Frame size? Huh?

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Frame size? Huh?
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 5:35pm
So I go see a dr. at a clinic today and I mentioned to him that my goal weight is 150 lbs. I LOVE the way I looked at 150 and that was my healthiest time in my life! The only visible picture of me in my house is one of me at that weight.

This guy said that I am extremely obese (duh) and I need to cut down to 1000 calories a day and less than 11 grams of fat, and that I need to walk obsessively. I told him I eat between 1000 and 2000 cals a day, and I am trying to make it les than 30% fat. He said 1000 should be my goal, and that for my ht. I should aim for 120 lbs as a goal. I told him that I thought that was too little because I have a large frame and he told me that "large frame" and "big boned" are terms made up by fat people so they can live with themselves. First of all, I was insulted. Second of all, I have always thought frame size mattered. I have broad shoulders and my chest only sticks out 3 inches farther than my rib cage! My wrists are large as well. My best friend is my height and her ribs are HALF as large (front to back) as mine are. She weighs 120 and looks like a model...albeit a short one. If I weighed 120 I think I would look grotesque! Does that make sense? Or am I deluding myself and I really should try to get down to 120?

Mel

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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 7:24pm

Hi Weihna


While you are entitled to your own opinion, so are the other members of this board.

 
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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 7:42pm

What a misguided post.

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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 9:03pm
Mel....go down as far as you want.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 9:09pm
OMG!

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 9:22pm
"Christmasman" (aka Weihnachtsmann)... aren't you supposed to be on a cruise right now or something?

Oops, that's "someone else." My bad.

Mel... YOU GO GIRL! See your regular doctor. If the advice you got feels wrong, then it's wrong for you. Your 40 pound loss is something to celebrate and embrace, and you can't forget that you passed up all those restaurants right after a terrible experience, that was just awesome!

- Yav

"What is an 'Oprah'?" - Teal'c, SG-1

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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 9:23pm

I dont know about you guys, but Im having major flash backs here.....


A little advice Mel...ignore this poster and move on.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 10:10pm
Well, this is my final post on this subject. I have been absolutely focusing on this dr. and his suggestions and because my husband was concerned too, I went to a health club and spoke to the dietitian who works there. She gave me information and spoke to two colleagues while I was there to make sure I was armed as much as possible.

First of all, I weigh 259 lbs. As I said before I have great blood pressure and cholesterol so I am not going to be dropping dead in the morning because of what I eat. I work hard to lose weight safely and I am succeeding. And, as I said, I already exercise every day. I was succeeding before I met Dr. Quackers. I will continue to succeed now that I know he and his archaic opinions are little more than roadkill on my road to success. I wasn't angry with him for saying I was overweight. I KNOW that. I was angry that he appears to be one of those people who thinks a person has no value unless they're a size 8.

I don't blame anyone else for my weight. I never have. I KNOW why I overate and my motivations for it.

The dietitian and her colleagues agreed that my current self designed program IS in fact appropriate and apparently successful, and that doing as the dr. suggests would not only NOT work because my body would go into survival mode, but it would also wreak havoc on me physically. I was told I would be putting myself at risk to follow the dr's advice. I was ALSO told that if I were to begin yo yo dieting now I would be putting myself in a position to fail in the long run. We looked up my information and stats in several resources, and all of them contradicted the other dr. I left a message with my reg. dr. and will be seeing her this week, so I will let you know when I go.

Thanks a million to all of you who have been very supportive. Have a lovely weekend.

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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 10:20pm
It's your CHOICE whether to take a medical doctor's PROFESSIONAL advice, or go by what a couple guys working in a *health club* tell you. It's pure folly, but it's your life and your decision.

Just don't blame the doctor. He told you so, but you wouldn't listen. The doctor's right, on ALL counts.


Edited 12/21/2003 10:39:26 PM ET by weihnachtsmann

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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 10:30pm
Oh, then instead of asking me if that was updated you just assumed...I am sorry I haven't kept it updated as well as I should have because I HAVE been very busy...I've been trying to make it as accurate as possible and haven't finished a lot of it. So that there can be no mistake in the future I removed it from public view until I can get it accurate.

And I believe the people I spoke with, and the documentation they provided me with, was far more reasonable than the dr. or your posts. They are professional dietitians and the dr. was not.

The dr. is wrong, in spite of your rousing support of him. If you'd been there, or had you been listening to many of the posters on the board- INCLUDING THE DIETITIAN whose advice I would follow because she's OBVIOUSLY knowledgeable in this area- you'd understand that.

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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 10:37pm
Where's the rolling eye emoticon when you need one? Please, until you can learn tact and reading comprehension, take your lame attempts at flamebaiting elsewhere.