depressed as usual(OT)

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Registered: 06-16-2003
depressed as usual(OT)
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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 9:29am
I am depressed as I always am. Everything in my life sucks right now. I have no friends; really, zero friends, so I am extremely lonely, and Rog has been severly neglecting our LDR. He tells me he'll call me, but then he "forgets" to...and I am tired of calling him. I hate that I am that low in his priority list lately. I hate school, I hate my job, I am always tired and everyone basically has to walk on eggshells around me b/c I go off in a second for any reason. I don't know what to do anymore...I am just a loser....

Sara

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 11:32am
Sarah, I'm sorry that you're feeling depressed. I know it's not the same, but I do hope you think of us as your friends! I think you're wonderful, and you're definitely not a loser! I don't ever want to hear you say that again (unless it has to do with losing weight, then we all want to be losers lol!) I know that life sucks right now, but hang in there and things will get better. As far as your b/f, I'm sorry but I don't know what to tell you there. Only you can decide if the relationship is worth saving. I do hope you feel better soon, and feel free to vent with us anytime!

~~Linda

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Registered: 02-17-2004
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 11:45am
Dear dear Sara ~ I had a hard time reading your email and thinking that you are talking that way about yourself. You are doing so much to make yourself bettter (ie: school, losing weight). If there is something going on in your life that you don't like, well then change it. There are those who complain think it's going to change and there are those who complain and take action to change it. Nobody is going to make your life better except yourself. But first, you have to respect yourself. And if that change is something like telling your boyfriend what you expect out of this LDR, then do so. There is no reason why you should keep someone in your life that isn't measuring up to your expectations. Maybe he doesn't understand what you expect out of him. Guys are stupid like that. And as far as "thinking" he loves you back, well if you don't know then either ask him or move on. Don't be afraid of the answer. Why stay in a relationship that makes you miserable? And don't be afraid of change. As far as having any friends, you said that you keep getting looked over. Are you open to being friends with people? Do you wait for them to ask you to do something or talk? Why don't you try taking the iniative? I am a big advocate of loving/liking one's self. If you don't love/like yourself, how do you expect someone else to? You seem to be such an understanding, open and wonderful friend on this board to all of us, I find it hard to believe that you're not like that in your life with people around you. I don't want you to think these words are harsh or I'm being mean, I'm not like that. I hope things will get better for you but only YOU can make them better not anyone around you hun. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you.

A big hug to you ~

Kerry

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Registered: 06-27-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 11:49am

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Registered: 10-01-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 3:21pm
Sara,

:( It sucks to feel crappy. I felt like that when I first moved to Atlanta. My fellow new-in-town coworkers seemed to instantly bond with me not in the loop, and I felt really alone. I know how much school and minimum wage jobs can suck. (Whenever you post about yours, I think about my college job-lol- I don't even know what you do!) I would say try to find a group. Somehow. Church? An exercise group? The Jaycee's are an awesome organization for networking, and have student membership rates... Find something so you aren't so alone. When in doubt we are here for you, babe. Well, I know I am anyways. ;)

*hugs*

-Tina

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Registered: 11-04-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 8:35pm

I read in the other post that you went to lunch and are feeling better........so that's good!

 
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Registered: 03-10-2004
Sat, 03-13-2004 - 2:05pm
The Existentialists said, and rightly so, that we half create what we perceive. In other words, if you think you are then you're right. And if you think you aren't, then you're right too. Your choice, everyone's choice, but no one should walk on "egg shells" for you, as you say. Hope you feel better today.

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