What is your spouses eating habits?

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What is your spouses eating habits?
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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 9:57am
Im running into a small problem with my husband and his eating habits lately.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Fri, 03-12-2004 - 6:31pm
My fiancee has some pretty awful eating habits, but he's aware of it and submits pretty tolerantly when I tease him for eating nothing but junk food. On the other hand, I'm far more overweight than he is, and I'd be pretty hypocritical to chastise him for his eating habits when I'm just now correcting mine - which, by the way, he had absolutely no problems with before. He's just now a little overweight; he's getting older and his metabolism is slowing down, and he's got a little belly now, but he still weighs less than I do (not saying much right now! :-D).

He has been nothing but supportive of my lifestyle changes, and he celebrates all my little victories with me, and offers me snuggling and encouragement when I'm feeling uncertain or depressed about my progress.

We love each other madly and want to be together forever, and of course if there is a great gap in our fitness levels one of us might die considerably before the other one, placing an unpleasant gap in the time we spend together between now and after. On the other hand, we each have our own choices to make, and treating him like a child and trying to plan his meals for him is doomed to failure for any number of reasons. The best suggestion I have is to speak to him on the level about it, if you're really concerned for his health. I know that if I'd stayed over 300 pounds my fiancee would have loved me my entire life and mourned when I died at 58 from congestive heart failure, and that's one of my most powerful motivations to lose weight now.


Edited 3/12/2004 6:35 pm ET ET by solenis

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Fri, 03-12-2004 - 7:58pm
Well said, Solenis.

~~Linda

 

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Fri, 03-12-2004 - 10:16pm

I can assure you that Im not approaching this so poorly that it will result in a divorce.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Sat, 03-13-2004 - 1:55pm
It doesn't sound like he's "approaching this" so as to make you a widow by age 40 (as you said) either. He's just a man, a hard working husband with one child, who would like to enjoy his occasional donuts or girl scout cookies without being nagged to death about it. I honestly don't see your problem with that, and since he ignored the nagging (as you said) my suspicions are that HE doesn't see the problem with that either. As we mature, we realize that we really don't have the RIGHT to control whether or not other adults want their donuts. His diet, or lack thereof, is his business and his alone, after all.
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Sat, 03-13-2004 - 2:06pm
The post is 'What is your spouses eating habits?' not 'tell Shawna how you feel about her and her feelings on what DH eats'

Shawna was sharing hers not asking to be debated on how she feels
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Sat, 03-13-2004 - 2:26pm
No, you're wrong there. If you follow the link you will see my post directly responds to a post which Shawna addressed to me. And frankly, mine doesn't "tell shawna how I feel about her." Not by any stretch.

Since you are interested in the OP, though....you are right it's about "what is your spouses eating habits." It is not a topic entitled, "tell Gloria how to post."


So please, address the issue if you wish, but without dictating how others MUST post. Thanks ever so.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-13-2004 - 4:29pm

This whole conversation is close to getting out of control.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Sat, 03-13-2004 - 8:06pm
Shawna...

Lovie, don't worry about someone who seems to be in a perpetual bad mood. I would think that those who have to be so obnixious are simply doing it out of their own insecurities and faults.

I have no doubt you and hubby are too cute!

HUGS

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Sat, 03-13-2004 - 9:26pm
Ohh Im really cute in my new swimsuit!

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Sat, 03-13-2004 - 10:46pm
always good to ask the other what they are hearing. besides it confirms your own thought sabout what is really happening. i just can't stand people who like to put their nose in and offer their thoughts when they have nothing to say but hot air.

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