OT ~ Let's Vent!!

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OT ~ Let's Vent!!
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Thu, 02-05-2004 - 4:39pm
I don't want to be the only one to do this...feel free to reply & vent!!

I have this friend (I'm not sure if this is the best word) who always says she's going to call and who also didn't phone me when she moved to a city an hour away from here. I found out she moved through my mom (who works at the post office). My "friend" phoned me and apologized telling me how stressed she was and everything...I bought it. I've supported her when she decided she wanted to lose weight. She supported me when I was single and pregnant. I gave her money when she couldn't pay her full dental bill. I've treated her like my little sister.

Everything was great, we'd go out once a month for a "girls night out" and it was all good. We were e-mailing eachother to save on phone bills. Then the "friend" gets a boyfriend and I hear from her once every 2-3 weeks. I asked her if she wanted to go out last Thursday and she was busy...no problem. She said that we'd go out this Thursday. I doubt that because I haven't heard from her in almost 2 weeks. So...I garbaged the idea of going out tonight and wrote her this e-mail:

"I wish you all the best between you and Joe. Hopefully someday you have a happy family.

If you would have just told me you didn't have time to have a friendship, I would have understood. Now you don't have to say things you don't mean. I know you won't call when you say. Do me the favor of atleast putting an ad in the paper when & if you do get married. Good Luck!"

I know it may be a little harsh but....ugh! I'm not a high maintenance friend. All I ask is that once a week she drop me a little note atleast to say "Life is busy, thinking of you. Talk to you soon." But, nope, that's too much to ask. I've played these games in high school...I'm sick of this!!

Am I acting out of line??

I just had to type this instead of going and eating some chocolate. She's not worth gaining weight over.

I'd really like a punching bag right now.

~Dana

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Registered: 06-16-2003
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 3:16pm
Well Dana, I also hate friends that WHEN they call, ALL thy do is talk about themselves. That kind of person seems to be magnetized to me b/c I am a good listener I guess..but after I while, I get tired of it. I know I am here to listen and advise my friends on their problems, but I need that too sometimes. I had one girl I stopped talking to completely b/c we were on the phone once and she finished what she was saying and I started telling her one of my problems and she's like "Weren't we talking about me?" I was like SCREW YOU! Aren't we ALWAYS talking about YOU?? Geez..I don't need to be around someone that self-centered AT ALL.

Sara

~Sayruhb02

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