anyone else unable to see self at goal?
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anyone else unable to see self at goal?
| Mon, 03-01-2004 - 8:05pm |
I realized this morning that I don't actually belive that I will reach my goal. I have set my goal weight really high this time at 170. In the past it was always around 140, but I have always given up before I get there. Last time I lost around 36 pounds and hit the 200 mark. I was feeling great about myself and started doing things I had never done before like diving. I was even starting to train to climb Mt. Fugi. Than my weight loss slowed down and for some reason I just quit. I am so scared I am going to do the same thing again. I think I will make it to june and hit the 200 pound mark again. Then I will start gaining it back. The wierd thing is that I have been doing great so far, but I have this little voice in the bakc of my head that says "why bother, you are going to gain it back." That is so self defeating. anyone else feel that way and has anyone been able to work through these feelings of defeat?

Karen
Go to www.myvirtualmodel.com and make yourself a model at your current weight. Save it as a jpeg. THEN make her your goal weight, and save it as a jpeg too. Put them side by side and look at them when you need a kicker. I downloaded a customizable "corkboard" from www.mycorkboard.com and on it I have some motivational quotes, my weigh in reminders, measurements, my virtual model current and at goal, a FlyLady-Franny pic (www.flylady.com -another of my happy places). I have a countdown calendar that tells me how many days til my "target date" which is my wedding anniversary. I also have a clock that I use as a timer to workout or do housework, and a few fave pics. It's a great motivator for me.
Hope this helps.
Hugs
Mel
~~Linda
~~Linda
I just try to remember the benefits. I know once I get this weight off I'll be able to do more things. I'll be happier. I won't be hiding myself.
One of the girls said awhile back to set little goals. Face one little goal at a time. That's what I'm doing. My goal right now is to get to 230. From there I'll set another goal. But 10 lbs is easier to swallow than 100 lbs or 80 lbs. Even if you set it at 1 lb. Take it easy. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. And when you hear those little voices saying you can't do this, just tell them YES I CAN! Do NOT give up!
:)
Jessica
Now I have to make it through today at work so tomorrow I can pick myself up off the floor and drag my sorry butt to the gym in the morning.
I don't think I have ever hit rock bottom before and I now think that you have to in order to get that extra "umph" to succeed. Unless you're a lucky person who has an abnormal abundance of motivation and self-control. That's definately not me.
I wish you all the best and hope that you can beat the voices and succeed this time. It's not that you don't want to succeed it's just you need a little push (I know I sure did). Have a wonderful day!
~Dana
I think losing weight is incredibly hard because it is a psycholgical change that is taking place, not just a bodily change. Many of us saw (and still see) food as our best friend. It made us happy when we were down; it was there for us when we were alone; it comforted our tears as we were ridiculed.
I think our biggest fear is failure. Many of us have tried, and failed, to lose weight in the past. I can name every one of my failures. However, I think it is very important to keep a positive attitude, and stop thinking about all of your failures. Focus toward the future, and how good you'll feel when you reach your goal.
Tony
323/286/220
Loosing weight -any amout is hard. I think loosing weight is the hardest thing to do - food is always around. For example I did well on my plan yesterday then i went to class (a class I do not like) and there was Chex mix, granola bars & cheese cake. I love all of that so i had some of each but the cheese cake. I slipped up but took pride in my will power for passing on the cheese cake.
We can do this & we WILL do this. it is all about support. THas is why we are here.
Mel - Flylady is the best. I let go my skinny & fat cloths & keep what Makes me happy. I love myself for what i am not what others expect me to be.
Be well everyone - we are one day closer to our goal.