Doing one thing different

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Doing one thing different
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Sun, 04-25-2004 - 1:25pm
I am so frustrated with myself lately. I just don't know what the hell is wrong with me. I'm one of those people who has everything under control. I've been successful at everything I've ever tried-except managing my weight. I know it's not because I'm dumb or don't have willpower or don't understand nutrition. There's more to it than that. That's part of why I get so mad at thin people who make stupid remarks to overweight people like "why don't you try counting calories." Ugh.

Anyway, I've been counting calories and it is NOT working. I do well and get obsessive, then I get bingey and in the end (as with every diet) I end up gaining weight. So, I know I need to take a more behavioral strategy. So, I am hereby vowing to do only one thing different. From now on I am vowing to only eat when I am truly rumbly-tummy hungry. I know that making this one change will make a big difference to me. Even when I count calories or do ww or atkins I find myself eating when I'm not hungry because I have the calories or points or whatever. This behavior needs to end. So, I'm coming out here and stating that this is my new goal. Y'all can feel free to ask me how it's going because I probably need it.

Anyone else have one thing they really need to focus on?

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Sat, 05-01-2004 - 12:19pm
Thanks a lot! Now I feel really horrible. I have no will power and the food still wins. Guess you can just call me LAZY AND FAT! Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 05-01-2004 - 1:14pm
Please don't let her get to you, Brenda!! She is definitely the minority opinion here - the rest of us struggle with the same issues as you and know how difficult this battle is. We also know that it CAN be won, but it takes a lot of different tools!! Forte posts constantly to everyone about how the answers are simple, and (by implication) how we are just too stupid, lazy, unorganized or whatever to figure it out :-( No one needs to listen to poison like that...most of us already have enough of a struggle with self-esteem.
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Registered: 12-02-2003
Sat, 05-01-2004 - 1:56pm
Again, calorie counting alone does not work for everyone. As I said, I've dieted at under 1500 cals with regular exercise for months and lost so little it hardly changed the scale. And I know I'm NOT the only one. I'm glad it works for you, but it doesn't do it for everyone. It is NOT "all" a matter of calories. Or how is it that you explain a person eating 1000-1500 cals a day with regular exercise and losing only 7 lbs over a six month time period? My doctor seems to understand the concept with no difficulty.

As far as planning, that's great that you have the time to be as involved in it as you are. But there's nothing wrong with the way I do it either. And I think it's a matter of personal taste whether it takes enjoyment out of things. I enjoy standing in my kitchen MUCH less than I enjoy sitting down to a game of Sorry with my kids, or chatting with my husband about the day. And it doesn't make me less successful. I'd consider myself a failure if I didn't do those things.

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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 3:49pm
Thanks a lot I usually stay out of it. Guess I'm still in a bad mood. Hugs, Brenda

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sat, 05-01-2004 - 5:24pm
So which is it, Forte? Should she change one thing a week? Should she change three things a day? Should she journal and plan plan every morsel that goes in her mouth? I really can't figure out the advice you're giving her because you change your story every time someone posts a rebuttal to one of your arguments.

And actually, she didn't ask for anyone's opinion on her plan. If you don't believe me, you can re-read her original post. I've copied it for you:

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"I am so frustrated with myself lately. I just don't know what the hell is wrong with me. I'm one of those people who has everything under control. I've been successful at everything I've ever tried-except managing my weight. I know it's not because I'm dumb or don't have willpower or don't understand nutrition. There's more to it than that. That's part of why I get so mad at thin people who make stupid remarks to overweight people like 'why don't you try counting calories.' Ugh.

Anyway, I've been counting calories and it is NOT working. I do well and get obsessive, then I get bingey and in the end (as with every diet) I end up gaining weight. So, I know I need to take a more behavioral strategy. So, I am hereby vowing to do only one thing different. From now on I am vowing to only eat when I am truly rumbly-tummy hungry. I know that making this one change will make a big difference to me. Even when I count calories or do ww or atkins I find myself eating when I'm not hungry because I have the calories or points or whatever. This behavior needs to end. So, I'm coming out here and stating that this is my new goal. Y'all can feel free to ask me how it's going because I probably need it.

Anyone else have one thing they really need to focus on?"

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What part of this post did you NOT understand?

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Registered: 03-20-2004
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 12:18pm
Say what?
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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 12:22pm
Again, it is ALL a matter of calories in and calories out....whether a person *counts* them or not. If anyone wants to lose weight, then the individual has to take in fewer calories than the body uses each day for fuel. To gain weight, the reverse is true. Works for every animal on this planet. It's basic biology, and there's nothing new under the sun in that regard.
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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 12:29pm
She should do whatever she pleases to do. In order to lose weight (if that's the objective) a person must take in fewer calories than the body uses for fuel. One way to go about it (easily) is the *three thing* approach (something which Kathleen Daelemans recommends) but she could just as easily wake up one morning and track her intake. I have no personal stake in HOW she goes about it, or even IF she does. It's just a suggestion that she could do three healthy things today, for instance, drink 8 glasses, go for a 10 minute walk, don't clean the plate. And challenge herself to repeate those behaviors tomorrow, adding more. Whether she likes, or even follows, those suggestions are no matter to me. You have a happy day, jess.
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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 12:31pm
What kind of recipes did you have in mind, hippolytes? If I have them, I'd be glad to.

Forte

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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 2:00pm
Again, you're wrong. I've already explained why, and you've ignored it, so I'm not going to explain again. Let's let it go at this- You obviously have no metabolic issues and your body is a perfectly efficient machine. Mine isn't, and neither is everyone else's. We aren't cookie-cutter people. What works for you isn't going to work for a lot of people, and what works for me isn't going to work for a lot of people. Please stop acting as though you have so much knowledge to impart while simultaneously refusing to acknowledge that someone else knows something that you don't, and won't accept anyway.


Edited 5/3/2004 2:11 pm ET ET by melodyneve

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