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| Wed, 04-14-2004 - 8:07pm |
Anyways…….. I was going through my sons papers and I found one of them it was a little nostalgic for me to see one I haven’t in so many years…..so I put my finger in it and count blah blah I open it up to read the sayings and almost fell out of my chair!! One said “you’re a queer” another one said “flip off the principle” one said “F--- OFF” and the other one which made me extremely P-od is “drink milk from a girls T----y” now I know my son didn’t write it I know his writing and even tho he is 8 he is what they call developmentally delayed he yet cant read or write very well….. So I asked him where he got it he said a friend gave it to him… I forced him to tell me who so he did…. I told him I was taking it to the principle tomorrow he begged me not to because this kid wont like him anymore if he gets in trouble…. But I have to…. don’t I? I mean I know how tough it is in school and it can be torture if you get on someone’s bad side…. Especially someone that’s in a higher grade…. I really wish I can home school but there is no possible way right now I don’t know what to do…. Dh says leave it alone because Nate cant read it anyway but it still isn’t right…any suggestions?
Des~

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This is a toughie....I was JUST thinking the other day how tough and nasty kids act at school but you seem to grow out of it after you graduate...I was picked on horribly as a child, and if it were me, I'd WANT to take it to the principal, but would not want to make school social situations harder for your son, either.
Maybe because you son didn't know what the papers said (and , BTW, you did a great job of describing them - I knew what you were referring to !) and maybe inquire a bit more into this particular child and your son's relationship with him before you go to the principal with it. Tell your son to just throw these things away, but if the boy pressures him, just bring them home and give them directly to you.
I would maybe hold off until it happens again, and maybe it was an isolated incident. And reassure your son that friends like these he would be better off without.
Sorry I can't be of more help...This is a hard spot to be in...keep us posted.
Amy
I agree with Amy, this is a toughie.
Hmm
Hope this helps!
Faith
Sorry this is so late..Ive been a bad poster of late..but my opinion is to talk to their teacher and explain what you found aqnd that you'd like her to keep en eye on them etc..I think someone else said the same thing. And be your childs biggest advocate and cheerleader..make sure he knows this isnt acceptable and it is very nasty and you dont approve..most little boys will do anything to look good in mommies eyes . My son is 10..one day he came home with one of those things you are talking aout and in one of them it said "you will crap your pants" well crap isnt a bad word IMO but my son was SOOOO embarrassed and very defensive explaining that he didnt write it . It was funny how he didnt want to be thought of as "bad"
AnywaY...I hope this situation doesnt get your child into trouble with his "friend" but I wouldnt want my kid hanging around someone like that..yikes..its so scary you have to censor your 8 yos buddies man o man . GOOD luck sweety let us know what happens
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