Dieting Myths

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Dieting Myths
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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 9:33pm

I am sure this will spark a debate and for that I don't apologize.

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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 9:49pm
Watchthefurfly thank you for writing this post. Glad to see such intelligent posting. jen
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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 10:09pm
Amen, sister!

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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 10:34pm
ITA but then again Im a psychology major and think that there is much more to obesity and weight loss than calories in calories out.

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Wed, 04-28-2004 - 1:56am
Thanks so much for posting that. It was a really interesting article...and very enlightening. I admit I am fairly clueless about eating disorders but after reading that I have to say that I am definitely interested in learning more so I can be more informed...I do, after all, have a daughter.

On a side note...my niece started kindergarten this year. She has always been a "big girl"...she's tall for her age and she's always been chubby. She has been asking her mom (my sister), "do you think my belly is fat?" and things like that. She just turned 6 this month and already she's worried about this stuff. it's so sad. That's exactly why I try to be very aware of what I say around all my neices and nephews and I try to never make "harmless" comments because I know those are the ones that stick with you when you struggle with your weight.

Thanks again for posting that!

Sarah

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Wed, 04-28-2004 - 6:21am
Sarah-

You're exactly right that the "harmless" comments stick with you. I have two aunts who, while at a cousins birthday party, sat maybe 5 feet from where I was playing, talking about how "It's a shame Melody isn't a pretty girl. That could really make her life easier in the long run." Regardless of the veracity of the statement, I was 7 years old, and here 19 years later I recall it as vividly as I do a conversation with my daughter last night. I'm sure I'll be able to hear that same aunt's voice on my deathbed.

It's good that you're careful what you say around your nieces and nephews. :-)

Mel

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Wed, 04-28-2004 - 6:55am
I too have many memories that stayed with me about my weight as a kid. I wasn't even fat by todays standards. My father was the worst. AND my husband asked me one time, "how can you let something that was said so long ago still bother you?" Bets the heck out of me but it still does! :-) Stephanie 280/225/170 Atkid since 6/15/2003
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:50am
I've been fortunate enough to not hear any hurtful comments about my weight from loved ones. I do, however, remember an incident when I was probably about 8 years old. I was riding a friend of mine's big wheel (or whatever they called them back then) and her father started yelling at me to get off because I was going to break it. Ouch! That one hurt. I still remember how I felt to this day. I'm glad that you're aware of what can be hurtful to a child and not say anything that will impact how she will feel about herself in a negative way.

~~Linda

 

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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 12:31pm
As A kid I got the opposite comments about being way too thin. My family thought it was cute to call me twiggy, walking stick, or those little ribs like, if it gets much windier you will blow away. Or you it like a bird. It was never said to be mean, But geesh, it still hurt. back then I couldn't gain weight. Ironicly enough it is what started me on a eating disorder. parents need to really watch what they say, especially to girls. The fact that I could never talk to my mom,made my eating disorder flourish, more so than any comments on my weight. plus, I had(have Ocd) and I think a lot of people with eating disorders have a undiagnosed form of the obssessive compulsive disorder. I think they will eventually come to discover this is more biochemicly based in more patients then the shrinks once believed. jmho. p.s. I had to add that even at my highest of 260 no one ever said to me they were concerned for my health, or called me names. I only had one incident with a stranger I yelled at when her dogs ran up to my 6 week old baby in her stroller,barking aggressively. that dumb you know what could only come up with calling me a fat a##. now what people said behind my back I was lucky enough to be oblivious to!
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 1:50pm
That's a good reminder that people need to be careful about anything they say to kids that could be taken negatively, not just about being overweight. I never would have thought that being called skinny could affect a child, but then again I was on the other side of the coin. I'm sorry that you had to endure that. Children need to be treated with love and encouragement, and to be told that they're precious. That's the way I was brought up. It pains me that my dh wasn't so lucky. He was brought up in an environment where his parents called him stupid and lazy all the time. It's a wonder he's not screwed up. He's just the opposite of what his parents said he was (there's definitely nothing lazy or stupid about this guy!). He could have grown up to be a person who was as abusive as his parents, but instead he rose above that and is the sweetest man I've ever met.

~~Linda

P.S. Sorry if that became a little OT from the original post.

~~Linda

 

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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 1:55pm
I have always eaten for the wrong reasons. I am an emotional eater and I know until I get my life under control I will never have my weight under control. I may be the exception to myth 8 (mental illness), but at least me and all the voices in my head agree on the above statement :). Thanks for a nice post. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda