Dr. news

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Dr. news
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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 11:17pm
I will see the dr. tomorrow and see how things look. I am much calmer and no longer crying hysterically at varied points in time. Which is a good thing because I was scaring my cat and dog. I am hoping beyond hope that he was trying to scare me into coming in and that he will immediately dismiss the idea of a hysterectomy. If he doesn't I will see a 2nd dr. If he concurs, I guess I will live with it.

I truly believe things happen for a reason, and I have to accept that maybe the reason I met and fell in love with and married a man with sole custody of his 2 wonderful babies was so that I would have the chance to be a mother. I always thought I had so much that I could give a child, and I can't deny that the last 5 yrs of giving to these two has made my life beautiful and purposeful and brilliantly joyful in a way I never would have had without them. The rest of their lives they are MY children because I am the only Mom they've ever had in their lives. That may have to be enough, and if it is, I can take it.

I love you guys bunches and thanks so much for the kind messages.

Mel

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Registered: 12-06-2003
In reply to: melodyneve
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 11:39pm
Mel you have such a way with words....I hope your husband and children realize how fortunate they are to have you . You are the true meaning of a mother , you give yourself completely and unselfishly...that is what a real mom is...even if there is no blood ties you adore them and they I am sure know that . I will tell you from experience..my step dad raised me , he is my daddy...he is the one I cried to and who took care of my booboo's and I just adore him..I am really his little girl (well big girl lol) Your children will remember these days of you giving yourself and they will love and respect you even more ! I am praying for a positive outcome for you tomorrow please keep us posted!!
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Registered: 05-19-2003
In reply to: melodyneve
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 11:46am
Mel..you have a great outlook! Your DH & kids are SO lucky to have you, i hope your dr. visit goes good =)
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In reply to: melodyneve
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 12:06pm
Yup, keeping you in our thoughts Melanie!

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Registered: 01-07-2004
In reply to: melodyneve
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:14pm
Mel...

DON'T YOU EVEN LISTEN TO THIS DRIVEL.

You are an awesome woman to have such a heart for these little ones. Your attitude has been encouraging for others who are or who might go through this. I know you are hurting but take comfort that you are loved.

As for you Sojourn....you are truly a mean and bitter person filled with self loathing to be such a jerk to someone who is facing such a tragedy. I truly pity you in all areas. If you need to quote me by all means do.

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Registered: 02-09-2004
In reply to: melodyneve
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:22pm
WHERE THE HECK DID THAT MESSAGE COME FROM, FROM SOJOURN!!! I HAD TO REREAD BACK THROUGH TO SEE IF I HAD MISSED SOMETHING, BUT SHE IS JUST ATTACKING OUT OF LEFT FIELD NOW!!@!!!!!!!

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Registered: 01-07-2004
In reply to: melodyneve
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:23pm
I am very upset by that. To be so mean spirited to hurt someone in that manner. Uncalled for and rather asinine.
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Registered: 12-02-2003
In reply to: melodyneve
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:40pm
For the record, and since I am not sure exactly what you were implying, because I don't WANT to think you'd imply something just to make yourself feel morally superior:

My husband had been divorced a year before I met him. His exwife abandoned the kids for her different lifestyle well before I met him. In fact, she abandoned the older one til she found out she was pregnant, came home long enough to have the second, and then left again. When I met my husband he had sole custody and she's never even been allowed unsupervised visitation. In a few days, she will be leaving for prison related to selling drugs.

I know darn well that my female problems and my marriage/family/etc aren't related at all.

And thanks for the luck.

Ladies, Thanks so much for jumping to my defense. I was a little shocked by the post, but was able to compose myself before writing this because of you all.

Hugs,

Mel

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Registered: 02-09-2004
In reply to: melodyneve
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:11pm
Mel,

You are one classy lady!!!!!!

Jen!

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Registered: 01-04-2004
In reply to: melodyneve
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:33pm
Sojourn, how do you sleep at night? I don't know how anyone can be so cruel and insensitive.

~~Linda

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: melodyneve
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:44pm
My thoughts exactly.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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