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| Mon, 10-13-2008 - 5:54pm |
I’m just wondering where the majority of women on this board are regarding some pretty basic matters as it relates to being a woman.
If a man shares your point of view politically, is it OK for you, as a woman, to disregard condescending, disrespectful, or sexist attitudes and remarks made by him toward women? If so, please explain. I am very curious.

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That crossed my mind too. I look forward to the answer.
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Generally....no.
<< Calling someone names based upon her appearance as a woman, for example. Making comments about body parts, for example.>>
As in a man calling some woman "hot"? Or saying a woman has nice legs? Or a great body?
I'm a woman who has no problem with that; don't see it as condescending. I make the same sort of comments about a good-looking man when I see one, don't you?
Of course, the environment matters. Comments like that should probably not be made in church or in the work environment :o)
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http://www.pnhp.org/news/2009/october/meet_the_new_health_.php
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQTBYQlQ7yM
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Depends on the age of the man, how it was done, in what context, and/or if I know that person.
I've started working at a university (and I'm no spring chicken). Most of the people around are young. The other day, I took a wrong turn on the campus and got lost. I asked a young twenty-something girl where to find a particular building and she called me honey while pointing out the way. I could have taken it as being condescending, maybe "ageist" but I didn't get that impression....I was quite pleased.
I agree. There my be many people who I might agree with politically (or with some aspects of their political viewpoint)....but that doesn't mean that we would have anything else in common, that I would agree with this person about numerous other issues, or even that I would LIKE or relate to them.
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<<...BUT what is more troubling is the disparity in staff salaries between men and women on the Obama staff.>>
I've heard this claim on the board before....as with the other times, I (or someone else) has asked if the pay discrepancies extended to equal work (e.g. that the salaries being compared on the basis of gender were for the same job responsibilities, with the same title/classification and qualifications). No one ever gave a straight answer on that one.
I do find that kind of thing offensive at times. Especially if using slang or being bold about the "compliment" in mixed company like "nice a$$", or something of that nature. Would you consider that to be a compliment?
Another thing I find offensive is a man calling a woman by some name based upon her appearance, like "Hey, Blondie". Or referring to her as Blondie when speaking with another person. I find that offensive. Do you?
Edited 10/14/2008 11:01 am ET by chillychillychilly
Hey, I actually agree with you on something!
On the first question, I would consider it a compliment, however, I'm turned off by the use of slang--whether it's a compliment or not--and I would not approve of that sort of comment being made in mixed company.
On the second question, yes, it's offensive to me when I hear a woman addressed by a name that describes her appearance, e.g. 'Blondie'.
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http://www.pnhp.org/news/2009/october/meet_the_new_health_.php
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQTBYQlQ7yM
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