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| Sun, 04-18-2004 - 11:38am |
Yesterday, I went to lunch with my tennis buddies after our matches. 5 women, 1 man. All the women (except me) are on weight watchers, so they were analyzing everything in terms of points. 3 points for this, 5 points for that. Then they started talking about the weight they are losing. One had lost 20 lbs, another 8 and so on. I'm the heaviest one in the bunch. I'm also not on a "diet" and I haven't lost the pounds they have. So I sat there, feeling so left out, and feeling like I should be doing something, like Atkins, WW, Jenny Craig, SOMETHING. But I know myself. I'll get on one of those diets and for maybe as long as 2 weeks, I'll be Mrs. Diet Queen. Obsessed with everything going into my mouth, every food allowed in the house, and pretty much make my hubby miserable. And I don't want that obession. Isn't eating suppose to be enjoyable?? Is food the enemy??
What do y'all think?? And what would you do in this situation?? I just sat there feeling guilty for the chips I was eating and not even aware of the points I was consuming.
((HUGS))
lori

Hi there Lori =)
It is weird to be in that situation, though.
Erin
Mom
If i was in the situation i would give positive feedback to those who needed it, as you know losing is hard. on this board if we only gave feedback,welcomed and talked to the people that were on our personal plans then some posts wouldn't have any and others would have lots.
the goal is lose weight not get everyone on the same plan. You didn't say anything about them pressuring you to get into WW so don't understand why you had trouble with it. if you are on a plan you could talk about yours.
"And I don't want that obession. Isn't eating suppose to be enjoyable?? Is food the enemy??" well for most people it's what got them overweight and until they get in the mindset of how to eat correctly how can that person lose and keep it off?
Good points on changing the subject!! Should've done something, b/c it caused me to eat a lot more chips than I would've. Emotional eating, that's me!!!
((HUGS))
Lori
I think I'm like you, I can't see myself obsessing over points, carbs or calories. This works for a lot of people, but it never worked for me. I would do it for a few days, maybe even a week, then I would just get too frustrated and quit. I do try to read labels and make sure that what I'm eating is healthy. I also try to watch my portion sizes and not eat unless I'm truly hungry. I also exercise 4-5 times a week and drink lots of water. I took small steps, changing a few things at a time so that I wouldn't be overwhelmed. I'm still working on a lot of things, like the portion control and not eating unless I'm truly hungry, but I have made some small changes that have added up. Since the beginning of the year, I've lost 21 pounds. Now I know that this approach doesn't work for everyone, since everyone's different, but if you don't like the idea of counting calories or points like me, maybe it's something to think about. Oh, and I also don't deprive myself. I've actually learned to have just a small piece of chocolate or something when I really want it. I also believe that food should be enjoyed. I think it just takes some learning how to enjoy it without going overboard.
Good luck and come out of lurkdom more often! Together we will figure out what works best for us and we'll all become losers :-)
~~Linda
~~Linda