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Worried about Others' Reactions at Goal?
| Fri, 11-14-2003 - 5:05pm |
The post about saggy skin got me thinking.
| Fri, 11-14-2003 - 5:05pm |
The post about saggy skin got me thinking.
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HAHAHA...omg..I am laughing like a friggin baboon now
April
oh rely....you will be a hot little thing!
LOL, you two are too cute!
Oh well, for now I'll just dream about that hourglass figure...my shoulder and hip bones are about the same width, so who knows, maybe I'll even get lucky, LOL!!
Amanda
282/255/150
LMAO Shawna at the roll over in bed saying "What the hell?".
Amanda, I've never been skinny either.
1) sabatage your weight loss by buying you chocolates;
2) keep you from seeing your friends b/c of inappropriate jealousy;
3) become abusive to cover up his own insecurities.
No doubt weight loss does have an effect on a relationship. A lot of us have posted about wanting to enjoy sex more as one of our goals, after all. But I think your relationship's chances of surviving are greater when you lose weight slowly.
I've known an equal number of couples who have gone through "the surgery" change. Two have split, two have stayed together. Losing the weight that quickly, though, has caused interpersonal difficulties for ALL the couples. It changes communication, sex, body language, relations with others outside of the primary relationship, self concepts, relationship concepts. Everything!
My advice:
Your companion has volunteered to join you in your weight loss. Take this opportunity to share this as one of several adventures to come and build self-confidence together. (Warning: You won't build self-confidence if it becomes a competition to see who can lose faster.)
He is feeling as insecure about your not loving him when you reach goal as you are about him not liking your body when you get there. He has the greater risk. You already know he loves your body -- fat or not.
He needs a warm-fuzzy. Give him one. If he says NOW, "You would never leave your Tommy." Then tell him you won't THEN either. You will never regret telling someone how much you love them -- only the times you didn't tell them enough.
Good God! I cannot believe I am taking the guy's side here!
Blessings ... and be gone with all this mushy stuff! I'm gonna go get laid by my next ex and chalk up more exercise points!!!!
S_C
Edited 11/29/2003 4:28:40 PM ET by pat_made_it
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