anyone else unable to see self at goal?

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Registered: 06-17-2003
anyone else unable to see self at goal?
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Mon, 03-01-2004 - 8:05pm
I realized this morning that I don't actually belive that I will reach my goal. I have set my goal weight really high this time at 170. In the past it was always around 140, but I have always given up before I get there. Last time I lost around 36 pounds and hit the 200 mark. I was feeling great about myself and started doing things I had never done before like diving. I was even starting to train to climb Mt. Fugi. Than my weight loss slowed down and for some reason I just quit. I am so scared I am going to do the same thing again. I think I will make it to june and hit the 200 pound mark again. Then I will start gaining it back. The wierd thing is that I have been doing great so far, but I have this little voice in the bakc of my head that says "why bother, you are going to gain it back." That is so self defeating. anyone else feel that way and has anyone been able to work through these feelings of defeat?
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Registered: 09-14-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 8:59pm
sometimes i wonder if i will ever make it, i eat low fat and not many calories a day and i gain and lose gain and lose and gain again. i pray i dont give up and i hope you dont as well. i bought a size medium shirt from wal mart on clearance and have it hanging in my room where i can see it every day and i am determined to get in it! dont give up you can do it you have come to far to give up now!

Karen
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Registered: 12-02-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 9:33pm
Hi! I DO know what you mean- here's a little idea I use.

Go to www.myvirtualmodel.com and make yourself a model at your current weight. Save it as a jpeg. THEN make her your goal weight, and save it as a jpeg too. Put them side by side and look at them when you need a kicker. I downloaded a customizable "corkboard" from www.mycorkboard.com and on it I have some motivational quotes, my weigh in reminders, measurements, my virtual model current and at goal, a FlyLady-Franny pic (www.flylady.com -another of my happy places). I have a countdown calendar that tells me how many days til my "target date" which is my wedding anniversary. I also have a clock that I use as a timer to workout or do housework, and a few fave pics. It's a great motivator for me.

Hope this helps.

Hugs

Mel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 11:32pm
Sharla....Im like 17 pounds from goal and I still think EVERYday that Im not gonna make it.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Tue, 03-02-2004 - 9:37am
The other day we had to have our pictures retaken here at work for our company website, and I guess since I've been starting this weight loss journey, I've started imagining myself as being thinner than I really am. Well, that picture showed me that although I feel different, I don't look any different yet. It kind of bummed me out and I've been trying to get back the positive image that I had. I know that if I keep this up, I will start looking thinner, but I've been starting to think since I saw that picture that I'll never make it. But I won't give up. We have to get rid of these negative feelings!

~~Linda

~~Linda

 

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Registered: 10-20-2003
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 9:53am
Hi Sharla! I understand how you're feeling. When I first started this "life change" I was extremely gung ho! I could see myself in a bikini and belly shirts, all that. But now I'm having a really hard seeing myself as anything but overweight. I can feel a change in my body but my scale is moving really slowly. Everyone says it's because the fat is turning to muscle from exercising and that is why the scale isn't going down. And that is a very good reason, but it's not good enough for me. I want to see some changes. I see everyone on here posting their losses for each week, I don't have any loss to post. BUT...I do feel a change. AND I'M NOT GIVING UP! I REFUSE TO GIVE UP! Still, it makes it very hard to keep going. Especially when I'm stepping on the scale almost every day to see if there's been a change...So tonight that D*MN scale is taking a dirt nap!!!

I just try to remember the benefits. I know once I get this weight off I'll be able to do more things. I'll be happier. I won't be hiding myself.

One of the girls said awhile back to set little goals. Face one little goal at a time. That's what I'm doing. My goal right now is to get to 230. From there I'll set another goal. But 10 lbs is easier to swallow than 100 lbs or 80 lbs. Even if you set it at 1 lb. Take it easy. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. And when you hear those little voices saying you can't do this, just tell them YES I CAN! Do NOT give up!

:)

Jessica

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Tue, 03-02-2004 - 10:15am
I can totally relate!! I'm so glad that I'm not alone. I thought maybe I was going crazy. I, too, hear the "You're destined to stay overweight forever - just accept it!" voices all day long. I'm sick of it and I think finally I hit rock bottom with my weight, my clothes and my emotions.

Now I have to make it through today at work so tomorrow I can pick myself up off the floor and drag my sorry butt to the gym in the morning.

I don't think I have ever hit rock bottom before and I now think that you have to in order to get that extra "umph" to succeed. Unless you're a lucky person who has an abnormal abundance of motivation and self-control. That's definately not me.

I wish you all the best and hope that you can beat the voices and succeed this time. It's not that you don't want to succeed it's just you need a little push (I know I sure did). Have a wonderful day!

~Dana

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Registered: 06-13-2003
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 10:21am
I have that feeling all the time, especially now after the holidays and the minor depression that ensues with Valentine's Day. Since January 1st, I've gained back 10 lbs., and it depressed me to no end because all I wanted to do was eat. I found myself lapsing back into my old binge eating habits, frequenting buffets, and buying double portions whenever I could.

I think losing weight is incredibly hard because it is a psycholgical change that is taking place, not just a bodily change. Many of us saw (and still see) food as our best friend. It made us happy when we were down; it was there for us when we were alone; it comforted our tears as we were ridiculed.

I think our biggest fear is failure. Many of us have tried, and failed, to lose weight in the past. I can name every one of my failures. However, I think it is very important to keep a positive attitude, and stop thinking about all of your failures. Focus toward the future, and how good you'll feel when you reach your goal.

Tony

323/286/220

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 10:27am
I agree with everyone that posted to this. I have negative voices in my head - about work, food, loosing weight & sometimes life in general.

Loosing weight -any amout is hard. I think loosing weight is the hardest thing to do - food is always around. For example I did well on my plan yesterday then i went to class (a class I do not like) and there was Chex mix, granola bars & cheese cake. I love all of that so i had some of each but the cheese cake. I slipped up but took pride in my will power for passing on the cheese cake.

We can do this & we WILL do this. it is all about support. THas is why we are here.

Mel - Flylady is the best. I let go my skinny & fat cloths & keep what Makes me happy. I love myself for what i am not what others expect me to be.

Be well everyone - we are one day closer to our goal.