OT - Personal NEWS!

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OT - Personal NEWS!
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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 2:44pm
Guess what???

I am moving in with my boyfriend this summer! Both of our leases on our separate apartments are up at the end of June. He has been talking about buying a house all year and recently met with a realtor and started looking at homes. Though I'd definitely thought about it, and we'd hinted, we had not discussed living together. When I told him about my hesitancy to resign my lease, he said he understood. And I said I had been thinking about where I wanted to be in a year, and he said he understood. THen he said "Why do you think I asked you to look at houses with me- I don't want to live in a big house by myself!" We are going house hunting again this weekend.

For the record, we intend to get married, though there's been no official proposal yet. Neither of us are morally conflicted about the situation. Please don't offer words of scorn... but if you have any encouragement or practical advice, it would be greatly appreciated. :)

I am a teensy bit scared... I've never made a move this big before... But I am very excited. :) Ya'll know before all of my family! hehe


THANKS for being so supportive!!

-Tina

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 4:12pm
I think thats wonderful Tina!

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 4:58pm
Awesome!! Congratulations!! It's so exciting!! It'll feel like a home of your own.

My parents and grandparents frown upon living together before marriage (nevermind sleeping together too!) but I've done it before and am thinking about doing it again. It's what makes YOU happy.

I'm not sure on how your common-law rules work but up here you're common-law within 6 months of living together. That means you are married without the peice of paper. What I want to do with my boyfriend is until there's an official marriage proposal...I want him to give me rent receipts (even if it's for $1). Anything after that 6 month period you have to split between the two of you if you break up and it can become a legal battle. It's up to you....just sharing a mistake I made the first time.

Anyways, congrats, happy house hunting! And let us know when you get a house!

~Dana

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 5:12pm

She'll be so excited about the new house that she'll want to "clean clean clean"?1?!?!?!

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 5:48pm
Hehehe

Thanks for the advice, Shawna... but I am with Divine on this one. Let's just say, he sure isn't with me for my housekeeping skills. lol I would bet he assumes on taking on much of the cleaning, if he wants the house kept up to his standards!

As for keeping receipts, etc... Definitely a good idea. It is hard for me to get in that frame of mind, when as far as I'm concerned (and he seems to be on the same page), a marriage proposal is right around the corner. I am concerned about the financial aspect, though. He makes more money than I do, and in dating has been insistant on "taking care of me"... living together and having household expenses is totally different, though. We are very different people financially (saver v. spender, etc.), which will probably be a challenge.

I know it's silly, but right now am as excited about the "house" part as the "with him" part! lol I've lived in an apartment since high school, and haven't even had a washer and drier. I am SOOO looking forward to a W&D! And a backyard!

ANyways. As this is new to me, again, I appreciate all advice very much!! :)

Love to you all,

Tina

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 7:51pm
Tina, that's great! Congratulations!!! You'll get no scorn from me, just good wishes. I'm so excited for you!

You and your bf sound a lot like me and my dh. I've always been the messy one and he's always been the neat freak. He can't stand when things get messy and he'll be the one to complain about me not putting my clothes in the hamper, not the other way around! He does laundry, washes dishes, washes/vacuums the floors, he does most everything (don't worry, I do my share, too lol!). The only thing I can't get him to do is change the litter box. Oh well, I guess you can't have everything.

Anyways, I hope that you find a great house :-)

~~Linda

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 9:28pm
WHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Exciting !!!!!!!! I love living with my BF ! I hope this goes well for you !

Amy

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 9:30pm
I whole-heartedly agree with Shawna...And if I ever need to hide something, I put it right next to the kitchen sponge because God knows Kyle avoids THAT like it's made of plutonium. Hmmph.
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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 9:31pm
I'm a full-on anal-retentive type A personality clean freak ! AND I LOVE MY VACUUM!

Amy

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 11:32pm

I'm with Shawna on this one..........my dbf is just the king of laziness.

 
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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 1:33am
That's awesome! How exciting...I can't wait to go househunting for my very own place!! :o)

Good luck...wish I had some advice! ;o)

Sarah

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