Do You Get Sick Of Hearing About It?

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Do You Get Sick Of Hearing About It?
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Wed, 06-30-2004 - 6:33pm

Let me forewarn you before you read this, this post may seem negative, but I'm really not trying to be.....


A question popped into my head the other day and I wanted to ask you guys.

 

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Wed, 06-30-2004 - 6:54pm

Well, I dont really work outside the home and not everyone knows about me losing weight.

 

  Shawna

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Registered: 06-18-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 7:38pm
rely the one thing that i get sick of is because im still fat my tummy is rounding out... okay i will never have a normal preggo belly

 

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Wed, 06-30-2004 - 8:05pm
I'm sorry that you have to put up with that, Rely. I haven't had to deal with that. A few people at work know that I'm trying to lose weight, but they never say anything unless I bring it up. They know I've lost some weight, so they don't say anything when they see me eat something that I probably shouldn't. Other than that, no one else really knows that I'm trying to lose. Except my husband, of course. But I'll talk about it more to him than he will to me. I do sometimes think that my whole life is revolving around my weight loss. I've been thinking of taking a couple of classes this fall, and you know what's the one thing that's stopping me? My weight loss. I'm afraid that if I take on some classes, that it will take my focus away from my weight loss and I'll stop, or worse gain it all back. I'm also afraid that I'll have more of an excuse not to exercise (using the excuse that I don't have enough time) even though I know that if I really want to, I'll find a way no matter what. So I kind of know what you're going through.

~~Linda

~~Linda

 

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Wed, 06-30-2004 - 8:39pm
That was what bugged me the most with both my pregnancies...the looks like they just couldn't tell if I was just really fat or pregnant, wondering if they should ask when my baby is due or if I wanted to know what diet plan worked for them. No, actually the worst thing was when they'd make comments about how HUGE my baby was going to be when I was only like 4 months pg and barely "showing" (btw, neither of my boys came out huge by any means!).

And Rely, I'm not really around other people other than my DH and kids. Those I do see have no idea I'm trying to lose weight. But, I'm exactly like Shawna, I am so sick of constantly thinking about it myself. My only thoughts seem to be about something related to losing weight. Sometimes I wonder whats worse, being fat for the rest of my life or being obsessed with losing/maintaining for the rest of my life.

Amanda

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 9:42pm
Rely don't you just love that inner voice always there to sabotage you. I think we all have one. Mine always assumes it knows what someone is thinking and it tells me what ever negative thing it can come up with. It's best friends with my Bingesaurus the are always there to keep me company. :) Hugs, Brenda

PS Don't you just want to tell thoes people that you've enlisted the help of fairies to lose the weight?


Edited 6/30/2004 9:46 pm ET ET by mebrenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Wed, 06-30-2004 - 10:03pm
I am sick to death of hearing about it on the nightly news every single night. America's Obesity Epidemic--blech. I know it is a problem yadda yadda yadda, I would just love to get through one news program without hearing that carrots will make you fat, carrots will make you thin, carrots cure warts, carrots give you gallstones...blah blah blah. You can't eat anything anymore without the news telling you about some adverse effects to it, and if I hear one more "tip on how to shed those extra pounds" I may scream. Sorry for that rant but it is so tiresome to me.
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Thu, 07-01-2004 - 12:41pm
Rely,

Yes, I too am sick of hearing about it. I dont work outside the home but every time I go out and we run into people we know or we see any family members, the focus of the conversation is always about my weight loss and my diet. This is the stuff I hear over and over and over. How much weight have you lost?, how long has it been now? what do you eat in a day? Do you exercise? what kind of exercise? how often? Whats your secret? and they always tell me that I have got to give them a copy of my diet plan? Hello!!! I am not on a diet plan!!!! (they never get that part) I am just eating in moderation and trying to be more active. They are always prying, thinking I have some special secret that I am withholding. It makes me feel like a bug under glass. I am always thinking they are analyzing everything in my shopping cart, everything I eat, say, wear or do because they are!!! It gets so annoying. The other day I was wearing shorts and a friend of my moms was going on an on with the questions about my weight loss and she is checking out my legs and asks me where's my saggy skin from all my weight loss? I'm like well luckily I dont seem to have that yet. Then she wants to know all about what exercise I am doing, how much, how often. It's tiring answering the same questions over and over. I know people are curious but geez there is more to me than my weight/weight loss and it would be nice to talk about other things once in a while.

Laura
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Thu, 07-01-2004 - 1:16pm
***raises fin***

Yes, to some extent I do, but I seem to have more people asking me what I did to lose all the weight. Everyone but my best friend and her mother compliment me, and even ask me for a copy of my diet or a referal to my dietician (just the people I work with and those in the law enforcement community).Work and the people at it - we are a like a dysfuctional group of siblings, so there is a lot of closeness ans squabbling at the same time. I don't really pay attention to people outside of my personal life, like strangers in a restaurant - but I used to. People are nosey, and I find when they make passive-aggressive gestures or remarks in regards to what you are eating/wearing/weighing, it's a thinly veiled attempt at superiority over you, and in my mind, a control issue. My best friend is the worst for this. She became a bit panicked when I started losing weight and poo-poohed my Atkins diet and joined WW. She lost almost 50 pounds since the end of January and is desparate to catch up to me. When we go out, she tries to get me to eat something I shouldn't, saying she'll share...but when it comes, she will say she's over her points.

I think if I were in your position (and workplaces, their social dynamics and so on are all very different)I would clam up about being on a diet. Not that you should hide it, but why say anything if people aren't going to be supportive or at the very least, non-judgemental. Hell, we get enough judging from OURSELVES, who needs it from people who most likely don't really care once they have gone home for the day? Where I work, we are a little weird and we call each other at home, party together, have coffee at each others homes, borrow cars, and are very connected. If you don't feel that someone's interest in your diet is for the best, I'd (and this takes chutzpah)look them in the eye, wait a second or two, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?'. I got this trick from Fat!So? and it really can unnerve someone and they scuttle off. I have a couple of books - gotta remember the titles and author - but they are about cheap psychological tricks for life and another one for relationships. Furry might know...But they have taught me more than a few coping skills.

I have no doubt in my mind you will find a diplomatic way to deal with losers who encroach (what a great word) on your well being, because it you let it derial you, you will just feel worse. You have been doing well, and why not use us as your sole suppport, as well as family.

(hey, we are all a bit dysfuctional here too..or should I just speak for myself?LOL!)

If all else fails, poop in their desk drawer.(J/K!!!....Or AM I ????Muwahhhhaahaa..)

Big Tharky Hugths,

Amy

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 1:39pm
"I also feel like my life revolves around (buckle in!) the scale, what my next meal is, what I look like in these shorts, is the cellulite showing on my legs, do my arms giggle, do my boobs look saggy in this bra, when can I cheat again, do people think I look fat, does anyone notice that Im freaking over the restraunt menu"

You said a mouthful, sista!

"do my arms giggle" Honey, if your arms are giggling, you gots ISSUES.(They make medication for that.)

My thighs have been known to squeal and laugh at the smell of cake. (sorry - had to tease you about the giggly arms)

Especially the WHEN CAN I CHEAT AGAIN...Oh, I have trouble with this one...and if I could stay off the scale,I might not be so neurotic.

Does anyone else use the scale as a barometer of how they will feel for the day?

Amy

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Registered: 03-20-2004
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 1:59pm
Relydria,

But...as I'm reading your post, if I understand you correctly....is it true the people at work wouldn't KNOW you were dieting, or WHAT plan you were dieting on unless **YOU** told them in the first place, right? That's probably one good reason NOT to tell co-workers about private matters. You see, once you tell casual acquaintances or co-workers about your "plan," then you're really inviting them "in" to ask such questions as "how are you doing."

I'd say, if you don't want them asking then just ask them NOT to anymore. In other words, invite them "out" of your private life, and into only your work (public) life, and hope that works better for everyone (keeping work at work, and home at home, that is).

Good luck to you, on that!

Forte

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