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| Thu, 03-04-2004 - 8:35am |
Nate came home yesterday from school and had asked if he was fat. I asked him why he would ask that he said a kid in school has been calling him fat and other names…. Of course this brought up horrible memories and I wanted to cry knowing that my son was going to have to go through the same thing kids are sooo cruel. Now Nate was always built like his dad tall and slender… until last summer his stomach area became increasingly larger he had put on a lot of weight…. Now he is more like me…. Most of my weight is in my torso… my legs are fairly slender… okay inside thigh a little different story lol….now Nate no way looks like he’s only 8 he is almost 5 ft tall….last year at this time he was wearing a size 8-10 now he’s in a 14H my problem used to be I couldn’t find things that was long enough for him that didn’t drown him in waist size now it’s the opposite….
He has always eaten pretty well that’s why I said he was like his dad ate a lot but stayed slender he was always hungry…. Candy was not a really big deal with him…. I always said I was lucky that way…. He likes a few now and then but he is an avid fruit eater… he is active… I really need to have a talk with him about his “chunkiness” and figure out how I can help him get back to how he was or at least not get any bigger and hopefully he will grow into his weight… any ideas on how I can approach this sensitive subject with out making him feel really self conscious? And any ideas on weight management for a kid? I will make a drs appointment for him but can not get one till next week….
He has always eaten pretty well that’s why I said he was like his dad ate a lot but stayed slender he was always hungry…. Candy was not a really big deal with him…. I always said I was lucky that way…. He likes a few now and then but he is an avid fruit eater… he is active… I really need to have a talk with him about his “chunkiness” and figure out how I can help him get back to how he was or at least not get any bigger and hopefully he will grow into his weight… any ideas on how I can approach this sensitive subject with out making him feel really self conscious? And any ideas on weight management for a kid? I will make a drs appointment for him but can not get one till next week….

I heard Dr.Phil's son, Jay, wrote a book about Weight Loss for Teens. It's supposed to be a mirror image of Dr.Phil's "Ultimate Weight Loss Solution" but geared towards teens. A lady on the Dr.Phil board gave the book to her daughter and her daughter read it all in one night. It must be really good.
Maybe you could pick that book up and read it yourself, if you think it's alright, then give it to your son.
I'm sorry I don't have very much information. I wish you all the best to you and your son!
~Dana
Anyway - as someone that grew up fat & teased I suggest this: try putting him on an eating plan that is more of a lifestyle change, Weight Watchers may be the easiest because you will be able to encoporate his favorite foods. This will also not scream out "I'm on a Diet" to his frieds. that could lead to more teasing. And the whole family will benifit. The cook only hase to prepare one meal. Also, you may want to take him for a walk - you both benifit. Do you have a pet that needs walking, that could be his responsibility, with parental supervision for safety reason. Does his school have sports. (I don't have kids so i do not know what is offerd to children at his age). Or you could assign him active chores like raking leaves, sweeping, washing the family car, etc.
But most importantly IMOH please don't call him fat or let his doctor say he is fat in front of him (Personal experience can we say 'very hurtful'. Remember is his young enough you can instill the ability to make good food choices in him - he will benifit his entire life from that.
Good luck. (Sorry about my spelling)
Robyn
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