New around here, BUT...

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Registered: 04-20-2004
New around here, BUT...
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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 6:52pm
I've lurked for a while. I'm really not so sure what all this "troll" business has been about. It seems to me that we all are entitled to our own free speech. I don't want to ruffle anyone's feathers, but I think it goes too far. I'd like to come here for support and advice from ALL types of people, and hopefully none of you will decide to label me a troll.

I think some of Forte's messages have been dismissed out of hand in spite of holding good advice or support, because some people have decided she is "troll"ish. I would like help from anywhere I can get it.

I don't mean to sound like anyone's mother. I just hope I get some positive responses, and some helpful ideas on how to lose a large amount of weight. Thanks!

Abby

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Registered: 08-23-2001
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 4:13pm
I never said I didn't like it here. I value the support of EVERYONE here.

I am saying that I believe that some people have responded to the cruel posts with posts that are just as cruel.

We all talk about ignoring but it doesn't seem to be happening.

Sorry Ivy if i've offended you. It's just my opinion and we can disagree civily, right?

Sarah

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Registered: 04-14-2004
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 4:13pm
Shawna, I hope you won't let the stupid antics of a few keep you away for long. You are a valuable asset to this board and are a great inspiration.

**HUGS**, and hope to see you soon!

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 4:17pm
Ivy...

I believe I am in agreement with you.

I can seriously say that the majority of the nastiness is coming from one person under several names. You can always tell by the semantics and complete tone of the post.

I have been attacked and attacked that person on a few occasions. However, because it is getting out of control, I have ignored this person (minus today) and I will continue to do so. I am not perfect and I do have a temper. However, let me stress this enough...I DO NOT JUDGE EVERYONE WHO AGREES WITH THOSE BEING NASTY AS BEING A PART OF THAT GROUP NOR DO I LOOK AT EVERYONE NEW ON THIS BOARD AS A "TROLL".

I am not for the generalization I saw about how we are all called out. There are many lovely ladies on here that for the most part will not jump into a disagreement or have a generally pleasant word for all.

I think it is getting more and more out of control and I still stand by an earlier assumption. You ignore it long enough it will go away.

Also, playing games i.e experiment does nothing more than continue the distrust and disbelief on the board. It was not well done at all and has simply shown me to be even more careful of what needs to be put on these boards and what doesn't.

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 4:21pm
Also for the record, I am not leaving the board. There are too many lovely women on this board who are so real and nice that it would be horrid to leave.

I am not angry nor do I hold anyone beyond the nasty one in anything but good thoughts and regard.

I just really think this is getting out of hand and we need to let it go before it eats each one of us alive.

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Registered: 04-26-2003
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 4:24pm
I agree, we need to let it all go. None of us are superman, let's all drop the alternate identities and just talk about losing some weight.

Erin

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 5:02pm
***Sharkey bites a head off**********

That was SO NOT COOL.

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Registered: 11-04-2003
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 5:19pm
All I can say is wow.
 
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Registered: 04-24-2004
Sat, 04-24-2004 - 12:49pm
CL-Relydria,

It may be "human nature" as you say, but if it is then it's the worst of human nature. And I know that you're one of the "in crowd" here, a friend of regulars who attack other posters, but (even if your **job** as CL is non-paying) when you took on the duties of CL I think there was a certain degree of obligation that came with it....and, if it's not part of your *job description* it should be.....when you see ANYONE labeling another person a "troll" or otherwise breaking TOS it would appear that you have a duty to report it to ivillage and get their post erased immediately. It might not win you a popularity contest with the regulars you run with, but I really think any CL should be willing to DO HER JOB to keep these personal attacks, ALL of them, OFF THE BOARD. As a lurker, I really felt it necessary to come out of lurkdom and tell you that.

You really get the kind of board you *ask for.* And what you and your buddies seem to be asking for here is a place where a handful of regulars run the show and shut the public out. Unfortunately, this is a public board and it shouldn't be used as your private playground. Ivillage sets it up for everyone, and just because some posters seem to post all day and all night and rack up a lot of frequent flyer miles (regulars) should not make this any more "their board" with "their rules" than it is a brand new person's.

If you want to clean up this board, then may I suggest you start right this very second (and be consistent about it), and DO NOT TOLERATE ANY VIOLATIONS OF TOS. And that means by Shawna or Kerrytex or (even you) or whomever else (any newbie). You know what the rules are, and if you want to be an effective CL with a good board.....report violators.

Good Saturday,

Sally

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Registered: 12-02-2003
Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:40pm
If you think you can do a better job, please apply to be a board leader. It's not like any of us who disagree can vote you off the island *grin*. That is, if those who make the decision haven't read your posts and already decided you wouldn't be a good CL because you're obviously biased against the majority of the board.

I'm sure our CL's would REALLY appreciate you taking on some of the responsibilities, especially given the fact that you already have such a wonderful game plan. So tell me, would you be trying to remove ALL TOS violations? Such as your post re: Shawna which I construed as a personal attack against her. Or even this post I am responding to, because I see THIS as an attack on Rely because she's not living up to your standards. Just so you know, she's a darn good CL, as is Divine, and my personal opinion is that neither of them need your help. But seriously, here's the link if you want to be a CL. http://www.ivillage.com/ivillage/boards/about/articles/0,10569,266096_89642,00.html If they accept you, we'd all love to get to know you better, as we do our other beloved CL's.

You seem SO upset that some people have been considered trolls. Have the posts made by those people you're defending upset you at all? The posts where one of them make condescending or unkind remarks to or about some board members....these are okay??? But someone defending themselves or a friend is not okay. I'm just trying to understand where YOU stand on the issue, so if you do decide to show us all how a CL should operate, we know what to expect from you.

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:43pm
EXCUSE ME????

and let me add this as well


if you want to be insulting, spelling my name correctly would be paramount

Edited 4/24/2004 2:01 pm ET ET by karrietex


Edited 4/24/2004 2:02 pm ET ET by karrietex

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