Being Overweight and Feeling UnAttractiv

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Being Overweight and Feeling UnAttractiv
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 12:40am
I have a confession. I feel totally unattractive. Does anyone feel like that here? I am a single parent (16 yr ds) and was in a 10 yr bad relationship. It is ended, I am heavier than I have ever been and feel like about as attractive as a WWII rusty tank.

Can I be candid? The things that happen to a body this over weight- - - it's not lovely.

Does anyone else ever deal with tis and how? You can email me direct if your answer is private....dedendrew@aol.com Thanks for all responses and support....dede (D2)

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 11:01am
Hi,

Yesterday was the 1st time I looked at myself in the mirror in a long time (I avoid them as much as possible) Of course I use one to put on my makeup but I haven't checked out the whole image in a long time. I just started to do my measurements and I figured what the heck it can't be that bad. I wish I never looked. I've put the unattractive image out of my head and said don't do that again until your down a few more inches and pounds. It's funny I told my husband and he is like "your a beautiful mother of 2 some things are going to change" little does he know just how much. hahahahahaha. I'm sorry about your bad relationship but there is always hope. I'm divorced from a real jerk who wants nothing to do with his daughter (she's gonna be 10) and remarried to a man who loves me for me. I guess I'm telling you this because there is hope and 2nd chances just keep your mind open and your spirits up. Life is too short. Good luck !!!!

Jenn:)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 11:51am
Dede, I know how you feel.

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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 4:57pm
AGH..i'm feeling the same way, no words of wisdom from me..LOL
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 5:03pm
Hi Dede,

The thing is, it's changeable. Don't let it get you down. If you feel overweight, then you can lose the weight. If you feel unattractive, try to pinpoint what will make you feel more attractive...and do it. Life is process, and as long as you're living you are changing. So make the changes you want to make. Start today. And good luck.

hippolytes

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Registered: 05-23-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:00pm
I can definitely relate to feeling that way. I weigh 310 lbs. and most of the weight is around my abdomen. I feel and look like I have a tractor trailor tire around my waist! I can't stand to see myself in a full length mirror. I look like Jabba The Hut's sister!!!!

Some days I want to hold up in my home and hide from the world because of it. Some days it causes tension between me and my husband because I feel too ugly to be affectionate with him even though he treats me like a goddess.

I wish I could say I have answers on how to make the feelings go away, but this is something I haven't mastered yet. I just try to fill my mind up with other things when I begin to dwell on it too much.

I just wanted you to know that you are NOT alone and that I appreciate your bringing this up for discussion. It is something that I think many overweight woman deals with, but we hardly ever talk about.

Vikki

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Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:10pm
I have the same feeling, and hate mirrors. However, I have started wearing makeup again and taking a few minutes with my hair. That little difference helps me feel better about myself, while I work on my weight. I need to try to start dressing a little nicer, but old comfy jeans are just so easy to slip into... :)

Take care!

Joanne

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:14pm
comfy jeans....sigh.

it's too hot for them now, but give me my cropped khackis!!

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Registered: 10-02-2003
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:21pm
never too hot for jeans .......... i practically live in my blk baggys that cover my feet & marilyn manson tshirts LOL


 
 
 
 

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:23pm
ok well ...i ain't wearing something that heavy when it hits 100 out here
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:25pm
i am not even remotely warm unless its at least 100 lol ......... cold blooded i suppose


 
 
 
 

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