Ok lets get real here

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Ok lets get real here
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Sat, 06-05-2004 - 8:33pm

The board is falling apart.

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sat, 06-05-2004 - 8:46pm
HEAR HEAR! Thank you, Shawna!

####Having 100 or more pounds to lose may sometimes make you feel like you're all alone. You're not. All the support and encouragement you need to help you be happy and get healthy while losing weight can be found right here. #####

I think I've said this more than once...But Shawna is right. We are all adults here, things have gotten SO off topic and childish. Just because we can hide behind a monitor screen doesn't mean it's okay to be a raging jacka$$ to other people. I have tried to bring humour and insight here, and when I see board buddies being harrassed, YOU BETTA believe I'm going to say something.

For those of you with nothing positive to contribute - don't care whether it's 'the truth' or not - if you cannot say it in a way that is helpful, not HURTFUL, beat feet and stay away from this board, please.

Amy

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Registered: 10-31-2003
Sat, 06-05-2004 - 8:51pm

My humble opinion of this board......I will not be chased away from this, one of my favorite place to visit with friends.


It's a support board - a place were you can go and talk to women who are facing the same exact challenges that you yourself face.


Items such as:


- square farts


- tight chairs


- children


- double tummy and chin rolls


- anti-fat people


- in-laws and outlaws


- attempting to excerise when getting on/off the floor is a major challenge


- looking at the long road ahead and not getting discouraged


- hugs when you couldn't resist that twinkie


- decided how best to take this journey


- cute movie stars


This board

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 06-05-2004 - 8:53pm
ITA! And, IMO, the best way to solve the problem is to ignore the source(s) of trouble.

Don't buy into it as much as you want to have your say. It won't get you anywhere. Consider the essence of the post and who posted it and move on.

It's silly, again IMO, to get mad and fight with pople that you don't know. Why waste that energy on something/one that you don't know or even care about? Imagine if you tried to rid the world of all the lunatics and negative people. My goodness, what alot of energy expended on something worthless.

Come here for what this board is meant to be here for.... support in your weight loss trials and tribulations.

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Sat, 06-05-2004 - 9:57pm
I came to this board about 5 months ago to find support. What I found was a great group of women who really seem to care about each other's struggles and triumphs. I knew right away that I wanted to stay and get to know these women better. It didn't take long however, to see that there was a dark side to this board. That there was a person, or people who seem to find some kind of preverse pleasure in insulting people and stirring things up. I still remember the first post I saw from a "troll". It was to Mel, who shared a beautiful story about a friend of hers. This friend had many struggles in her life, including abuse. I found this story to be very touching, and I was shocked to see the post from the troll. At that time, I didn't know about any of the history of what had been going on and I responded to this post thinking that I was going to get her to see how rude and insulting she was being. Instead, she replied with the same drivel that she always responds with. I knew then that this person was trouble. Shawna emailed me and filled me in on the history of this whole situation, and told me that she didn't want the troll to chase me away and have me leave the boards. My mind was already made up that I wasn't going anywhere, but I was so touched that Shawna was so concerned about me leaving. I was touched that she would take the time to email me, someone who she didn't even know because I had only been on the boards about a week or two. That meant a lot to me, and I haven't regretted staying here and getting to know everyone better.

This whole situation has gotten out of hand. It's unfortunate, because I know that there are people who are missing out getting to know a great group of women because they are turned off by what goes on here. I wish I knew what to do about the situation. I wish I knew how we could reclaim our wonderful board. I know that just ignoring the situation is probably the best thing to do, but I can see why people have such a hard time doing that when they are being insulted, or someone that they care about is being attacked. I don't know what to say except that I hope that this situation goes away so that we can get our focus back on why we are here in the first place...to give and get support. Unfortunately I don't think that's going to happen anytime soon, especially since this has been going on long before I even knew about this place.

~~Linda

~~Linda

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 12:45am
Seriously, let's all make a pact. Let's IGNORE the troublemaker(s).

I know it's difficult at times cuz they are so stupid and you just want to tell them so. But if we band together and ignore her/them then they don't get the reaction they want.

What do ya say?

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 8:57am
Shawna, good post and you're right that it needed to be said. But, don't hold your breath. I can only hope that things go back to normal and those who don't support this board go on their merry way. This is one of the main reasons I've been avoiding the board. I got tired of the drama and the nastiness among posters. I certainly haven't felt supported of late.....there's just too much bickering, trying to outdo the nasty posters and posts directed to only a few regulars.

Maybe I'm one of the people you are directing the post to...I can only hope that's not true. I have supported this board on countless occasions, but I can't take the tone of things anymore.

I hope people listen to you, Shawna. Keeping my fingers crossd.

Dawn

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 9:48am

Of course I wasnt talking to you Dawn!

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 11:13am
*hand shake*

  Shawna-- Proud Cl for 100 Pounds or More to Go 

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Registered: 05-23-2004
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 6:04pm
IMHO, the troll(with the multiple personality disorder)on this board has been getting "fed" pretty regularly. When it comes to feeding off of negative attention, this person has found an all-you-can-eat buffet here. If we (as a group) just shove her behind the handy ignore function, the mean-spirited booger will fade away due to being starved for attention. If the troll verbally attacks or insults somebody, we all ought to just praise the heck out of the victim, letting her know how great we think she is but not waste a second on directing comments towards the troll. If we don't feed the nasty thing it might not go away, but it sure won't be happy. Why should this person be having such a great time while those of us that are here for the right reasons are left feeling crummy? We've got the power to just turn this jerk off.

Vikki

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 12:05am
YAY VIKKI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Big slobbery shark smooches

Amy