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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 9:32pm
I forgot to ask in my last posting. I'm thinking of seeing a therapist to work through some very bad self-image issues.

I basically hate myself - to be blunt. My husband sees me as beautiful - no matter what I weigh. So I'm blessed in that way.

But he thinks that my self image is getting so bad, it needs to be fixed before I get seriously depressed, or our relationship gets damaged; it isn't now, but I'm sure it doesn't help long term.

Has anyone ever done this? Did it help? What are some things to do right? Avoid?

Any tips are appreciated,

Camay

320/320/185

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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 8:18am
Hi Camay!

U know, I think it is a great idea to look for a therapist/psychoanalist for that matter. There are many things our mind can't cope with and, therefore, somethings in our life can go wrong. Your husband is right to worry about, and you are definetly blessed for having someone that loves you no matter what you weight. Gotta treasure that :). And loving yourself more is a good way!

Naia

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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 9:06am
I've never been to a therapist but I have friends who see them and Im going to school for social work, so obviously I believe in therapy =)

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 11:00am
No, I've never done that. Never needed to. But if you think it would help your situation, then more power to you. And good luck.
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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 11:24am
Of course...

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 2:24pm
You can't actually be this insensitve "accidentally" can you? Because if so, I can only imagine the enemies you make IRL - wouldn't think you have many friends in that case. You've not answered any of her questions or responded in any positive and constructive way, but your statement that you've "never needed to" CLEARLY implies a) that you are a superior sort of person who never needs help or support and b) the poster is probably "weak" because she does. BOO HISS!!!!

To the Original poster - my hat is off to you for being strong enough to admit that you could benefit from a little help. I'm looking forward to hearing of other peoples' advice or personal experience, and I hope you find a therapist that can suit your needs!
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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 3:08pm

I never have had to, but when I worked in nutrtion I counseled several who had.

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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 5:55pm
I think it's a great idea! I've been thinking about it myself but haven't done it yet. Look for someone you actually like who makes you feel comfortable, if you see someone and it doesn't feel right, don't see them again. Don't worry about offending anyone, therapists are used to it (I am one). I have a personal bias for people with a cognitive behavioral orientation, but really anyone who "feels" right to you is likely to help.

I would NOT feel ashamed about doing this, not matter what is subtly implied by other people. There is no shame at all in addressing issues that need to be addressed. If you told someone you went to the doctor for a flu, it would seem bizarre for someone to reply: I've never done it, never needed to. Psychological help should be no different.

I think it's great you're considering this. There is no reason to hate yourself, but I understand how it happens, especially living in our culture where so much emphasis is placed on being thin (we are all dealing with this).

Best wishes for therapist-shopping!

Erin

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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 7:51pm
I say rock on.
 
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Sun, 05-02-2004 - 12:28am

As a trained professional counselor myself