How do you stay focused?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
How do you stay focused?
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Tue, 07-20-2004 - 3:35pm
How do you keep in track, when your life keeps throwing you crud to deal with? I have been on my programme for 11 months and have lost 70 pounds. I have my ups and downs like everyone, but latley I have been having a really hard time.

My mom and grandmother are both battling cancer. Grandma is 87 and has a very bleak out look. My mom is fighting it for the 3rd time. My marriage is in the process of being rebuilt. I have just starting wininng my 3 year battle with severe depession. I have 3 children who are home with me for the summer. I am expected to/want to return to work in the fall after being off for 2 years on disabilty.

How do I stay focused and contine my weight loss, admist the all the crap? I am so not motivated right now. It doesn't help that for the last 2 days I have been almost bedridden with cramps from AF.

Sorry for dumping all this.

Carol

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Tue, 07-20-2004 - 6:54pm
Hiya Carol,

I'm new to this site, but I just wanted to let you know that I can't imagine having to deal with all that you are dealing with at one time. In the midst of it all, you have managed to lose so much weight! That in itself, shows that you are a very strong person. Lately, I've been having a tough time staying focused as well. I'm trying to just take one day at a time and not think about all that I need to accomplish. I wish that I could say more to be of help to you. I'm sending hugs your way. Just know that you are not alone.

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Tue, 07-20-2004 - 7:45pm
Carol, I'm so sorry to hear about your mother and your grandmother! That in itself is very stressful (I know, my mother had cancer), but to deal with that and everything else that's going on in your life right now, well it has to be tough! I don't know if I have much advice to give, but try to focus on how far you've come. 70 pounds is a big deal! All I can say is try to do the best you can, and when you feel the urge to binge, try to focus on something else instead, like going for a walk or reading (I know, easier said than done!). I'm sending positive thoughts your way and I hope that both your mom and grandmother get well soon :)

~~Linda

~~Linda