Problems 'sharing' weight?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Problems 'sharing' weight?
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Mon, 04-26-2004 - 1:12pm
I wish we had more room on those title lines!! What I'm trying to say, is that I just had a personal experience related to an earlier question about whether or not we are willing to tell other people our weight - and it kind of surprised me!! I went over to the Atkins board and another forum, and they had a roll call just like we often do - name, stats, etc. Without even thinking about it, I proudly typed in "312/291/140" and hit "submit". Then I looked at the others - 175/155/1120, 160/140/115, etc. You know what I did??? I went back and erased the post. Half of me feels ridiculous for not wanting to "own up", but I was finally able to identify WHY I'm so reluctant to share my weight. Here, we all have fairly major weight struggles, so I'm comfortable that I will be accepted as an equal. But I guess I live in fear that the thin world will think I'm pathetic, weak, a slob, etc, etc. for my excess weight. Of course, with on-line no-one actually can see me - if I said I weighed 140 they'd have no reason not to believe me, but even in "real" life - where people can see perfectly well how heavy I am - I still can't confess the "number". My husband guessed my weight as "Getting close to 200" and I didn't correct him (after all, I had goaded him into guessing!). My best friend guessed 260, and I didn't correct her either. Here's my question - do you think that I'm correct that most people who have never been this weight WOULD be shocked that I'm nearly 300? I truly think so, because when I was 140 pounds, *I* used to wonder how ANYONE could let themselves go so badly!!

ps - Thank you all for giving me a safe place to NOT feel bad about myself for my weight.

pps - Rob, if you read it, I just wanted to let you know that I found your words below to another poster very inspiring - she was talking about her husband making unkind comments and you said something like "You are not just your weight". I know my hubby would feel the same way, although not articulate it as well - he's always calling me beautiful, Sexy and "Hot" even though I sure don't feel it. Thank God for me like you two ;-)

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:20am
How *would* you define an accomplishment, then? An accomplishment is any time that a person sets a goal for themselves, works toward it and stays focussed on it even when it isn't always easy, and then achieves that goal. Getting my University degree was an accomplishment. Raising compassionate, happy and well-adjusted children is an accomplishment. Organizing my 6 boxes of photos into albums is an accomplishment ;-) And I will CERTAINLY consider it an accomplishment when I finally achieve my health and weight goals. Besides, I really don't believe that it isn't important to you - it must be, since you spend a considerable amount of time here posting about your success and how you did it (numerous posts on how you eat and exercise, and books you have been inspired by).

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