so I have a question...

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so I have a question...
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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 2:34pm
And I'll probably get blasted and all that but I have to ask.

Why is there so much animosity toward "skinny people" on this board?

I don't understand why people have no problem saying how snotty and judgemental skinny people are when they are being just as snotty and judgemental *toward* skinny people.

Why do you hate what you want to become? how do you know that skinny person isn't a formerly fat person? How do you know they are looking at you disgusted?

I know it's hard to imagine but skinny people have just as many body issues as fat people. It took me a long time to realize that...for a long time I wanted to smack the girls that said, "I hate this belly" as they lifted their shirt to reveal a perfectly fine "belly". But as women, we are taught to aim for unattainable perfection that doesn't exist.

I just think it's funny that so many people have a problem with skinny people when it is our goal to become "skinny".

JMHO...

Sarah

Sarah


 


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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 10:09pm

I did not follow this troll here. Perhaps it was before your time but we had a certain poster on here, the atkins board, and ask the healthy eating expert who "made it". To avoid tos violation I will not type her entire name(S) but she was a patriotic "pie" and managed to lose 100 lbs in 4 months. Allegedly. This was 6-9 months ago and she is most certainly not the current troll who is on this board, the writing styles are not even similar. But she gave us fits on atkins with her "cardiologist" husband. Let's just say it was fascinating reading as she stormed through the boards.


No, I think we are talking about the same poster. I know exactly who you are talking about (it's not before my time...I've been on iVillage since early 2000) and I've always gone on the assumption that this one is that one reincarnate. Someone who's been following

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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 10:21pm
I find calling my credibility into question, bringing in another post which was not relevant, and talking about me in a third-party conspiritorial way to be mean-spirited. No, it was not a post directed at me, however, I do not appreciate being lumped together with your group of, let's call it what I think you would have titled it..." idiots who agree with you are..." And just because I am "skinny" now (even though that is NOT what I see in the mirror) does not mean I am incabable of supporting or understanding whatever weight loss goals people have.
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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 10:22pm
well i just got home and decided to hop on here. I am disgusted.i hope i misinterpreted things, which is seems a lot people did.

To say that a new poster followed a 'troll' come on that same poster hasn't been on in awhilke are they following the troll too?

I think we had TOTAL different interpretations of the OP.. one says "Why are you bashing skinny people since you should be looking up to them?" that is in no way what i got. I got Sarah saying why say skinny in a bad way? everyone's the same and has same insecurities.

I am saying again what's the differnce between skinny people and overweight besides their weight? A few posts make it seem like all thin people are arrogant and rude but i know plenty of overweight people that act that way. I think it's wrong to put down skinny people,just as i think it's wrong to put down overweight people. and to call me a basher well whoever said that HOW DARE YOU! I try to be supportive on this board and if i can't understand or find some empathy for a post i just don't reply.





Edited 4/9/2004 10:29 pm ET ET by angelinoh

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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 10:27pm
Hi, was this post directed to me? Or was it just that I was the last one on? I couldn't agree with you more, all women should unite! We could move the world if we would stop bashing each other over everything. That said, I will not lie down and take insults from anyone which I feel has happened to me the last couple of days. Have a great weekend all.
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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 10:32pm

Whew! Is it heavy? That chip you carry around on your shoulder? You are making amazing leaps from my posts...things I hadn't even thought of. Dang!


I guess we're just going to have to agree to disagree and move on. I still don't see all that. You can't get me to say that how you're interpreting my posts is how I meant them, because it just isn't so. *shrug*


Calling your credibility into question? (I explained the "bringing in another post which was not relevant.") Third-party conspiracy? Wow. I had to chuckle over your title to my post, though. Heh heh.






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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 10:34pm
i just replied to the last message..lol..just summed up what i could remember i was thinking while reading all the posts. This is usually a good board hopefully people just misunderstood things. All i know is i took a lot of posts in a bad way but could be my interpretation. who knows we'll see how this weekend goes
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Sat, 04-10-2004 - 7:31am
Ya'll this is getting ridiculous...and really(coffee not to you I just chose to reply after yours) if you have an issue ask me.

I was not bashing those who are a skinnier weight and I explained it rather well what was meant. My whole point is there are those who are obsessed with being thin and they will bash, manipulate, bully, etc someone to get to that notion they have of what skinny and/or natural weight is.

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Sat, 04-10-2004 - 7:34am
yes thank you and i explained what i meant.
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Sat, 04-10-2004 - 10:55am

Sarah,


I'm a little upset and embarrassed

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Sat, 04-10-2004 - 11:30am
I need to jump in here, I have a BF who lost 65lbs a few years ago and she is 5'3 and weighs 120, she wants to be 105 because of her height. Now, we have been dieting together for years but she honestly looks at herself as FAT, I am not even joking you. She will sit down with me and actually cry and say she is so ugly and her stomach ahngs over her jeans. She has very low self esteem and that comes from her child hood and her parents never saying she looked nice or she was pretty and I mean that, her parents are nuts. She is such a nice person and would never judge or look down on someone for what they looked like. I just want to say that she has many friends at work that are overweight and they love her so I really do not know if heavy people dislike skinny people when nor her nor I have ever encountered that, granted we are very loving, kind people and I know how hard the struggle is and my past does not help the situation.

Point is, skinny, fat, average we all have struggles in life, the struggles may be different but they are all struggles.

Just because you lose weight does not mean you have instant self esteem, thats something that you may have have to work on as long as you work on your weight. She has to watch what she eats or she will gain it all back so YES she struggles everyday....

The next time you judge someone because of they way they work, stop and think that they could be a nice, kind person and they may have been overweight once in their life....