In need of a butt-kick

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Registered: 06-16-2003
In need of a butt-kick
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 11:05pm
Y'all, I know after I say this everyone is gonna be either saying or thinking "Why can't she do it for herself? Why do we need to kick her butt, per se, to make her lose?"

Well, the truth is that's right. I feel so sick right now, I ate so much food today...and none of it healthy...I cannot stop it...I have stopped losing and I think it is slowly creeping back on me. And I feel like a big idiot. I started in OCTOBER!! Why have I only lost 27 lbs? B/c I don't care and I don't exercise...I want to but I just don't...and I know I use work and school as an excuse, but if I really wanted to do it, I could. And the eating is another story all together...I think I eat a lot b/c I am depressed and I never see Roger and I am always working...so I eat to comfort myself(my problem in the first place)...but if you all would give me some ENCOURAGING words, it would be great b/c I am miserable and fat and lonely...

Please don't respond if you are going to be nasty to me, I don't need that, and Stella is right, we have had enough of that in here!

Sara

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 11:14pm

Sara, I could have wrote your post!

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 9:14am
I think this got lost in this weekends drama.....

Shawna Guinea Pig 4

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 9:19am
i think you are right...that and i can't keep up with all the posts on the weekends

i guess work is good for something right now :)

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 9:23am
You have to care. Because the truth is, until you start caring about exercising and being aware of every bite of food that goes into your mouth, you won't lose weight. You can come here for support, and you'll get it, but in the end YOU are the one who has to take a walk, exercise, stop eating junk food.

It's up to you.

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 9:23am
no worries...we have all been there.

start this week off with one small goal. one that you can make into a habit and go from there, that's what i do.

stress can get to be a huge problem in the weight battle but you can stop it from being the deciding vote. look at all the blessings and goals you are working on.

best advice i can give when i was in your shoes is that i made sure the most important thing came first. if i was starting to run down then i would take time to rest and i would never let work get in my way. work is a monster in itself. i also reminded myself that i can do this and i surrounded myself with people who supported me.

you can do this and you will do it!!

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Registered: 05-23-2004
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 10:28am
Oh, Sara you're being too hard on yourself! Mega hugs and positive thoughts are flying your way this very second. Trying to lose weight is tough and sometimes it just gets to be too heavy a burden. Everybody here has probably felt like or ended up giving up at some point. I know I have many, many times. Sometimes it is because hauling my big butt out to exercise everyday just plain hurts. I'm a grump when I'm sweating and heaving my way around the track I walk everyday. I know I look like I'm about to spontaneously combust. What keeps me going is reading some of these posts by Amy, Shawna, and the others here who've worked so hard and lost so much weight. They're proof that if I just grit my teeth and keep on going, eventually I will lose weight.

I'm the worlds worst on using food for comfort. It took me a while to figure out something to take foods place when I feel down. For me, it turned out to be journaling. I know it sounds hokey to sit down and write about how you're feeling emotionally and physically everyday, but once I started it really seemed to ease my mind. I might only write a paragraph one day, then two pages the next. Just getting the feelings out of me really takes the edge off my desire to eat them away. Sometimes I go back and read what I wrote when I was feeling really crummy and I gain a little more insight about myself.

If you've tried all you can think of and still feel low go see your doctor. If depression is keeping you down, there is absolutely nothing wrong with getting help for it. Maybe you have a real chemical imbalance that medication could help fix. Depression is a very real and scary illness. You owe it to yourself to get all the help you need to make your life the best it can be.

I don't know if anything I've said makes sense or helps, but just know that I'm praying for you and sending you many, many hugs!

Vikki

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 10:43am
Hugs! I know how you feel. My man works second shift and it gets awful lonely sometimes. It's hard not to want to eat when you are alone at night. Thank goodness for me my mom is doing this with me. She has lost more than me, but I a so d%@# proud of her! She won $25 from the challenge by the way everyone. I have only been at this since April, but I have struggled too. I look at it as a new way of life and it is hard to change ones ways after 31 years! No one said it was easy. I look at my mom, who has had a weight problem all of her life and see the changes she has made in such a short time and how happy she is and am just so happy for her. Does she eat things she's not supposed to? YES! Just not all the time. She does stay away from sweets though. I think you can do it and so can anyone else who wants it bad enough. It's like another poster said, we can all support you, but you have to be the one who does it for yourself. I find encouragement from the ladies on this board. I look through weight loss pics and think to myself that is going to be me if it kills me,lol! I also look at why I jumped on this bandwagon. I want to be healthier and I want to have children and have the energy to run after them, lol. You gotta make you a priority. I do care and I hope this makes you feel better! Heather

Heather and Shawn 7/16/04

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 11:57am

(sniffs at Sarah, sneezes, and starts to bark)


Are you trying to say that you are allergic to Sara???

Shawna Guinea Pig 4

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 1:50pm
Amy...it may deter you to know that Lindt truffles are 70 calories per and have something like 6g of saturated fat each as well. :P
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Registered: 03-20-2004
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 2:53pm
Hi Sara,

Well, I don't really know what to say...but I'll give it a shot. You don't need a "butt-kick" but you may need to look deep inside, and find your own private motivation. Why do you want to lose weight? Write yourself a letter, and then read it! And don't be self-depricating. Just tell yourself WHY, and then list any impediments (and how you can overcome them). I don't know if that helps...but, give it a shot. And if you're a student at a major university....is there a counseling center? Perhaps talking it out with a trained professional would help you? What do you think? Good luck to you.

Forte

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