Taking a break OT(long)

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Taking a break OT(long)
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 12:02pm

Just a short (or long knowing me) note to say I wont be around much for a bit..I just need to catch up and focus on my health and my life and I always seem to come to this board and feel like I'm bringing people down with my negative attitude . I'm not meaning to be negative and I may not even be coming across as negative but I "feel" like I am if that makes any sense . Then again I may just be all hormonal because AF is visiting today . :(


I have too much chit going on . I got into a big knock down drag out fight with ex-husband last night , He is telling me I am keeping our son (Adam) away from him but in reality the problem is we are 4 hours away from one another and I go out of my way to meet this tool(ex) half way anytime Adam wants to see him . Adam isn't that interested in going there often because he usually spends all of his time with his brother..fact he told me "I don't see my dad a lot cause him and "new wife" are always in the bedroom...ugh Niceeee haha .Not to mention most of the time ex says he has to work or his wife wont let him sue the car the list goes on and on with his ignorant ass .


So anyway now he is suppose to be getting an attorney today so he can have Adam 6 months out of the year . Our divorce decree gives me SOLE CUSTODY and ex is saying there was a stipulation I had to keep my son in the state of Oklahoma well Joe and I looked over the divorce papers last night and of course ex is full of crap there is no such stipulation . So his royal hineyness is going to do everything he can do give me crap . I am going here in a bit to the attorney general office to file for child support , I am just so stressed and sick of having to harass him for money for HIS CHILD!! He does pay eventually but it is very sporadic and has NEVER been on time . Funny he calls Adam the other day (for the first time since Christmas) on his new cell phone..yet he is still a month behind..2 months now on child support . I wish he would just sign away his rights . He stresses me out so bad and something I haven't told any of you..when he and I were together when I was 24 I had a heart attack . I don't tell anyone because it is very embarrassing because I am still obese and I am just ashamed that I haven't done anything about it . Well Dr's told me it was probably stress related as well as being obese wasn't helping(never a definite answer)

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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 12:11pm
April ~ I have never thought any of that about you. I feel you are a valuable part of this board and look forward to your posts. However, you have to do what you feel is right for you and your sanity. It sounds like you do have a lot of stress and sometimes people deal with it in different ways. Just make sure you always have someone to talk to...and that's what we're here for. Do not let yourself get to the point that you feel you can not handle what is being placed before you. Always remember, what ever you are going thru, you are a wonderful women, great mother and even better friend. You are beautiful and deserve the best no matter what anyone says. Please keep me posted and let me know if you need anything. Even if you'd like to email instead of keeping on the boards...know1968@yahoo.com. I wish you the best of luck in everything and please reconsider being on the boards. It might be a great escape for you every now and then!

Wishing you good thoughts and BIG HUGS...

Kerry

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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 12:18pm
APRIL!!!!

Breath girl breath!! It's going to get better and you are so not bringing anyone down!!!!

Notice how upset I am about you leaving...see how many exclamination points.

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Registered: 06-16-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 12:27pm
April,

Good luck with everything. You didn't sound crazy, you are just having a really hard time right now. Ex's suck a$$, and there is nothing anyone can do about that. I hope everything works out for the best and come back as soon as you are able.

Hugz!!! Sara

~Sayruhb02
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 12:45pm
April, i am sorry you have having a hard time now and having to deal with your ex being such a d*ck. Remember people on this board care about you and are wishing the best for you.
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 1:06pm
April, I'm sorry that you are having such a hard time lately! I don't think you're nuts at all. Just stressed out. And with good reason. Take all the time you need, just not too long! These boards wouldn't be the same without you. We'll miss you but we'll be here whenever you're ready to come back. And take care of your health! Don't let those doctors push you around.

((((((HUGS))))))

~~Linda

~~Linda

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 1:31pm

April....Gosh, Im speechless.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 2:35pm
April, I'm really sorry you're feeling this way right now. I'm really sorry cuz I can relate soooo well. I've decided as well to ease off the boards, I felt I was just being a downer too. Though I never thought of your posts like that. You always made me laugh. I always looked for your posts. I really hope you work things out.

I say I can relate cuz - and I know this is your post...but if you ever need a friend...I can understand...

1) I'm fighting CS ($$) issues w/ my ex right now. The bum still doesn't understand why he should pay for a child he doesn't want!

2) My doc says if I don't calm down my heart is going to explode, but I can't calm down because everything and everyone is driving me insane. I'm only 27. Even when relaxed my heart beats like I've just run a race.

3) Unfortunately I don't know what it's like to have a wonderful man in my life. My b/f and I fight like cats and dogs one min and the next min we're happy as larks. I don't know what to do...don't know how to breakup, don't know if I want to, but that's for another board, right? Keep this man! Married or not, so what? That'll come when the time is right. He treats you and your kids well and that's ALL that matters!!!

Anyway, I'll miss your posts. Look forward to your return! Good luck working things out and with your continuing weight loss!

God Bless,

Jessica

PS...you are NOT nuts! Cuz if you are we ALL are!!

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Registered: 12-02-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 2:52pm
Dearest April-

No. We do NOT accept your resignation from this board! We love you and we need what you bring to us, and it sounds like you need what we bring to you too! As far as crazy- well, Rob said you're a bad influence after our battery exchange idea the other day (wink wink) but I don't think ANYONE thinks you're crazy! And if you came to Sunday chats, you'd know you're not even close to having a corner on the crazy market, regardless. Man, there are some weirdos....(laugh ladies- I know I am one of you too.)

I whine and hooray on this board about EVERYTHING! The Library, my dog, my kids, Rob's exwife, etc. Nothing you share with us brings us down- I truly believe the old adage that shared joy is doubled joy and shared sorrow is halved sorrow. Let us bear some of that burden- it's not like you're herding us into an electrified corral and holding us by force- if someone doesn't know what to say they don't have to respond to your posts! This is the PERFECT outlet because you can get it out, and let it be. We've all come to love looking at pics of Blake and Adam, and you're very much a part of us.

Please reconsider. We can take all the punk and junk of your life and help you through it, and you NEVER have to be ashamed of anything with us! And remember- Karrie is close enough to manually make you reconsider.....and she has a bullwhip! ;-)

Love,

Mel

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Registered: 10-01-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 3:26pm
April,

I just wanted you to know that I always look forward to seeing your posts on the board. You make me smile and I think you are an awesome member of "the team." If you do in fact go into hiding, you will be greatly missed.

-Tina

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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 4:32pm

oops nt




Edited 3/8/2004 4:34:14 PM ET by imgoingnutts

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