Problems 'sharing' weight?
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Problems 'sharing' weight?
| Mon, 04-26-2004 - 1:12pm |
I wish we had more room on those title lines!! What I'm trying to say, is that I just had a personal experience related to an earlier question about whether or not we are willing to tell other people our weight - and it kind of surprised me!! I went over to the Atkins board and another forum, and they had a roll call just like we often do - name, stats, etc. Without even thinking about it, I proudly typed in "312/291/140" and hit "submit". Then I looked at the others - 175/155/1120, 160/140/115, etc. You know what I did??? I went back and erased the post. Half of me feels ridiculous for not wanting to "own up", but I was finally able to identify WHY I'm so reluctant to share my weight. Here, we all have fairly major weight struggles, so I'm comfortable that I will be accepted as an equal. But I guess I live in fear that the thin world will think I'm pathetic, weak, a slob, etc, etc. for my excess weight. Of course, with on-line no-one actually can see me - if I said I weighed 140 they'd have no reason not to believe me, but even in "real" life - where people can see perfectly well how heavy I am - I still can't confess the "number". My husband guessed my weight as "Getting close to 200" and I didn't correct him (after all, I had goaded him into guessing!). My best friend guessed 260, and I didn't correct her either. Here's my question - do you think that I'm correct that most people who have never been this weight WOULD be shocked that I'm nearly 300? I truly think so, because when I was 140 pounds, *I* used to wonder how ANYONE could let themselves go so badly!!
ps - Thank you all for giving me a safe place to NOT feel bad about myself for my weight.
pps - Rob, if you read it, I just wanted to let you know that I found your words below to another poster very inspiring - she was talking about her husband making unkind comments and you said something like "You are not just your weight". I know my hubby would feel the same way, although not articulate it as well - he's always calling me beautiful, Sexy and "Hot" even though I sure don't feel it. Thank God for me like you two ;-)
ps - Thank you all for giving me a safe place to NOT feel bad about myself for my weight.
pps - Rob, if you read it, I just wanted to let you know that I found your words below to another poster very inspiring - she was talking about her husband making unkind comments and you said something like "You are not just your weight". I know my hubby would feel the same way, although not articulate it as well - he's always calling me beautiful, Sexy and "Hot" even though I sure don't feel it. Thank God for me like you two ;-)

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I dont feel worried or scared telling people my highest weight or what I weigh now...anymore.
Thank you for your kind words. I wish you the best of luck.
Rob
~~Linda
But you know, even skinny people don't like to tell their weight either. I would love to be able to say, oh, I weight 125 or even 160. I don't know why we are all like that. Maybe it's the way society "raised" us all. Women don't usually tell their weight or their age. It's crazy but it's almost like human nature or something.
But I really feel that we shouldn't be ashamed of ourselves. Yeah, maybe we have gained more than the average person, but that doesn't change who we are. We are still the same person we were pounds ago. We still count! If you don't feel like sharing your weight, don't. But if you do, go for it. Take pride in who you are and don't worry about silly numbers. The greatest thing about it, at least we are all trying to do something about it!
I dont know if you guys have heard me and Amy (barkingshark) talk about the books we recently read but I thought I would mention them to you.
The third level is TOO good for you. Get down there with Tina, you bad, bad girl !
(And I also agree some people just need to die/be taken out of general circulation/need
their dance card punched.)
A Sharkey Fin-Spank to you !
Post it when you are ready !
Amy
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