Fear is paralyzing

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Fear is paralyzing
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Sun, 08-15-2004 - 9:34am
I have been dieting and exercising since June and last count have lost 27 pounds. I have clothes in the closet that were oh well one day ( I will wear)clothes. I am so afraid if I try on something I have never worn and it does not fit off to the kitchen I go because all the hard work has been in vain. Well I have gotten into two size 24 outfits(pants)but also could not get into two 26 outfits ( dresses). I did not run to the hills I said oh well let's how it works next month! I did not run to the kitchen and eat everything I just said wait. I am waiting. I just can not let this paralyzing fear take over my life again and stop my progress. The old me would be in the kitchen whipping up the FOODS and eating and being mad at the lack of success. Not anymore. One day at at time and not every outfit is made the same!! Forward not backward.







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Registered: 07-16-2004
Sun, 08-15-2004 - 11:17am
VERY well done Pookie! You should proud of your achievement so far - 27 pounds since June is fantastic. And I know what you mean about the fear of trying on those 'maybe one day clothes'. I have a pair of jeans that I fit into - and were a bit loose - 2 1/2 years ago and since I don't have a scale, I'm using those as a guide for me. I will fit back into those by Christmas at the latest. Right now I'm at the point that they can be zipped up without laying on the bed but if I try to sit it's kind of a slingshot affect. OH and the rolls!

Anyway - good on you for not running to the kitchen! Sometimes it is so easy to justify it but you fought it because you have a goal in your head and you refuse to let food control you.


Keep up the great work!

Cheers

Lisa

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Registered: 01-27-2004
Sun, 08-15-2004 - 12:13pm

((((((((((Pookie)))))))))), I'm so proud of you!

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Sun, 08-15-2004 - 4:38pm
thank you. I went out to eat and only ate half and brought the other half home for later. I am in this for the long haul. I have until December 31, 2005 to reach or get close to my goal. I want to llse 180 pounds.
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Sun, 08-15-2004 - 4:42pm
Thank you!!! Every day is a challenge. I am so determined to do this . I have got to stop running back into my fat world to hide from the world. Congrats!!!! To You Also.!!!
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Registered: 03-20-2004
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 12:19pm
Anyone just has to stay on track. One thing I know for certain: if you try on an outfit in your closet and it's too tight....then it isn't going to fit any better if you go into the kitchen and binge. The only way to get to your weight loss goals, is to keep focused on it. And it sounds like that's what you are doing. Good for you!

forte

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Registered: 07-19-2004
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 6:21pm
Thank you!!!! I agree with you there is no reason to run into the kitchen LOL I should know this habit well. But I also realized the difference............... I am very serious about this weight loss not trying to please anyone but ME! I am doing it for me and noone else. Every day is a challenge but if I stumble I will get back up. thanks again.
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Registered: 03-20-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 3:53pm
Pookie627,

You're welcome! You say that you're doing it for yourself, and only for yourself, and that's EXACTLY the right reason! With an attitude like that, you know you're going to reach your goal. Sure, it's a challenge. But nothing you can't handle. And you're doing very well, right?

About the kitchen when something goes wrong. I'm sure you know this little trick, but I'll pass it along anyhow. When you're tempted, give yourself a 10-15 minute time-out (and during that time, do something incompatible with eating--it's hard to eat chocolate cake in a hot shower, for example...take a shower). And then, if you still *think* you're hungry (but on some level you know you're really not) either try to have something satisfying that's less calorically dense than the first thing in the fridge that you would have gone for! Or, alternately, plan for that indulgence the next day....bargain with yourself. In other words, if I think (even after the shower and time out) that I still want that cake, maybe I can talk myself into a low calorie indulgence instead. Or maybe I can take the time to make a low calorie, healthier cake, than the Sara Lee. And of course, last trick....if it's not in the fridge, then it can't be eaten. In the early days, I literally cleared out the house and gave all the *garbage food* away. Of course, there's always a grocery store.....but the point is, that takes effort to get the car out, drive to the grocery, park, walk in and stand in checkout. And all that time (if I had the inclination to go that far and go out for a *treat*) is also TIME for reality to set it, for me to consider what I'm doing.

It's been a while. I've lost a lot of weight. And one of the ways I've done it, at least initially, was by making it hard to fall off the wagon. Maybe you can design some of your own ways to stay out of the kitchen, or to make the kitchen a healthy only zone, before you get those diving urges!

Anyway, you're already showing that you know what you want, and how to get there. Success is right there in front of you....it's all yours. Just grab it!

(PS Wasn't it Teddy Roosevelt who said "there is nothing to fear but fear itself" It doesn't have to be paralyzing, as you're showing.

My best,

Forte

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Registered: 01-27-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 5:51pm
Close -- it was Franklin Roosevelt (but they WERE cousins!), but the sentiment is right on!

Ladyirish317


...There's some good in this world, Mr. Frodo, and it's worth fighting for...