What is your spouses eating habits?

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What is your spouses eating habits?
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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 9:57am
Im running into a small problem with my husband and his eating habits lately.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 10:03am
Man, try telling that to my brother who does that who is TOO skinny at 6 feet and 150. My dad stands at 6'2 and 220 and he is at playing weight in college. My grandpa was 6'7 and 250 and no fat on him either when he was alive. They all eat like there is no tomorrow. Wish the women in the family can do that.

I had to continually tell them that no matter what they decide to do around me they need to be respectful of the choices I was making. It got hard and annoying to continually tell them but it finally broke through the dumb barrier as I call a guy's mind.

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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 11:02am
My husband isn't that overweight, but he could stand to lose about 20 pounds. He complains all the time that he can't lose weight, but with him it's all or nothing. He doesn't eat all day and then has one big meal. I tell him that he should eat throughout the day, but he won't listen. He travels a lot, too, so he eats out more than he eats at home sometimes. The other night he went to Walmart, and in the grocery store there they have apple pies similar to McDonald's apple pies (the old ones that were deep fried). He "confessed" to me that he ate six of them that night! I'm hoping that some of my new eating habits will rub off on him, but it's hard to change someone else's habits. It's hard enough to change my own! I'm hoping that when he sees how well I'm doing, he'll be motivated to make some changes of his own. Good luck, Shawna, it's hard to change someone else's habits, even your own spouse's.

~~Linda

~~Linda

 

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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 11:43am
John is 6'2", 248lbs. He's got a little bit of tummy on him but isn't fat. He's been dieting with me, more to support me, although he does want to lose some of his belly too. We're doing BFL where you have a free day once a week and he cannot give up the sausage. He'll eat about 4-5 sausage patties or links with cheesy eggs, fried tomatoes and buttery toast. The weird thing is, after that 1300 calories breakfast he will hardly eat anything the rest of the day. I did convince him to cut back his gallon a day milk habit and switch to lowfat cheese. Luckily he's not a sweets guy so I dont have a problem with him bringing those home.
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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 12:26pm
Well, my boyfriend has the worst habits! He does not all day, but what he eats is like 1000 calories each. But when I make the mistake of going to McDonald's on the way to or from somwhere, he gets a Double Qurter meal, and wants an extra Quarterpounder....I'm like "Roger!!" So, if I pick up food, I get him just the Double Cheeseburger meal...he doesn't really even like the fries, so he just eats the burger and has a coke. And his mom and grama both have bad diabetes, and I don't want him to get them. He's like 6' and 250 lbs...he has a belly, and he always says he wants to lose weight so he can have more energy. But he'll scold me when I count calories b/c he doesn't like people who are 'obsessed' with calories. I explain to him that I am trying to get healthy.

It gets on my nerves.

Sara

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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 12:34pm
Ah, well, we can't change other people...only ourselves. As the child's mom, you have a right (and obligation even) to say that certain things don't fly in your house even though of course it's your husband's house too. But what he does outside the house is his business, and if the man wants to eat 2 dozen Krispy Creams and 20 boxes of GS cookies AWAY FROM THE CHILD (and that includes in the privacy of his bedroom), then it's really up to him. Food, smoking, drinking, other behaviors....adults choose their own, and one adult really can't dictate to the other what his behavior should be.

That's just my opinion, of course. Personally no one would ever be permitted to smoke in my house, not anywhere in my house or in my yard or in my car...and no one eats or drinks anything in my car (but then, I paid for it). But if it comes to food, just because I eat healthy doesn't mean everyone around me must. They, including spouses, have the right to kill themselves with food if they want to. But that said, adults bear mutual responsibility for the healthy upbringing of their children.

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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 12:41pm
I don't really think this post was about dictating to one another. I think it's more about having respect for your spouse and being supportive of them. It's hard losing weight and having someone next to you scarfing down Kispy Kremes certainly doesn't help. I would absolutely be upset if my husband was bringing all kinds of sweets into the house and especially if he was passing these habits down to my children. In addition I dont think there is anything wrong with also wanting your spouse to avoid any health issues related to eating poorly. I want my fiance to be around for a long time and a good diet coincides with that.
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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 12:51pm
Susan,

I didn't say it was about *dictating* to another. I said (or I think I said, writing through this stuffy nose cold today) that one adult can't dictate to another what that person should/should not eat. And no, I don't think it's about "having respect for your spouse and being supportive of them." She didn't say her husband had no respect for her, and I'm not even going to go there. What I will say (again) is that but people in a marriage are adults, who join together in the raising of their child(ren), but that can be done without this man (or any party to a marriage) giving up his Krispy Creams. Assuming his paycheck helps pay the housepayment, it's his home too and if he, personally, wants to eat junk food in his own home after a long hard day's work...then it's his business. It's *their* business if (and only if) he insists on eating them all in front of their child. They both have a right, and responsibility, to raise a happy healthy well fed (but not obese) child. But that's where it stops, really.

You say, "It's hard losing weight and having someone next to you scarfing down Kispy Kremes certainly doesn't help." Well, not necessarily. Others in my home may bring home pizza, eat it during a game, but that has nothing to do with what I eat. WE EACH MAKE OUR OWN CHOICES, and the guy doesn't have to abandon his dozen donuts because his wife is dieting. It's his choice to eat the donuts. It should be her choice NOT to eat the donuts. No one is holding her down and force-feeding the donuts. So that argument doesn't wash IMO.

I don't think there's anything *wrong* with wanting a fiance or spouse to eat healthy either. But once she's asked him to take better care of himself, and he's opted for the donuts, there's her answer. It's his life, and he wants Krispy Cream in it. And that's his right.

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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 12:57pm
Ugh, my husband's eating & exercise habits are terrible! He is 5'6" and weighs probably 225. He rarely eats breakfast, he has chips and soda daily, cookies and other types of snacks several times a week if not every day, he eats candy bars several times a week as well, his lunches are usually high calorie and high in fat. When we go to fast food restaurants, especially McD's or Wendy's, he has a super size fry plus whatever me and the kids don't eat. He thinks he makes up for it by eating a lot of fruit...but that usually means he'll down a whole container of strawberries or a whole can of pineapple in one sitting. Oh, and at night he'll eat the dinner I make (which I've been making healthier meals and smaller amounts), but then he'll snack the rest of the night. And don't get me started on the GS cookies, I don't even know how many boxes he buys becaues he keeps most of them at work. His job doesn't help, several months out of the year they are in a major crunch mode and they work about 16 hours a day (computer work so no physical activity either). So the company buys their dinner for them, which is always from a restaurant or fast food place. He has put on a significant amount of weight in the past 3 1/2 years since he's had this job. He thinks he is "in shape" because he plays basketball with the guys he works with once a week. And sometimes he'll go to the gym in our apt complex and will walk/run for 10 minutes on the treadmill and then do weights for maybe 15 minutes. Of course it is rare that he does that, but he thinks it is more than enough exercise. Despite all that he does complain about being fat!

I would love it if he would join me in being healthier, but I can't make him if he doesn't want to. Luckily he keeps most of his bad habits at work or after the kids are asleep, but there are some I'm sure they'll notice once they are old enough to understand. I only hope my influence will rub off on the boys more than his, LOL!

Amanda

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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 3:36pm
Shawna, I can definitely see the worry with your husband's influence on your son. No advice though... haven't lived through that yet.

Well... I don't have a spouse, but I do have a boyfriend, so here I go:

His eating habits are terrible. Actually, they practically mirror what mine were, before I made my lifestyle change. This was fine when we started dating (back in August), but now that I see a contrast, it makes things a little difficult. He is a big guy- he's about 5'11", and I would guess weighs about the same as me (250-ish at least, and it's not muscle... but it's always so hard to tell on guys). He did a plan for the month of Feb, where you have meals delivered. He and a work buddy did it. He tried 1200 calories a day and couldn't cut it so switched to 2000 calories a day. Well, Feb is over and he seems to be back to his old ways. I hate to tell him that exercise is neccessary, because I know he doesn't want to hear it, but I think that's the only thing that will make a big enough change to motivate him. Know what I mean?

We eat out alot, so I am still able to make good choices most of the time (I just shoot down ideas like pizza restaurants- lol). Otherwise one of us cooks, so that's pretty controlable, too.

I worry about him, and wish I could think of an active- activity we could do together. Taking walks, I know, but does anyone have any other brilliant ideas? Neither of us has EVER been sports inclined, so it's kind of hard to think... Anyways, I think doing something active together would be great, I am just still thinking of ideas and how to bring it up. Any suggestions would be great...

Shawna- sorry to piggyback questions onto your thread! :)

-Tina

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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 3:52pm
Hey, you should know I have no problem with that!

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