so I have a question...
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| Fri, 04-09-2004 - 2:34pm |
Why is there so much animosity toward "skinny people" on this board?
I don't understand why people have no problem saying how snotty and judgemental skinny people are when they are being just as snotty and judgemental *toward* skinny people.
Why do you hate what you want to become? how do you know that skinny person isn't a formerly fat person? How do you know they are looking at you disgusted?
I know it's hard to imagine but skinny people have just as many body issues as fat people. It took me a long time to realize that...for a long time I wanted to smack the girls that said, "I hate this belly" as they lifted their shirt to reveal a perfectly fine "belly". But as women, we are taught to aim for unattainable perfection that doesn't exist.
I just think it's funny that so many people have a problem with skinny people when it is our goal to become "skinny".
JMHO...
Sarah

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No, I think we are talking about the same poster. I know exactly who you are talking about (it's not before my time...I've been on iVillage since early 2000) and I've always gone on the assumption that this one is that one reincarnate. Someone who's been following
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To say that a new poster followed a 'troll' come on that same poster hasn't been on in awhilke are they following the troll too?
I think we had TOTAL different interpretations of the OP.. one says "Why are you bashing skinny people since you should be looking up to them?" that is in no way what i got. I got Sarah saying why say skinny in a bad way? everyone's the same and has same insecurities.
I am saying again what's the differnce between skinny people and overweight besides their weight? A few posts make it seem like all thin people are arrogant and rude but i know plenty of overweight people that act that way. I think it's wrong to put down skinny people,just as i think it's wrong to put down overweight people. and to call me a basher well whoever said that HOW DARE YOU! I try to be supportive on this board and if i can't understand or find some empathy for a post i just don't reply.
Edited 4/9/2004 10:29 pm ET ET by angelinoh
Whew! Is it heavy? That chip you carry around on your shoulder? You are making amazing leaps from my posts...things I hadn't even thought of. Dang!
I guess we're just going to have to agree to disagree and move on. I still don't see all that. You can't get me to say that how you're interpreting my posts is how I meant them, because it just isn't so. *shrug*
Calling your credibility into question? (I explained the "bringing in another post which was not relevant.") Third-party conspiracy? Wow. I had to chuckle over your title to my post, though. Heh heh.
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I was not bashing those who are a skinnier weight and I explained it rather well what was meant. My whole point is there are those who are obsessed with being thin and they will bash, manipulate, bully, etc someone to get to that notion they have of what skinny and/or natural weight is.
Sarah,
I'm a little upset and embarrassed
Coffee
Point is, skinny, fat, average we all have struggles in life, the struggles may be different but they are all struggles.
Just because you lose weight does not mean you have instant self esteem, thats something that you may have have to work on as long as you work on your weight. She has to watch what she eats or she will gain it all back so YES she struggles everyday....
The next time you judge someone because of they way they work, stop and think that they could be a nice, kind person and they may have been overweight once in their life....
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