Trying to rebuild my whole life
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Trying to rebuild my whole life
| Sat, 05-01-2004 - 3:03pm |
I feel like a pile of wreckage, not a human being.
| Sat, 05-01-2004 - 3:03pm |
I feel like a pile of wreckage, not a human being.
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Hugs, Brenda
I definitely hear how upset and frustrated you are. But, when I read your post I didn't hear so much all the things that you wish were different, I really heard all of the things you are already doing to improve yourself. You're finding a dentist, you are seeing a dermatologist, and you've started weight watchers. If you were a pile of wreckage you wouldn't have been able to take all of those proactive steps. I relate to how you feel sometimes, though. Losing weight feels like an undoable task sometimes, but I agree that you have to take it day by day or minute by minute. Sometimes I have to watch the clock and say-wait ten more minutes and see if you still want to eat. Sometimes I get down to minute by minute. I've even set my kitchen timer and not let myself into the kitchen until it beeps again! When I think about the actual amount I need to lose it is overwhelming, so I am all about smaller goals.
As for hair and makeup I have no idea! I bet Karrie knows a lot about how to do nice makeup (dontcha, Karrie?). I'm currently the ponytail queen since my son was born on New Year's Eve, so I'm no help on hair either.
I wish you the best of luck and I hope to see you on the board lots and lots. This group is a big help to me.
Erin
Mom
Hi, and welcome!
Take it one step at a time, one day at a time. The most important thing is that you are trying to change. Alot of people, including myself, ignore their "physical problems & appearance". I decided almost 2 weeks ago, that's it's time that I take charge of my life and take pride in myself. I need to lose 100-120lbs. I need to visit a dentist also. But I know that it will take me a while and I will get these things seen to. But first things first, I began to search for "change". Just like you. You joined Weight Watchers (that's a first step) - Just keep taking those steps - one day at a time.
This is a wonderful board. Stick around for a while - post each day and I think you will find the motivation you need to keep going. Weight Watchers is a great problem - I know a girl who is doing the program and she has lost like 65lbs since the winter - she looks really good. Keep it up!
Hi there LadyIrish =)
My heart goes out to you.
Hey everyone. I just wanted to tell you all my story.
About 5 years ago I was 485 lbs. I loved to eat, and I hated to exercise. Embarassingly, it wasn't from any emotional issues or trying times that caused me to lose control of my weight. I didn't have a gland problem or was on any medications that caused me to gain weight. My parents weren't heavyset, so it wasn't genetics. I simply didn't realize (or want to realize) that what I ate per day was almost three times more than most.
My weight became so cumbersome that I ended up in a nursing home. It was then that the light bulb clicked. My overeating and underactivity was going to cause me to die prematurely. I started to get in contact with a nutrition professional. With frequent email contact with her over 5 years, slowly but surely, the weight started to come off. Because I was so heavy, it was coming off at a pound a day at the start. Then it slowed.
About 6 months ago, after a 4 and a half year jounrey, I reached my goal weight of 130 lbs. Because I was so obese, I had to have some plstic surgery because the skin my belly and my butt were hanging almost down to my knees! I am now working in California asa personal trainer and do some Exercise classes with obese men and women who are just starting on that journey.
So my point is, you CAN do it! It's difficult. It's hard, but at the end, it is so worth it. You can't even picture how good you'll feel....until you're there.
And I know she'll probably kill me, but guess who the nutritional professional WAS that assisted me on my weight loss was? None other than your very own, cl-divinetrash. She dun good, huh?
And don't let her fool you with the "I have 10 pounds left to go" stuff. I saw her this weekend and she looked hot. ;) ).
Divine.....aren't you at goal now? I thought you PROMISED these lovely ladies some pictures when you got there. heeheehee.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-fb100plus&msg=114794.1
Oh yes, mostly definitely Lane!
I wanted to ask if your workplace offers EAP (Employee Assistance Program)...which might help you mentally, while you work on things physically. I"ve been pondering the idea myself and might go down that road. I have 150 pounds to lose and am just starting.
Have to admit though, that you are handling things much better then most people in your shoes would. To have HR talk to you on any personal level like that must be difficult to work through - but you are. You HAVE to give yourself kudos for that - believe me.
You apparently are a very strong woman. I hear stories of people who come from uneducated background and are the first in their family to go to college. I think you may be like that...where you are the first not to be as you describe your parents.
I'm not a success yet - many of us aren't. But the one thing I see (as I'm new here too) is that we are not alone. Far from it.
If the number of replies to your post is any sign, you are among friends. Friends that even when we can't see your face, we see your soul. You are worth the struggle it will take to get to where you want to be.
By the way - I'm very Irish too - we are a stubborn folk; remember that. We don't don't give up easy!
Camay
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