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Registered: 07-29-2004
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Fri, 07-30-2004 - 6:52am
I am so repulsed by my eating habits..and even more so whenever i get shot down...I'm so sick of hearing, "you have such a great personality and your so pretty, you'll find a nice man SOMEDAY"....It' seems like all the men I meet don't care that I can hold a conversation or that I'm genuinely interested in what they have to say...All that seems to matter is the fat that surrounds me...ANd then of course It just makes me feel so bad about myself that I pig out until I can't eat anymore or until theres nothing left to eat...Does anyone else have problems with the whole dating game? I know there are some really good guys out there, but they don't seem to live in the state of Massachusetts...all ever get are really old married guys who epitomize the word "creepy?

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Registered: 06-16-2003
In reply to: tigger200018
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 9:27am
It took me a really long time to find a good guy. I dated SOOOOOOO many frogs(well, not really dated..lol) All they wanted me for was one thing, and I went along b/c it made me feel wanted...but it is true, you will find someone. I found my perfect person when I was 18, and I am almost 20 and we are stil together, and he still loves me, and he still does not like me losing weight..lol, he loves me for who I am. And maybe someone great does like you, they see you everyday, but they are too shy to tell you b/c they think you won't like them in return....you need to just open your eyes and look around and see the possibilities, not to sound too cliche.

Good Luck,

Sara

~Sayruhb02
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Registered: 06-16-2004
In reply to: tigger200018
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 9:48am
I think that several people would agree that its hard to be overweight and date.

 

  Shawna

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Registered: 01-04-2004
In reply to: tigger200018
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 12:26pm
I'm sorry you're having problems with men. There are men out there who don't care about the weight and will see who you are on the inside. I know because I was lucky enough to find one of those men and marry him. Hopefully, you'll find yours soon, too. And when you do, you'll know that you're very lucky to have found someone who cares about what really counts. Hey, I live in Massachusetts, so I'll keep my eyes open for you lol!

~~Linda

~~Linda

 

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Registered: 05-17-2004
In reply to: tigger200018
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 12:56pm

OH yes, I have the same problem.

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Fear

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Registered: 07-28-2004
In reply to: tigger200018
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 2:57pm
I totally agree with you guys. A few years ago I finally got up the nerve to ask out a guy I knew from college who frequented the store I used to work at. He actually told me that when I could fit into a size 6, then I could give him a call. I was crushed, but now I am happy he said that so I didn't waste my time with him. What a jerk!!

Shannon

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Registered: 07-29-2004
In reply to: tigger200018
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 3:23pm
Guys can be such jerks...i was seeing this guy who i thought was really nice until one day i asked him what he thought of me...he told me i was very pretty and nice, but that i was disgusting from the chest down...he hadn't ever seen me from the chest down..but i was crushed at first..then i got over it and realized that i am truly better off with out him
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Registered: 06-13-2003
In reply to: tigger200018
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 5:06pm
Oh god...That is so mortifying!!! But men don't have a monopoly on being mean. My friends and I have been rejected by women the same way...You'll finally come to the realization that they were jerks, superficial @$$holes.

All these ladies are right, there are good people out there. They're just a little hard to find because they're just sitting around the house, maybe even feeling the same way.

But still, even if someone is a jerk, it's inexcusable for them to belittle others. Console yourself with this fact: you can laugh at them in 20 years when they become "fat" and start getting insulted. What goes around comes around!

Tony

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Registered: 05-17-2004
In reply to: tigger200018
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 5:44pm

Too true Tony.

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Fear

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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: tigger200018
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 5:56pm
Tigger...where in MA do you live? Igrew up in Natick, but I can tell you the men to stay away from at least, depending on your area! And the NEXT time someone says something so crass to you, kick them. HARD.

Amy

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Registered: 06-13-2003
In reply to: tigger200018
Fri, 07-30-2004 - 10:02pm
It's ok...I didn't take offense...

Reading the post did make me angry though...at stupid jerks who are too insensitive to be polite. THey could have politely turned her down if they weren't interested, but they didn't have to belittle her...

She should have just punched them in the face...Maybe it's 'cause I'm down South and manners still matter around here, but if someone said that to one of my co-workers, I'd have to step in...

I've been on both sides, and I've been approached by women that I'm not attracted to, but I didn't feel I had the right to say cruel things to them. That's just disrespectful.

TOny

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