so I have a question...
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| Fri, 04-09-2004 - 2:34pm |
Why is there so much animosity toward "skinny people" on this board?
I don't understand why people have no problem saying how snotty and judgemental skinny people are when they are being just as snotty and judgemental *toward* skinny people.
Why do you hate what you want to become? how do you know that skinny person isn't a formerly fat person? How do you know they are looking at you disgusted?
I know it's hard to imagine but skinny people have just as many body issues as fat people. It took me a long time to realize that...for a long time I wanted to smack the girls that said, "I hate this belly" as they lifted their shirt to reveal a perfectly fine "belly". But as women, we are taught to aim for unattainable perfection that doesn't exist.
I just think it's funny that so many people have a problem with skinny people when it is our goal to become "skinny".
JMHO...
Sarah

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I must say that is a huge falacy. I am overweight but my self esteem is in tact. I know who I am and I know what I will become. I am a beautiful person and no one can take it from me.
YOU HAVE TO LOVE WHO YOU ARE ON THE INSIDE TO CHANGE THE PACKAGE ON THE OUTSIDE.
Now to all this question about bashing, I am saying this once more and I believe I will bow out of the threads that are discussing this. I am not nor will I ever look down on someone who is skinny or who might be a bight more fluffy than they like. I WILL PITY (for the lack of a better word) INDIVIDUALS WHO THINK THAT THEY HAVE TO GET SMALLER AND SMALLER TO FIT SOME MISGUIDED CONCEPTION ON BEAUTY AND I WILL LOOK DOWN ON THOSE WHO THINK THEY CAN BULLY OR TALK SOMEONE ELSE TO GET ON THAT HORRID RIDE OF BODY IMAGE GONE BAD.
It is rather sad that women have allowed such a self defeating and destructive attitude to permiate their thinking. An example, I had a friend who was a size 0. On a good day she was maybe 115. She allowed one person to point out GASP love handles, and the dieting craze hit. If you could become smaller than a 0 she got herself there. That my friend is sad and there is more of an issue here than weight. It is an issue of self and that should be dealt with.
Personally, I would pity the person who ever tired to bully me or try to make me into a cookie cutter image. My image is already predetermined and there is nothing anyone can do about it.
So far your supporters have been:
a person who jumped in on the bashing
a skinny person
a new poster who is "skinny" and who first posted yesterday to debate the seat belt issue and then went on to debate the "skinny bashing" post
the troll itself
Bottom Line-
i find the whole list condensending expecially from someone who i only see on this board when 'trolls' are. Sarah is a supportive person on this board she simply asked a question stated HER feelings and even put JMHO, for people to put her down for her opinions aren't supportive, she didn't name names.
You were the first in my list,
I was referring to your post:
re:
Coffee
GUYS!
To : ALL
STOPITSTOPITSTOPITSTOPITSTOPITSTOPITSTOPIT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Can we all just DROP THIS please ? What started out as a misunderstanding has
totally put a bug in everyone's butt and we need to stop sniping at each other
and just move on.
This thread is turning into the Obesity post from a few months ago on Hot Topics on Parents Soup. There is just way too much arguing here and it takes alot to get me riled up, but we are wasting each others time trying to one up each other and prove a point.
Can we all agree to disagree please and move on to something besides trolls, no trolls, sh*tty attitudes and preconceived notions ?
Thank You.
And Dexter in the wheel is too freakin' cute ! I can't take it !!!!!
Amy
Wow...
Okay. In my own defense, the intent of my OP was to bring attention to the fact that it seems that some people on this board (not all, and I apologize if that was how it was interpreted) seem to have a problem with people who don't have a weight problem. It was to point out that not everyone who is "skinny" (used for lack of a better term) has a problem with fat people.
I knew this was going to cause some controversy and I am not sorry for asking it but I am sorry to see that an honest question has been met with some very defensive answers. I didn't mean to offend anyone at all.
I know that not all skinny people are healthy or fit. That wasn't the point of the question...someone said something about not necessarily being here to get skinny but to get healthy...I guess I just assumed everyone was here to lose 100+ pounds and in the process get healthy too. I'm not trying to be defensive about that but it seemed like a weird thing to mention. I know it's not all about "being skinny"...but let's be honest, most of us want to be, right? I know I do!
I didn't mean "look up to" skinny people...I meant, don't bash them because you don't know why they're skinny or how they're skinny. They could be a formerly fat person. The only people you should look up to are people who you respect, whether they are fat or skinny or just average.
It just seems that lately there's a lot of "skinny bashing" going on whether it's aimed at one person or skinny people in general. I agree that this is a place to vent but I think that maybe it just bothers me that people use the term "skinny" like it's an offensive thing to be. I realize that, yes, some skinny people ARE rude to fat people. And that really has nothing to do with weight, it's personality. Everyone has a right to their opinion though and if being skinny is offensive to you then so be it. I can't change how you feel. I just don't think being skinny is a bad thing.
I am sorry if it seemed like I was lumping everyone together by saying "on this board"...to me that was a nicer way of putting it than pointing my finger at specific posts. Which by the way, I will not do because as I said before everyone is entitled to their opinion. I'm not really offended by any particular post...it was just an observation.
I think that maybe *I'm* scared because when I lose the rest of this weight I don't want people to look at me and think "skinny b**ch". It's really not a fair thing to say or think about someone because you don't know where they've been. And maybe that's my own insecurity. I realize that not everyone is to the point that they understand that ALL WOMEN HAVE BODY ISSUES and maybe that's why I get frustrated...because I forget that. It has taken me a long time and I shouldn't expect that everyone else in the world is there too. (that was not meant to be condescending, btw...I just don't know how to word it better!).
Anyway...that's all I can remember that I wanted to post...lol.
Hugs to all...
Sarah
276/203/135 and 70" lost
Edited 4/12/2004 6:24 pm ET ET by suamomi
Sarah
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