akkk

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akkk
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Mon, 03-29-2004 - 2:38pm
way too quiet on this board!!!! How am i not to go crazy with it being this quiet????

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Registered: 01-04-2004
In reply to: karrietex
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 3:02pm
I know this is frustrating, but if he really is busy, it might be worse if you call him now. I know, I've done that many times. I just end up getting more frustrated because he can't talk to me, and then I get pissed at myself for calling.

~~Linda

 

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Registered: 01-07-2004
In reply to: karrietex
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 3:05pm
i'm not going to call. I know that he is very busy so that would be bad of me....man here i am the wronged party adn i am still thinking about his needs. GRRRR. but I am telling him that I am leaving early and since i get horrid reception on my phone at the house he needs to call the house phone if he doesn't get a hold of me....hmm on second thought he needs to sweat a bit too.
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Registered: 01-04-2004
In reply to: karrietex
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 3:06pm
I sent that last message before I saw your latest message. I think it would be ok to call just to let him know you're leaving early. Just as long as you're not pushing the whole talking to him thing when he's busy.

Good luck!

~~Linda

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: karrietex
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 3:09pm

*passes Karrie a pill*

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Registered: 01-07-2004
In reply to: karrietex
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 3:15pm
Shawna...

tell me what you would be doing if you knew your hubby ignored your calls and spent 2 days with another woman including a night and then tells you he is confused?

the thing is i am not angry. i am more hurt and afraid than angry. i am more angry that the dork won't stop working for 5 seconds to tell me this is the plan for the evening.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: karrietex
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 3:30pm

LOL That is exactly the situation I was in actually.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Registered: 01-07-2004
In reply to: karrietex
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 3:37pm
I must say that I am not angry about it. I am just scared that I am about to lose him and it did hurt that he didn't call me and let me know. I would have been understanding about it and not angry. I just don't want to lose him. I have already decided that even if he did do the worse case that I am going to forgive it and fight for us.

Part of the fear is that I am going to have to speak my heart and that scares me enough to send me to the nut farm. It was hard enough trusting him completely in the beginning. Now I have to put that trust in action and at the same time tell him why I am scared.

I am plesantly surprised that there is no anger and that even during this whole mess I have been more worried about him than what he has done. Shows me that I care more than I thought.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: karrietex
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 3:46pm

I understand that.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Registered: 01-07-2004
In reply to: karrietex
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 4:02pm
True true...

If we are exclusive and it was said and understood then I would be walking away. But it is simply implied we are heading that way. I can't in good faith accuse him of cheating when we are not exclusive. However, I can tell him that if that did happen it will not happen again or I will be walking away and staying away.

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