A Shocking 140 Pounds

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Registered: 10-16-2003
A Shocking 140 Pounds
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Thu, 03-18-2004 - 3:51pm
Ok, I have to share this. Last night I was at the gym, and I'd just finished getting some advice from one of the trainers there, and this other trainer intercepted me on the way to the locker room (I was coming straight from work, so I had to change).

She was extremely petite and very in shape, and a couple of inches shorter than me; just the kind of girl who makes me feel like a big hulking cavewoman. I tried not to be defensive; the new trainers or the ones who haven't met me before almost always see me as a big giant bag of money wandering around looking for guidance. They usually are very courteous and respectful and back off when I tell them no thanks, but this girl would NOT leave me alone.

She started asking a lot of personal questions about my diet, my exercise habits, etc., when I felt I'd made it pretty clear that I wasn't interested in a personal trainer or in continuing to speak with her. I'm not always good at staring people down, but she was really beginning to irritate me. When she confided in me (leaning in close and speaking softly) that she'd once been *gasp* 140 POUNDS, I'd had enough. I told her I'd been going to the gym 6 times a week for the past 4.5 weeks, and I already kept a food journal and I already had a workout plan that I'm happy with, and thanks for the interest, but no thanks.

Then she looked like I'd offended her in some way - casting ingratitude back at her when she was just trying to help the poor fat woman - and said "oh" and wandered away.

Fat does not mean stupid, unmotivated or ignorant. It doesn't mean we need help (though encouragement is nice!) Maybe I should wear a sign saying "NO THANKS, I'VE GOT IT".

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 4:09pm
Oh my gosh!! What a porker!!! Ugh - I HATE people like that!!! They really haven't got a clue, and I understand your irritation with her misplaced advice. I always tell people that I'm an absolute EXPERT on losing weight - I know the calorie/fat/carb counts of every food known to man, all the metabolism-boosting tricks, the work-out secrets, etc...I just have a little trouble putting all that expertise into practice ;-)
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Registered: 01-07-2004
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 4:09pm
do you want me to go beat up the little twit??? i really hate that and how rude.

i have a sweet friend who is shorter than i am and weighs less than me but looks a lot bigger than I do and she recieves that type of treatment. i have been "lucky" enough not to have anyone appraoch me in that manner.

and 140 pounds...GASP...how did she survive that!!!???

i am glad you stood your ground with her.

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 4:11pm
share the metabolism tricks
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Registered: 12-06-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 4:14pm

I woulda had to punch the little twurp LOL...It is wonderful she is so fit and in shape..but to be telling a 200+ person "OH MY GOD I WAS SO OBESE AT 140" lmao...sorry but thats so effed up.


I would look like a stick figure at 140 ughhh..Good for you for having the cahones to stand up and be so classy about it!!!

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 4:44pm
She was a trainer who worked there. I suppose I've gotten used to the other trainers who back off the first time I say "no thanks"; in retrospect I probably did overreact, if only internally. People who approach me about weight loss as if I'm new to it and look like she does automatically put me on the defensive. I don't feel I was particularly brusque. Maybe she was just disappointed because she thought I was a definite sale.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 5:11pm
Something very similar happened to me.... I finally told the skinny, metabolically gifted thing that I was actually trying to get a little bigger! That in fact my incredibly handsome husband was crazy for sex with really big women and I didn't want to lose him to someone fatter. She left me alone :)

Faith

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Registered: 01-15-2004
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 5:15pm
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 6:21pm

Ugh.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 6:33pm
Hehe, it's not *that* big of a problem. Usually the trainers will approach me and ask me how I'm doing, and I explain my plan and what I'm doing already and by the time I'm done they say "Ok, cool! Let us know if you need anything!" I'm friendly with the gym staff I see (and I see most of them at some point or another). I fix their computers for them. :-D This one particular lady obviously hadn't heard, and that's ok. What irritated me was her waiting for her turn to speak instead of listening to what I was saying...and then mentioning 140 pounds like it was an unspeakably vulgar weight to be.
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Registered: 11-04-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 6:53pm

Oh my gosh.........she weighed 140 pounds once?

 

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