Thinking about beer bellies..

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Registered: 06-16-2003
Thinking about beer bellies..
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Thu, 02-05-2004 - 1:55pm
I read that usnews thing on why beer bellies are a killer, and I started thinking about my boyfriend. He does have a beer belly, and diabetes is a big thing in his family..his mom and grama both have it...

and I do want him to be healthier...he doesn't eat a lot but when he does, it'll be like 1000 calories in one sitting...should I discuss it with him?? and how would I w/o hurting his feelings and sounding like a nag??

Sara

~Sayruhb02
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Thu, 02-05-2004 - 2:03pm
Well you could approach him from the aspect of YOU needing help with your own weight loss and asking him to support you by joining you.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Thu, 02-05-2004 - 2:07pm

I know what you mean my own bf has the beer belly...he is a big guy ..huge muscles and the only thing fat on him is his belly but he is a diabetic...we just found out a month or so ago..he isn't taking it seriously..he has lost about 15 pounds but he had surgery so couldn't eat for like a week....Anyways he is a heavy smoker (yuck) and overweight diabetec...ummmm can you say


wake up call !!!!


NOPE...He is only 26 y/o girl...I have become mean about it saying things like "Fine Blake is just going to be fatherless just like you were" He still doesn't care..pisses me off soooo bad ! If I were you I would just tell him something along the lines of "lets get healthy together..it feels so much better when I eat healthy and am losing this weight"

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Thu, 02-05-2004 - 2:12pm
He has talked about it several times(losing weight), and really...he starts out optimistic, but then just cheats and feels like he's ruined it and quits..

I mean, my brother in law and dad have both mentioned it to me. I guess they see it as, if I want to marry him, they want him to be alive for a long time..so he needs to get healthy b/c he'll only get bigger and may have a heart attack or something like that. And he has pretty low self-esteem. Not to be too graphic, but he doesn't like me to see him nude b/c he'll be like "I'm fat no.." And I'm like "Baby...I know what you look like!! You look good to me!" But he doesn't like me to see him like that, but then he doesn't do anything about it.

But then, I think about, since I am eating healthier, and I only buy healthy food, so when we get married, that is all he's gonna have around the house to eat, so he will eat it. It's not that he doesn't like it, he loves fruit, but he never buys it. He works for my brother-in-law's Mexican restaurant, and so he always eats at work..and it's just crap.

I just want him to be around forever, and I don't know how to go about saying it w/o hurting him...it would hurt my feelings if he had ever said that to me when I was at my heaviest.

~Sayruhb02
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Thu, 02-05-2004 - 2:22pm
Then I think you should talk to him even if it will hurt his feelings.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Thu, 02-05-2004 - 3:24pm
BUMP--I need some more opinions on this or some experiences y'all have ahd on this.

Sara

~Sayruhb02
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Thu, 02-05-2004 - 4:21pm
I definately think you should be honest with him. Everyone tells me when I "Look like I've gained weight", grandmas, grandpa, aunts, uncles, mom, dad. They tell me how I should lose it or why. They give me pamphlets or magazine articles. Especially my mom. It pisses me off! It even made me eat more. Or at least that was my excuse. But since these last 10 lbs I've gained, my b/f has been really giving me hell. We are very honest with each other about everything. He tells me when my plates to full or my shirt is too tight. He reminds me of my medical problems. Yes, it hurts and we've even had screaming matches over it. But in the end I know he's right. And he expects the same honesty from me. I tell him when he looks too skinny or looks like he's gaining. The man eats like a machine and doesn't gain a pound! Ugh!

Anyway, honesty Sara. You don't have to be mean about it. Just tell him you're worried for his health. Tell him it would be easier for both of you if he did this with you. You know, partners. But if he takes offense then back off. I wouldn't ride him about it.

Jess
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Registered: 05-08-2003
Thu, 02-05-2004 - 6:58pm
I wouldn't even mention his weight.