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| Sun, 04-04-2004 - 10:54pm |
Do you ever secretly like a troll? I hate that sometimes I do. I said somethings I shouldn't have in response to the current trolly and then edited them. But lemme tell you, it was cathartic. I'm kinda stressed about these papers I need to have reviewed for tomorrow and my dad coming to visit overnight and needing the house clean. All of that frustration, whooosh, aimed at someone else. Makes no sense, but I feel cleansed now.
I'm weird, I know.
Erin


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But I want to be a lawyer, so maybe I'm twisted like that.
BTW, I've never heard the term Borg troll. I like it. I used to know a married couple in college who took all of their classes together and if one dropped a course the other would drop it too. We called them the borg. They didn't get it. Ahhh. I'm a dork.
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Do you ever secretly like a troll? I hate that sometimes I do. I said somethings I shouldn't have in response to the current trolly and then edited them. But lemme tell you, it was cathartic. I'm kinda stressed about these papers I need to have reviewed for tomorrow and my dad coming to visit overnight and needing the house clean. All of that frustration, whooosh, aimed at someone else. Makes no sense, but I feel cleansed now.
I'm weird, I know.
Erin"
Now let me comment. Weird, yes. Do you know Ted Bundy got a cathartic release after attacking his victims? Do you know the Columbine killers said the same thing? Yes, this is verbal....but what you are describing is a "cathartic release" after you attack others. It does sound "weird" and sick, even.
Last night on the news there was some discussion about school-yard behavior, both verbal violence and physical, and what the school systems are doing to build self esteem in the kids who bully others. The psychologist said that when people act the way you are describing it's always, always a self-esteem issue. And the people who feel stressed out and take out their frustration, aimed at someone else (as you say you do) are people who really have no self respect, no self esteem....and, the reason according to the psychologist, is because the bully has no sense of self-direction in life. He (or she) just goes around lashing out at others because he has no direction and flailing about is all he CAN do. In the case of the schools, they are trying to give these troubled kids some sense of direction, through developing "interests" which hopefully will lead to some successes in life, and then the kids will build their own self-esteem.
If it works for kids.....how about for adults. Is this attacking others, and then getting the release you describe, because of no self-respect, no self-esteem, and is it flailing about rather than really confronting and solving the personal problem of weight control, or lack of some other direction in life?
I'm not a shrink, but what you describe.....the release you say you feel when your frustration builds up.....so you attack others for release......well, that's exactly what Ted Bundy and any host of serial killers, and other "psychopaths" we've all studied in school all describe as happening. And yes, you nailed it.....it is WEIRD. And it can't be very comfortable to live that way.
Good luck to you, in solving your problem and finding better and healthier ways to achieve that "release." But this is sick.
But yes, it's fact that self-esteem and self worth (the lack thereof) are tied to those playground behaviors and, worse case scenario, to far more serious manifestations which we unfortunately read about.
To answer your question, no I'm not here for venting. I'm here because I have an interest in the topic of obesity and some time this evening. And as far as this "fake name" charge of yours goes.....it's childish of you.
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