I sure could use....

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Registered: 01-04-2004
I sure could use....
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Mon, 02-02-2004 - 2:05pm
some motivation right about now! My husband is on vacation this week. And for most couples this would be a good thing. Me and my husband don't even like each other though. It really makes it difficult to do anything with him either laying around the house or using the computer. He is just in my way! We argue or get on each others nerves all the time and that completely just deflates me. Even after he gives me my space, I feel like I need that time just to recover from feeling like this.

Ok enough of my pity party. Please pass along some motivating websites or info. Something to reminde me why I need to keep on keeping on, annoying man or not.

Serena

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Registered: 01-15-2004
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 2:15pm
Serena,

Have you tried myvirtualmodel.com? You can go and make a model of yourself at your goal weight or see what you would look like at different weights. It motivates me when I dont want to exercise or I am thinking about scarfing down an entire bag of oreos LOL.

Sorry to hear that you and your husband do not get a long. Thats a tough situation. Especially when he's hanging around all day. Toward the end of my last relationship (6 years) I wanted to punch my boyfriend every time I looked at him so I understand where you are coming from.

Keep on keepin' on!

Susan

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 2:16pm

I dont really know of any motivating websites besides our own lol

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Registered: 06-16-2003
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 2:36pm
Serena,

Here are some articles about marriage problems that you might want to read.

http://www.ivillage.com/topics/relation/0,,166966,00.html

Hope it gets better!!

HUGZ! Sara

~Sayruhb02
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Registered: 02-02-2004
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 2:49pm
Motivation is one of those things you have to find by looking IN, inward inside yourself, and you won't find it looking OUT for someone, anyone, else to give it to you. That can't be done. I hope you find it too. But look in the right place: inside yourself. You'll probably find it.

If you and your husband don't even like each other, then why stay married? That was very odd. It's not really a marriage when someone says, as you do, "Me and my husband don't even like each other though." So maybe you'd be happier, and he would too, if someone would just call it quits??

Good luck.

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Registered: 10-20-2003
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 4:09pm
Hi Serena! Without my going into detail I understand you completely about the man thing! You and your husband sounds like me and my b/f. And mine's driving me insane. Sometimes I love him so much I can't get enough of him, but most times I can't stand to be around him.

Anyway, I don't know of any motivational websites but I can say for a reminder of why you're doing this...YOU. You're doing this for yourself. Forget about everyone else for just a few minutes every day and focus on you. If it's in the car or bathroom or on your lunch, just a few minutes to yourself. And remind yourself that looking good and feeling good and being proud of yourself is why you need to keep on.

I wish you the best.

Jessica

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 4:37pm
i agree with this poster. If you don't like your husband why are you married?! The only motivation i can think of is to go to marriage counseling or end the marriage, if your not happy in your own marriage/life i don't see how you can stay motivated in anything. Good luck
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Registered: 12-06-2003
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 4:55pm

Im so sorry to hear you are having relationship problems..seems they are not hard to come by for many people...I have been feeling the same as you and its no secret as I voice my problems probably more than everyone on this board wants to hear lol...but I have come to the conclusion that I will never be happy with any man..EVER untill I am happy within myself..I can say all day long..I love myself..and I do..but inside I am miserable knowing I am so fat and to be truthful and this is so wrong of me..if I was thinner I wouldn't be with this guy I am with..I would have confidence and would rely on myself .. I have been so depressed lately and am praying this new meds help..but just so you know I am here if you want to bitch fest with me lmao..Im so tacky..someone slap me hehehe...~hugs~


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Registered: 07-01-2003
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 6:19pm
I'm really new here, so I don't know anything about your relationship situation, or how much you want to lose, or anything like that...but I can tell you why I'd like to see you keep on trying. Simply because the more successful you are at losing the weight and getting yourself healthier, the better you will feel about yourself. And the better you feel about yourself, the easier it will be to find the strength within yourself to face the other problem(s) in your life--mainly, with your hubby. Whether it be working out your problems or just saying, "That's enough; I'm moving on," you will be more able to deal with it if you are happier with yourself. So do it for YOU and nobody else! This is what I tell myself a hundred times a day, so maybe it will help you too. Good luck!!!

Val

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 6:40pm

Great great advice Val =)

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Registered: 11-04-2003
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 8:28pm

Serena,


 

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