QOTW! Weight Loss Affecting Family?

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QOTW! Weight Loss Affecting Family?
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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 10:24pm
Has your weight loss affected your family members or significant other?
 

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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 11:12pm
ok stupid Q but what is QOTW? ok duh question of the week..i figured it out myself..dang i'm good..haha

anyhow back to the Q..lol..the other people it really affects is my mom's dogs caus they get walked a lot now =) and my dd caus we do more now. I know it will affect my self esteem because i'll feel better about myself and my mom caus she'll be asked to watch dd more so i can go out..LOL..but other than that i don't think anything will be affected but who knows.


Edited 4/13/2004 11:14 pm ET ET by angelinoh

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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 11:56pm
Well...I've been noticing some insecurities of old coming out in my dh. When we first got married he was always freaking out and every time we had an argument he'd ask if I was going to leave him. He used to also accuse me of cheating without actually saying it outright ("Were you working late with so and so?" that type of thing).

So it's not as bad now and it diminished greatly the more weight I gained. Now that I've lost so much weight he's been asking if I'm going to leave him when I'm skinny. Or he'll ask if I'll want to be seen with a fat guy ince I've reached my goal. it pisses me off to be honest! But we've discussed it recently and resolved some things...it was a really hard conversation to have but it was necessary.

So yes, it is affecting him a lot.

The rest of my family is so supportive (half of them are on weight loss plans too and are losing weight...but so far I'm the biggest loser...lol).

I think the one relationship I have trouble with is my SIL who has tried Atkins over and over (that's what I'm following) and always goes off plan. It's hard to share my success with her because I feel like she's bitter toward me for being successful sometimes...but she's pretty supportive too...it's just hard to tell if it's sincere support or polite support. I really only share my accomplishments if she asks.

And as for my daughter...well, she's loving the fact that i get out and play with her and chase her around outside and have more energy. She "taught" me how to do somersaults today (she's 3) after I showed her a cartwheel and she got frustrated because she couldn't do it. We had so much fun but let me tell you...it's a lot harder to do when you're not so little anymore...I did one and that was it for me! lol.

Sarah

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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 2:01am
Mel's weight loss has affected me and my family alot. Our pantry and fridge is full of low/no fat food and low/no carb food. I have never eaten so much meat without potatoes in my life. She was crankey as hell and having carb withdrawal, and new clothes arn't cheap.

Now that I got the negative stuff out of the way here are the positive things.

She gets a gleam in her eye when she reaches a goal, I notice and mention it to her and her glow becomes a bit brighter. Each time it puts her in a better mood, in turn it puts me in a better mood and it becomes a nice cycle. Her energy is increasing and for once I don't get yelled at for walking too fast when we go shopping. The kids see her exercise and want to do the same. Her exercising inspires me to keep in shape for the National Guard. (when you're 90% civilian it's easy to slack off) I no longer get asked "Do you hate me cause I'm too fat?".

All in all it has made positive changes for all of us.

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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 4:19am
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Family members - this is the first time in YEARS, almost a decade, that I have weighed less that either of my parents. My dad is 6'1 and 175, mom is 5'3 and 170. Today, I weighed 167.5 (more on that later). I remember about eight years ago I weighed around 180, and so did my dad. I was shocked to realize I weighed as much as an adult male. I felt a little weird abvout that. My parents and step-parents (one of each flavor) are thrilled and very impressed that I've shaved off so much weight. I know they love me at any size, but the disappointment(well-disguised or not) was always a sore spot with me. It was like, "Hey, I KNOW I look bad. Don't make me feel any worse that I already do." I have not seen my dad in a while, he lives in MA and we try to see each other a few time s a year. He won't even recognize me, I swear.

Signifigant Other - Well, the boyfriend previous to my darling Kyle made a comment to me one day that made me aware of how easy it would be to strangle someone. Slowly.

As he held my hips and shook them, he looked at me and said, " Know why I like the fat ones ? No other guys ever look at them and you'll be less tempted to cheat on me. You're not hot enough to get someone better than me."

I swear to GOD he said that. And let me tell you, I really had to try and keep it together and not physically assault him, 'cause I could kill 'ya with a number two pencil if I wanted to ( I love my job. The people I work with are INSANE).

I was startled, affronted, disgusted, offended...but I had such horrible self esteem I BELIEVED HIM and stayed with him for a few more months. How insecure can a guy be to say that?

Until Kyle, who thought I was hot even at 265, because he liked who I WAS. He has been my biggest supporter and said to me tonight, " Honey, I hope you get down to 150, or 140, or whatever you want, because you'll be SMOKIN' STUPID HOT and you DESERVE it. You have worked so hard for so long and I just want you to be jacked about how you look ."

He always has something nice to say and comes up and grabs me and grunts (?!?!) When we get dressed up and go out, he has this look on his face that says 'yeah, that's right. I'm with HER!'

One of the reasons I think the weight is finally coming off is that I am so comfortable in my own skin and feel that I have a rock-solid relationship and don't have to use food as a substitute for what I'm not getting out of life.

Myself - My weight loss has affected me in a lot of different ways. I noticed I am treated VERY differently now, even at work. Since I have been employed here I have lost 45 pounds. The guys have noticed. On my Bday I came in to pick up my paycheck and breezed in in my jeans, boots, velvet burnout v-neck top (with, AHEM, the 'girls' partially on display)and I walked right by an officer and lieutenant WHOM I SEE ON A DAILY BASIS and they had to ask who I was. I was getting feedback for days about my appearance. It makes you feel good, it really does. Clothes fit me differently, my body is changing shape, getting firmer, and what I find most refreshing is I am not constantly plagued with the skipping record in my head 'How do I look ? Do I look fat?'

I forget sometimes that I'm not still 265. I haven't got used to my (foreign) body yet.

Amy 265/180/167.5/160-150ish.

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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 8:02am
Has your weight loss affected your family members or significant other? In what ways do you expect it will?


Since I am just beginning it hasn't had any affect on family YET. I know that it will definately be positive. DH is supportive and encouraging which is a big help. Since I'm eating healthier, DH & my 3 boys will also be eating healthier which is a big plus. I'm also hoping that I can be an inspiration to DH to become a "loser" too. He keeps saying that he needs to so hopefully we can do it together. I think the biggest affect it will have is on my self esteem which will have a big affect on other areas of my life.

Patty

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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 9:16am
wooooo is this Rob????

Cause if it is...nice to meet you boy

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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 2:15pm
so what about you Rely, any affects?

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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 2:30pm
Well, since I seem to have adopted this board because I think it is fun, I will hop in here. I reached a high of 186 between the births of my 2nd and 3rd children. I managed to lose 24 lbs just by living life and because I was busy. I got serious about losing last July and have dropped 32 more pounds so now I am at 130. Anyways, my little story about how this has affected my relationships is funny. I was at an Easter party and my own mother didn't recognize me. She kept asking my husband where I was, he kept pointing me out, and she still couldn't recognize me...MY OWN MOTHER. Granted I had just gone from dark brunette to blond but still. I think overall it has had a positive affect on all of my relationships. KSAS
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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 3:57pm
Well, so far changing my lifestyle has shown that DH is incredibly supportive. I'm sure as more pounds melt off, and DH finally has his 2nd knee surgery, we'll be able to be more active. I'm looking forward to going hiking with DH and our two pups this summer! One other noteable change - purchasing a Balance Ball seemed to give DH some *interesting* ideas...LOL!

Shannon

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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 7:48pm

No huge ones yet, but there is one thing that I kinda feel bad about but enjoy too.........it's weird.

 

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