NEW HERE AND NEED ADVICE!!
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NEW HERE AND NEED ADVICE!!
| Sun, 06-06-2004 - 5:58pm |
First I would like to say hello to everyone here, Im new on the block, Im looking for a place I can come to for help and advice about my problem. I have gained over 100pds in the last year due to stress and of course eating,oh and a baby. Anyway Im currently weighing about 319pds, If you saw me you wouldnt think I was that big, Im also 5'10, and IM also wearing a size 22..omg... I hate even saying it. I just joined a very good gym here in my city, the only thing is I dont have no one to go with me or any type of motivation so I have not been yet. I dont want to take any pills, Im just stuck because I dont know what to do, I dont no what I should and shouldnt eat, I was thinking of cutting out red meat, but I dont know if that will help, I just am so confused and I dont have any help or motivation. My weight gain problem is really stressing me out and taking a tole on my body and life, I dont even go out anymore becasue im worried about what people think, And now my kids and my husband is suffering because I dont even want to leave out the house with them, someone told me to just eat fruit and veggies and drink water and exercise but I dont know, Im just confused. Do anyone here have any suggestions and comments, because I really need it. Thanks

I don't know much about any particular diet or exercise plans, but I can tell you what is working for me. I have a pretty laid back eating plan. First I cut out all the fast food, which was a major source of fat and calories for me. My family was eating take-out at least three times a week (I know, that is bad, bad, bad!) Then I cut out excess sugar, from candy, cakes, etc. I also had to learn what regular portion sizes were because I was used to over-eating at every meal. This article helped me with that: http://www.ivillage.com/diet/experts/askdiet/articles/0,,221776_80163,00.html
I try to make good choices now. I have fruit, veggies, calcium, protein, and healthy carbs at ever meal. For example, this morning I had a V-8, two pieces of whole wheat toast with "I can't believe it's not butter" on them, some cantelope,two slices of turkey bacon and a glass of skim milk for breakfast. I also don't skip breakfast or lunch, because that sets me up to over-eat at dinner.
For exercise I walk twice a day, a mile and a half in the morning and another mile and a half after dinner. At first I was panting like an animal at the end of each walk, but it is slowly getting easier. I am considering joining the local gym around August or September. To avoid feeling too self-conscious when I workout there, I'll probably go early in the morning when the gym is mostly empty. If I go at 5 a.m. I could work out virtually alone and be home well before my husband and kids wake up. Maybe that would work for you too.
Well, I've babbled on and on. Sorry about that. Just know that you are NOT alone and you can do this. Just take a deep breath, do some research into diet and exercise plans (I pasted a couple of links that might help with that below), and post as much as you need to in order to get the answers you're looking for. You can do this, really. I speak from experience. If I can do it ANYBODY can.
Big welcome and a big hug,
Vikki
http://www.ivillage.com/topics/fitness/0,,165513,00.html
http://www.lhj.com/lhj/category.jhtml?categoryid=/templatedata/lhj/category/data/c_292.xml
IMO, the advice that you got to just eat fruits and vegetables and drink water and exercise is incomplete. Of course all those things are important to losing weight, and you should definitely do them, but you also definitely need some protein like chicken breast (no skin), tuna or other kind of fish or lean meat. Other protein sources would be nuts, beans, tofu, yogurt and cheese. It's important to get some kind of protein in your diet so that you don't start losing muscle along with the fat. There's so much information about nutrition out there but these are some of the basics to hopefully get you started. I would definitely recommend doing some research on your own along with talking to your doctor.
Good luck and I hope to see you around here more often :-)
~~Linda
~~Linda
Hi Kismet and welcome to the boards!
what i did was one made the decision to do something and then two i went to a dietian. she taught me things i didn't know or even think of. after i got my eating under control, which is a daily battle, i decided to work on the exercise.
i would say set a goal each week and decided on what you want to work on first and go from there. never beat yourself up if you don't follow through. everyday is a new day and you are allowed to have a day off from the diet. also realize that you are a beautiful person on the inside and you are just letting that beauty shine even more on the outside. don't let anyone steal your joy and determination either.
:)
You've come to the right board for support! I started out like many of the other ladies here. I ate more fruits and veggies and lean proteins and whole wheats, drank water, exercise and you will lose weight. Have you thought about keeping a food journal? I find this to be quite helpful in seeing how much I really do eat. I think everyone's advice is good and yes you can do it! You definitely gotta gain some confidence back, because you are your own best friend and only you can take care of you. When you feel the need to eat something you aren't supposed to, treat yourself to makeup or a new outfit or going for a pedicure. Also start small minigoals for yourself. Mine is to be down to 230-240 pounds by summer's end and down to 200 by the end of the year. Welcome to the board! Please stick around ;-) Heather
since 4/5/04
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Heather and Shawn 7/16/04
Hi and welcome. I think what you do...is just start somewhere. Eat three healthy meals today, and the next day, and the next. Get in some kind of exercise today, and the next day, and the next. Just start, and then keep it up! And before long, you'll have what you want. In other words, what can you do today to un"stick" yourself? Do that!
Forte
The only thing I would add is that many in the dieting advice world suggest that having 5 mini meals instead of three main meals is actually better for blood sugar and metabolism.
Astri