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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 12:54am
So is everyone on this board trying to lose 100lbs...or so? I am new to this message board and trying to just find people to relate to and have support since I don't have any friends and all of my family live half way across the country.

I am 22yrs old and I have always been overweight. When I was pregnant I actually lost quite a bit of weight since I only crave healthy things....and I wasn't eating far from healthy before....MCD's every single day! Well, eventually during the pregnancy I went back near my original weight and then about the day after I had my son I lost about 20-25lbs. I slowly put on a lb here and there until in one month I gained 30lbs! I didn't know that could happen!

Well, now I am at my highest weight ever and actually would kill to be what I was about 5 years ago....and I was still overweight then, but no where near what I am now. For my body type I need to be about 115 and that is over what the recomended weight should be, but that is normal for my body.....so that leaves me with 110lbs to lose! I never thought I would say that, but it is the truth and now it is scary since I just don't know what to do anymore.

I feel so alone and depressed (which has really been most of my life), but this time it feels different because I feel trapped in life that I hate and a body to match. It is hard not to be able to talk with anyone! I love to talk and even found myself calling my father because I was bored and knew that there was no one else to call......if you knew my dad, you would know that this was far from normal!!! I just feel like I am in a slump and keep getting deeper and deeper.

Diets confuse me because I don't know what to eat and what not to eat and even portion control isn't easy for me becuase I generally don't like more than one thing at a meal so I just eat alot of it instead of say 3-4 different things in smaller portions. I hate fish, soy, dairy, veggies and i get really burned out on fruit easily. i also stopped eating most beef and don't really care for pork. chicken is ok, but only like once a week or so. I don't know if anyone else is so picky, but my list can go on and on! I do try to eat some things that I know are better for me, but i get shakey and I need to eat something that won't let me get that way and that is another place where I get confused. I want to eat healthy and I want to lose weight but I am the kind of person that needs to follow guidelines like a diet, but need to be personalized since I have not found anything where I can use one of the suggested recipes due to the fact that I don't like any part of it!!!

Please, if anyone would talk to me I would really appreciate it! Right now I probably wouldn't seem like good company....but I just need something to lift my spirits you know????

Email me if you would like: BabyLiam1002@wmconnect.com

I would prefer email over these boards because they don't always load up on my computer for some reason and it takes me about 20 minutes to get to the replys. thank you.

heather

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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 1:13am
hey girl, i'm latasha and i'm fairly new to these boards also, i think i read your message on one of the other boards support buddies. i left you a message there read it. i hope it will be helpful. this is a great board full of support. leave me a message i love to talk and from what i see on some of the messeges the others here do too. so stick around.feel free to post me a message i'm game to talk.



hope to talk to you soon.

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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 1:38am
Hi Heather...

Well, you know, 110 pounds is an overwhelming number to look at. But you know what? It's not impossible. I myself have just lost 71 pounds. I have 70 more to go until my goal. That's 141 pounds. But I'm halfway there. I never thought I could do anything like that! I am amazed with myself.

It's a weird thing...calling it a journey always sounded cheesey to me but there's really no other way to describe it. You change. You learn about yourself. You wonder how you let yourself be so miserable so long. You find yourself becoming more comfortable in your own skin. I'm finding that as I am changing my body I am changing my soul and reclaiming my self. Instead of looking at myself as unworthy, I am seeing that I am worthy and I deserve this. Weight loss is just as much about the mental as it is the physical.

I'm sorry if this sounds so serious...I am really in a "deep" mood tonight...lol.

I guess I just want you to know that it is so empowering to accomplish this. I feel like I can do ANYTHING now. I have realized things about myself...how I used my weight to avoid going outside my comfort zone, etc. And that in itself has helped me stay on track...I don't want to miss out on things anymore.

I personally am doing the Atkins plan. If you haven't looked into low-carb I suggest picking up the book and reading it...or South Beach Diet too. I find it is really easy to follow. I was a fast food junky, bread fiend, veggie hating person myself. Now I still like some fast food...and bread I treat myself to a piece when it's fresh baked...as far as veggies: I have found my tastes are widening. I actually ate broccoli and liked it! lol. It's all a matter of finding ways to prepare it that make it palatable. I won't eat broccoli without cheese, for instance.

Anyway, good luck to you...I hope you can find a plan that works for you!

Sarah

Atkins since 8/25/03

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Sarah


 


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 9:12am

Hi there Heather!

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 9:21am
ditto to what everyone else has said, also:

several ladies here have gone to a nutritionist for a customized plan, she/he will help you choose healthy foods based on what you like. But as someone else said, try new fruits and vegetables, you will be pleasantly surprised!

Make one small change at a time. Drink 8 Cokes a day? Try cutting down gradually and replacing it with water.

Get active during the day whenever you can. I personally am terrible at this; I spend my time at the gym and the rest of my day completely unmoving in a chair. I try to take the stairs whenever I can and park far away so I can walk a little extra. Exercise will help you feel better while you are still sorting out your way of eating.

Finally, why not post a daily menu of what you eat, perhaps we can suggest small changes that you can make that won't seem too overwhelming.

Welcome to the boards!

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 8:16pm
Welcome, Heather! I can't really add anymore than the others did, but I did want to say that you came to the right place. These ladies have a lot of good ideas and we will help you as much as we can during this journey. Good luck :)

~~Linda

~~Linda

 

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Registered: 11-04-2003
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 9:06pm

Welcome to the boards Heather!