so I have a question...
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| Fri, 04-09-2004 - 2:34pm |
Why is there so much animosity toward "skinny people" on this board?
I don't understand why people have no problem saying how snotty and judgemental skinny people are when they are being just as snotty and judgemental *toward* skinny people.
Why do you hate what you want to become? how do you know that skinny person isn't a formerly fat person? How do you know they are looking at you disgusted?
I know it's hard to imagine but skinny people have just as many body issues as fat people. It took me a long time to realize that...for a long time I wanted to smack the girls that said, "I hate this belly" as they lifted their shirt to reveal a perfectly fine "belly". But as women, we are taught to aim for unattainable perfection that doesn't exist.
I just think it's funny that so many people have a problem with skinny people when it is our goal to become "skinny".
JMHO...
Sarah

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Actually, one of the skinny bashing posts that I took offense to was posted by one of the regulars.
Coffee
I am not going to name names.
You mean the one in this thread? So I can take you off the list of supporters to the OP? That was my point, that the author of the OP thought you were one of the supporters to her post.
That's fine, but it still doesn't change what I said in my post:
You are new to this board. I've seen your name before and I already knew you weren't new to iVillage.
Oh, come on! A regular poster to the Hot Topics Board, and one who came to this board specifically to follow the troll
Coffee
:)
I feel that when you bash an individual or a group, it can stem from lack of empathy, lack of understanding, general prejudice, or fear. I have seen both sides of this at work, for instance the Victoria's Secret girl (who was SKINNY) giving me the lip curl, hairy eyeball and huff. She saw me as FAT, and EATING CHOCOLATE. How dare I ? She can't, because SHE WOULD END UP LIKE ME. (Personally, one of me is enough.)
I see alot of fat people under the delusion that skinny people are perfect, happy, and smug with their approach to life because they are skinny. That they get everything they want. That life always works out for them.
I see alot of skinny people who look upon fat people as loathsome, ugly, slow, dirty, unworthy of their attention, and obviously not happy.
Neither of these assumptions is correct.
I think it all comes down to attitude. I feel that this goes on more with women that men, because most men don't give a flying fig (ever seen one of THOSE? Pretty impressive.)
about what others think of them.
And skinny people do have image issues. Can you imagine the pressure to constantly (if it doesn't come naturally) to stay that way ?
And fat people feel helpless sometimes if they are really overweight because the loss process takes so long. It seems to be a vicious circle of "I can't do it, I'm not seeing results fast enough, I'll never look like __________, so why bother."
Anyone besides me ever feel this way ? Not sure if anyone was wondering about the "Bite Me" post - THAT was not reference to just skinny people, just people on their high horse about how wonderful they are. And don't you wish you could be like them.
Next time someone gives you a disapproving look, try this - lean towards them, squint a bit while looking at their face, and proclaim (not too quietly) that they have a booger in their nose.
If someone asks if you've gained/lost weight (and it smells of insincerity towards your well-being)wait three seconds, smile, look them in the eye and reply "Why do you want to know ?"
Both tactics have wonderful results. Try it sometime. Also, eating Whoppers and shaking your ass at salespeople in VS is very empowering also.
Ok, stepping down from said soapbox. I wish Vox was back. I really value her posts/insight. I think she needs to be a CL.
Amy
Then I can't help you. If you have a gripe with a post, you should gripe
Coffee
You asked me who/which post it was, and because I am OVER IT, I am not going to tell you.
Case closed.
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