Email sent Shawna...Thanks so much!

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Email sent Shawna...Thanks so much!
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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 12:08pm
When I asked Rob to read it he kinda gave me a "look" and said "can one of your friends do it? I don't think I am uh um..."

lol!

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 1:35pm
Your welcome Mel =)

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 2:02pm
You're right, it wasn't exactly what I wanted, but it was what I needed, and it is what I asked for so I need to deal with it.

Hugs

Mel

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 2:14pm
My heart goes out to you Mel.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 2:21pm
:-P

I already did.

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 2:28pm

Curiosity killed the cat and considering that there are over 65 view for this "conversation" - I am not the only one curious about this......LOL!


Many of us don't watch soap operas because we have these boards....so come on spill the beans - what was in the email?

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 2:48pm
LOL!

Um, long story short-

My exhusband and I split on bad terms almost 7 years ago. We had agreed that I would go to my parents house in MI and he would stay in KY where he was stationed and we'd work on things with a little bit of distance between us. I heard NOTHING nada zilcho from him. My letters went unanswered and I received no letters or calls from him. After several months of this I broke down and filed for divorce. Went to KY, got my stuff, gave him papers, and left. I never gave him a chance to explain and he never asked me to. I was there for 2 hours total and when he tried to talk to me and I started crying he looked helpless and left.

Fast forward. My mother never let my letters leave the house. She wouldn't accept his calls and she never gave me his letters. We divorced with the belief that the other had abandoned us.

Now- he's been married and divorced again, and he currently has a gf and baby on the way. I am remarried to a FABULOUS man and we have (his)our two kids and a dog and cat and are happy. But he also has me up on this (&)^(&^%^%(*&)_)&^%_*&^(*$% pedastal and won't let me down. We still have love for each other, but life has taken us to such different places that (with help) I think I've finally realized that we can't remain friends now, and we can't keep talking, because we simply hurt each other and the people we love if we try to be in contact now.

But it sucks. It was easier to deal with when he was the selfish &^%$#@! that sent me away and abandoned me and broke his promises. Now that he's a victim- of my MOTHER no less- I feel an obligation to make him hurt less. And I can't do it. And it sucks SO MANY MILLION MILES of suckiness.

Okay, there's your soap opera fix. I should write torrid novels. I wouldn't even NEED my imagination. Ugh.

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 2:58pm

Oh Mel, what an experience to have had to go through.

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 2:59pm
LOl well there ya go =)

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:13pm
Tell me about it. Anyone being possessed by demons or carrying their sisters ex husbands sisters cousins boyfriends baby?

Sheesh

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:18pm
Thanks, Sweetie.

I prefer this type of therapy- it's cheaper :-)

I think in the scheme of things this is going to end up well and good. Rob and I have a strong marriage, but sometimes things get hairy. He just told me when I dropped him off at work "You know, I love you. Even when I forget to say it, I love you". So even though I didn't realize another of my therapists :-) was right and I believe he has had some concern.

Someday life will be simple again. If not, at least I am not immortal. LOL!

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