so I have a question...
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| Fri, 04-09-2004 - 2:34pm |
Why is there so much animosity toward "skinny people" on this board?
I don't understand why people have no problem saying how snotty and judgemental skinny people are when they are being just as snotty and judgemental *toward* skinny people.
Why do you hate what you want to become? how do you know that skinny person isn't a formerly fat person? How do you know they are looking at you disgusted?
I know it's hard to imagine but skinny people have just as many body issues as fat people. It took me a long time to realize that...for a long time I wanted to smack the girls that said, "I hate this belly" as they lifted their shirt to reveal a perfectly fine "belly". But as women, we are taught to aim for unattainable perfection that doesn't exist.
I just think it's funny that so many people have a problem with skinny people when it is our goal to become "skinny".
JMHO...
Sarah

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It doesn't mean I didn't have to deal with changing my way of eating and basically rethinking my lifestyle - very much like what many of you on this board are trying to do, what a surprise!
One problem that I continue to deal with is a lack of self esteem. If you saw me on the street, at the gym...I wonder how many of you would think "skinny bitch" and turn up her nose? From reading your posts, many of you have waaay more confidence in your body than I have right now. I may have a "killer body", but I haven't learned to love it yet. I'm getting there.
So what am I doing here? I'm not sure. I like the posts here. I like most of the regulars here very much. I would like to help people along their weight loss journey.
good post, thanks.
>>I just think it's funny that so many people have a problem with skinny people when it is our goal to become "skinny".<<
I agree with you 100%
I was talking to dh about it the other night and he thought it was weird too. I guess I just don't get why people have to have someone to "hate". It's such a waste of energy.
Sarah
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I agree! Nice meeting you Sarah, and good talking to you about this.
First let me say that I am not in any way "blasting" you about
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I not only think she's not "out of line" (as you say) but rather "courageous for bringing it up" (as I say) but I also think she's brought up something which, if solved, can really help others to reach their goal weight here. It's a valid question. There have been several posts attacking "skinny people" (not your "trolls" but imaginary enemies out there in the real world) as well as strangers coming onto the board. She brings up a valid point when she says, Why is it necessary to hate someone?
Is it anger with the self (for gaining weight, or something else) that it's simply easier to direct outward at some imaginary enemy? I wonder about that. But when she says it's silly to hate....she's right. Every bit of anger takes energy, and whether you are jousting at windmills by attacking new posters, labeling people you don't know "trolls," or attacking skinny people (the "bite me" thread for one)....it's all useless energy which could be better spent in discussing ways to get one's own weight under control.
The board shouldn't be someplace to vent (someone wrote about feeling better after attacking "trolls")...it should be a place where grown up women, and men perhaps, could come together for a few minutes a day to discuss our common issues. How are we going about reaching our weight goals? How can we lend each other a hand? NOT....how can we have fun attacking someone we label as "different" whether because they are "skinny" or for whatever reason.
I'm sorry, I respectfully disagree with you. The OP was not out of line, but she was right on target. And I think the board should thank her, sincerely, for bringing something out into the open which gets in the way of reaching that common goal of achieving health.
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