Palin Precedence Dangerous

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Registered: 09-10-2008
Palin Precedence Dangerous
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Thu, 09-11-2008 - 1:12pm

Does anyone else feel Palin is setting a dangerous precedence for mothers. 


I already feel my boss's expectations of me have changed since Palins story has become huge news. I fear Palins example of working right up until birth and returning 3 days after birth is a huge step back for womens maternity leave issues. How fortunate for her that she is her own boss, no ones going to tell her not to bring the baby to work, but most women don't enjoy that luxury. 


In March I will delivery a baby, and I don't plan on returning to work for at least 6 weeks.  How will women be judged in the future when they make this choice instead of returning days after birth?

Nikki

Mom to Isabel 4 1/2 & baby boy due 3.17.2009

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Registered: 08-27-2008
Thu, 09-11-2008 - 4:15pm
Sorry, there are many reason for me to dislike Sarah Palin but I will not blame her for her daughter's pregnancy. I see your children are young still, wait until they are say 16/17 and start to have freedom, they will do things that you will not approve of just like you did when you were a teen.
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Registered: 09-17-2007
Thu, 09-11-2008 - 4:25pm

Perhaps you need to re-read my post. I used the word "perhaps". We can do a lot of surmising here. Maybe if mom and dad were around MORE and not preoccupied, they would have noticed a change in their daughter's behaviour or perhaps her parents were not as available to her, as they could have been. What I am saying is that imho, she is not a poster mom/employee of success. There are issues and crisis in her life.

And please, save me the "you'll know more when your child is older routine", you don't know squat about my life accept what you see in my signature. My life isn't up for discussion, is it?

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Registered: 08-31-2003
Thu, 09-11-2008 - 4:40pm
I'm curious, since you think Bristol is 'fair game' since Sarah 'went public with it'- do you think that Obama's associations are fair game, since he too has gone public with them
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Registered: 08-27-2008
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 10:50am
Hasn't the media made Obama's life fair game already?
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Sat, 09-13-2008 - 10:59am
Sorry you took my post so personally and offensively that was not my intention. All I was trying to say is that when it comes to teens and sex it really doesn't matter how much open discussion you have with them eventually they will do what they want.
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Sat, 09-13-2008 - 11:09am

No, Obama was not taken to task for Wrights comments.

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Sat, 09-13-2008 - 11:16am

"Sorry you took my post so personally and offensively that was not my intention."

Apology accepted.

"All I was trying to say is that when it comes to teens and sex it really doesn't matter how much open discussion you have with them eventually they will do what they want."

I don't agree with that at all. I also don't see this as a "sex" issue, I see it as a issue about overall parenting. Being available for your children, supervising them & participating in their life and helping them make wise choices. A unmarried, teenage pregnancy is a symptom of other things wrong in one's life.

I'm tired of the don't blame the parents line that seems to be then mantra of the current crop of teen/young adult parents. The buck stops at parenting. If a parent can evaluate and critique their performance OR accept responsibility for failures in their family circle, why bother at all?

>>>Again, I apologize for trying to explain my point of view in a way that offended you.

You didn't offend me.

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Registered: 08-27-2008
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 8:01pm
he resigned from the church...What more did you want him to do or say?
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Sat, 09-13-2008 - 8:12pm

>>Sorry, there are many reason for me to dislike Sarah Palin but I will not blame her for her daughter's pregnancy.<<

I agree, but I DO blame her for basically throwing her daughter under the bus. My sister got pregnant when she was barely 17; it wasn't my parents' fault (though their having turned a blind eye to everything didn't help) but they would never dreamed of doing something that would've put her in the spotlight during that time. It was a painful and very personal time for our family -- something I don't share with people who don't know because it's not their business. (Anonymous strangers on the Internet do not count :) )I can't imagine knowing the kind of scrutiny and public humiliation your daughter would undergo and then saying yes without hesitation. I think, in that way, Palin has shown herself to be the kind of person who will always put her career -- not her family -- first. A pregnant teen daughter and a son about to be in the line of fire signals "family in crisis" to me -- a time when I would have to tell my co-workers I'd need to be cutting back a little on my hours to be sure I was supporting my family the best way possible. Not a time when I'd leap for a promotion that others weren't sure I was qualified for.

I don't know that I've seen any unhealthy expectations in my office, but I work for a non-profit with many people who've all made an active decision to put a cause ahead of their personal lives, so that's not a fair measuring stick.

Caroline
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Caroline

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Sat, 09-13-2008 - 9:53pm

I've been over this one enough.

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