What is your spouses eating habits?
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What is your spouses eating habits?
| Tue, 03-09-2004 - 9:57am |
Im running into a small problem with my husband and his eating habits lately.
| Tue, 03-09-2004 - 9:57am |
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I had to continually tell them that no matter what they decide to do around me they need to be respectful of the choices I was making. It got hard and annoying to continually tell them but it finally broke through the dumb barrier as I call a guy's mind.
~~Linda
~~Linda
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It gets on my nerves.
Sara
That's just my opinion, of course. Personally no one would ever be permitted to smoke in my house, not anywhere in my house or in my yard or in my car...and no one eats or drinks anything in my car (but then, I paid for it). But if it comes to food, just because I eat healthy doesn't mean everyone around me must. They, including spouses, have the right to kill themselves with food if they want to. But that said, adults bear mutual responsibility for the healthy upbringing of their children.
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I didn't say it was about *dictating* to another. I said (or I think I said, writing through this stuffy nose cold today) that one adult can't dictate to another what that person should/should not eat. And no, I don't think it's about "having respect for your spouse and being supportive of them." She didn't say her husband had no respect for her, and I'm not even going to go there. What I will say (again) is that but people in a marriage are adults, who join together in the raising of their child(ren), but that can be done without this man (or any party to a marriage) giving up his Krispy Creams. Assuming his paycheck helps pay the housepayment, it's his home too and if he, personally, wants to eat junk food in his own home after a long hard day's work...then it's his business. It's *their* business if (and only if) he insists on eating them all in front of their child. They both have a right, and responsibility, to raise a happy healthy well fed (but not obese) child. But that's where it stops, really.
You say, "It's hard losing weight and having someone next to you scarfing down Kispy Kremes certainly doesn't help." Well, not necessarily. Others in my home may bring home pizza, eat it during a game, but that has nothing to do with what I eat. WE EACH MAKE OUR OWN CHOICES, and the guy doesn't have to abandon his dozen donuts because his wife is dieting. It's his choice to eat the donuts. It should be her choice NOT to eat the donuts. No one is holding her down and force-feeding the donuts. So that argument doesn't wash IMO.
I don't think there's anything *wrong* with wanting a fiance or spouse to eat healthy either. But once she's asked him to take better care of himself, and he's opted for the donuts, there's her answer. It's his life, and he wants Krispy Cream in it. And that's his right.
I would love it if he would join me in being healthier, but I can't make him if he doesn't want to. Luckily he keeps most of his bad habits at work or after the kids are asleep, but there are some I'm sure they'll notice once they are old enough to understand. I only hope my influence will rub off on the boys more than his, LOL!
Amanda
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Well... I don't have a spouse, but I do have a boyfriend, so here I go:
His eating habits are terrible. Actually, they practically mirror what mine were, before I made my lifestyle change. This was fine when we started dating (back in August), but now that I see a contrast, it makes things a little difficult. He is a big guy- he's about 5'11", and I would guess weighs about the same as me (250-ish at least, and it's not muscle... but it's always so hard to tell on guys). He did a plan for the month of Feb, where you have meals delivered. He and a work buddy did it. He tried 1200 calories a day and couldn't cut it so switched to 2000 calories a day. Well, Feb is over and he seems to be back to his old ways. I hate to tell him that exercise is neccessary, because I know he doesn't want to hear it, but I think that's the only thing that will make a big enough change to motivate him. Know what I mean?
We eat out alot, so I am still able to make good choices most of the time (I just shoot down ideas like pizza restaurants- lol). Otherwise one of us cooks, so that's pretty controlable, too.
I worry about him, and wish I could think of an active- activity we could do together. Taking walks, I know, but does anyone have any other brilliant ideas? Neither of us has EVER been sports inclined, so it's kind of hard to think... Anyways, I think doing something active together would be great, I am just still thinking of ideas and how to bring it up. Any suggestions would be great...
Shawna- sorry to piggyback questions onto your thread! :)
-Tina
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