstanding....a lapse in judgement temporary....a statement about another person untrue or more damaging/hurtful than anticipated."
Good points!
Kids (or everyone, really) need to understand that whatever you post online is there forever and can show up anywhere,...
I made sure to stress that to my DD when, several years ago, she asked to set up a MySpace page.
"Maybe they need to meet the "Merry Christmas" person and they can all commiserate about "mean" bosses."
LOL Good one!
***Unfortunately our prefrontal cortexes (responsible for impulse control, anticipating consequences, censoring ourselves, etc.) are not fully developed until our early 20's so
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