Problems 'sharing' weight?
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Problems 'sharing' weight?
| Mon, 04-26-2004 - 1:12pm |
I wish we had more room on those title lines!! What I'm trying to say, is that I just had a personal experience related to an earlier question about whether or not we are willing to tell other people our weight - and it kind of surprised me!! I went over to the Atkins board and another forum, and they had a roll call just like we often do - name, stats, etc. Without even thinking about it, I proudly typed in "312/291/140" and hit "submit". Then I looked at the others - 175/155/1120, 160/140/115, etc. You know what I did??? I went back and erased the post. Half of me feels ridiculous for not wanting to "own up", but I was finally able to identify WHY I'm so reluctant to share my weight. Here, we all have fairly major weight struggles, so I'm comfortable that I will be accepted as an equal. But I guess I live in fear that the thin world will think I'm pathetic, weak, a slob, etc, etc. for my excess weight. Of course, with on-line no-one actually can see me - if I said I weighed 140 they'd have no reason not to believe me, but even in "real" life - where people can see perfectly well how heavy I am - I still can't confess the "number". My husband guessed my weight as "Getting close to 200" and I didn't correct him (after all, I had goaded him into guessing!). My best friend guessed 260, and I didn't correct her either. Here's my question - do you think that I'm correct that most people who have never been this weight WOULD be shocked that I'm nearly 300? I truly think so, because when I was 140 pounds, *I* used to wonder how ANYONE could let themselves go so badly!!
ps - Thank you all for giving me a safe place to NOT feel bad about myself for my weight.
pps - Rob, if you read it, I just wanted to let you know that I found your words below to another poster very inspiring - she was talking about her husband making unkind comments and you said something like "You are not just your weight". I know my hubby would feel the same way, although not articulate it as well - he's always calling me beautiful, Sexy and "Hot" even though I sure don't feel it. Thank God for me like you two ;-)
ps - Thank you all for giving me a safe place to NOT feel bad about myself for my weight.
pps - Rob, if you read it, I just wanted to let you know that I found your words below to another poster very inspiring - she was talking about her husband making unkind comments and you said something like "You are not just your weight". I know my hubby would feel the same way, although not articulate it as well - he's always calling me beautiful, Sexy and "Hot" even though I sure don't feel it. Thank God for me like you two ;-)

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