So...heartbroken(OT)

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Registered: 06-16-2003
So...heartbroken(OT)
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Sat, 03-20-2004 - 2:19pm
Roger quit my brother-in-law's restaurant yesterday at dinner rush..he walked out...of course my stupid bewitch sister called and told my dad that today, and now my dad is telling me to drop him and stuff. I know why he quit, and actually I told him over the phone yesterday to quit if he wanted b/c I hate my sister and BIL and I don't want to go over there anymore... but he was all "no...I'll never see you if I go back home.." But he quit and my brother-in-law said he isn't hiring him back again(this has happened before)....and he hasn't frikin called me yet...I don't know what in the heck is going on and I don't know if he is moving back...I don't know anything. I feel sick to my stomach....i should not feel like this all the time, but I do..but I don't want to break up, he usually makes me so happy and I love him so much...I just don't know where he planning to go in life and it scares me....he's all I have known for the last year and he is the first guy I've ever loved in my life...I am so lost right now...I am holding back from crying...

And I am so sorry I always bitch about my life to y'all...but I have more problems in my life and my health than anyone could ever fully understand and when they all pile up onto eachother at once, it become too much for me.

Sara

~Sayruhb02
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Sat, 03-20-2004 - 2:29pm

Im sorry to hear that things arent getting better Sara.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Sat, 03-20-2004 - 3:34pm
Sara,

I'm so sorry you're being torn between family and your boyfriend. I know how it feels. Just keep communication open and let him know that you're not mad at him (dbf) for quitting, it's his choice.

In the same breath though...it's hard to support your loved one when they quit too. I know. My dbf recently quit the oil rigs after working there for 10 years (give or take a year), he quit and walked away, he's now getting into welding. I was thinking to myself..."My god, you want to get married and start a family and you're making a career change at 31? It takes 4 years to be a welder!" but what came out of my mouth was..."No matter what you choose, I'll support you. Whatever makes you happy." I really meant it but at the same time you really want them to give their head a shake.

It's always good to vent about these things because if you don't, you'll keep it in and perhaps old habits will re-surface. I hope they don't and I really hope that you can keep your chin up. Try to think of the good things that may come of this.

Thinking of you!

~Dana

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Sat, 03-20-2004 - 5:54pm
(((((((((SARA))))))))))))

The one thing I never let my family do was say anything negative about my dh…or try to direct me and my decisions…. I wouldn’t have it… I do not know if I ever mentioned this on this board or not but dh is black I am white/Hispanic…. So there is a the whole race issue…. Here in Mississippi is where all of my “white” family live and most of them are still prejudice to a certain point for heavens sake my grandfather was a proud klansman one day one of my aunts was here and she actually said the “N” word…. I told her she is not to use that word in my house and if she choose not watch what she says she can leave and never return… now what they say or do in there house is there own business if I am there I can chose to listen or I can leave but I wont hear it in my house…. Or anything in regards to my relationship with dh …. Now the aunt that had said that her youngest daughter (19) just had a biracial baby I told her its about time she added a little color to her family lol….. Okay so only you can choose how you handle your own relationship with each person you deal with rather it be your b/f…dad…sister.. Anyone… you are a smart girl… capable on making decisions you can not let anyone tell you how to handle decisions advice maybe but if you ask for it and if they know the whole story…. I know you are probably feeling confused but you will work it out within yourself and don’t worry about always venting that’s what we are here for!!! Its not all about weightloss its about developing friendships in the same process… and if you ever just want to vent with out posting you can email me and I will listen but in return I get to vent to you about things too! Lol ever need it email me Desiree741@hotmail.com…. You always been a nice polite woman to me and I appreciate that best wishes !!! Take care and keep you head up!!
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Registered: 06-27-2003
Sun, 03-21-2004 - 8:27am

I have to agree with Shawna.


I thought I'd die when my first love left me for someone else. I didn't. I went on and now have a pretty nice job and a family. Life ain't always easy for me, but I'm glad I ended up where I am rather than with my first love. If I was still with him, I'd probally be living in a broken down

Deb 270/228/145ish  (updated 4/19/04. Next weigh-in: 6/1/04)