What has stopped you?

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Registered: 06-16-2004
What has stopped you?
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Wed, 08-25-2004 - 1:36pm

Is there something that has stopped you from losing weight?

 

  Shawna

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Registered: 06-16-2003
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 1:55pm
Shawna, I have talked to you about this before....

I just lost the want. I still need to lose weight, and I do want to, but my mentality is back where it was a year ago--food is better at the moment. I would rather eat that cheeseburger than do without it....I want that Dr. Pepper and I am sick of water.

I have just lost the "I can do this" attitude. I want to get back into the groove, but at the present, it seems impossible....

(edit) I agree with Amanda about the SO thing. Roger and his roomate have no food at their house. I just recently bought some juice to put in the fridge over there b/c I am sick of beer(hey it's Bud LIGHT though okay?). So, we go eat at my brother in law's restaurant(Mexican) or McD's or go out somewhere we can get w/o having to buy stuff and cook it at home...we don't cook at all...and then when I am with my sister, she doesn't cook, so either she wants to get McD's or Pizza Hut or go out to Chinese or like, Olive Garden or whatever, sometimes we make Mac'n'Cheese or something, but it's sick and I can't get away from like total fat stuff. And like, Roger doesn't eat like he used to(as anti low-fat as possible), but he's still a big guy and he is happy. He wants to eat what he wants, and that is it. And so, I'm like "I'll just have a salad..." he just gives me an annoyed look b/c he loves my body and how I look and he doesn't understand, and never did from the beginning why on earth I want to be thinner.

Sara


Edited 8/25/2004 2:06 pm ET ET by sayruhb02


Edited 8/25/2004 2:08 pm ET ET by sayruhb02

~Sayruhb02
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Registered: 08-07-2003
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 1:57pm
I agree with nearly everything you said, Shawna. Before I started losing weight, I never realized how much I weighed and how I really looked. I saw some pictures from Christmas 2002 that just blew me away. WHO WAS THAT GIRL?!?!? Not me, cause I just knew I was cute! Well, January 2003, I decided to do something about it. I lost 30 lbs or so during the year (not a lot---but, I was happy). During the first part of this year, I lost about 10 more. Well, now I've gained those 10 back. So, I'm right where I was last year. I'm ashamed to say that, really.

My main problem is self control. I'm going to say it now....I love food. I love the motions of making food, I love to chew it....everything. I'm southern, so here is a typical menu at my house: Fried chicken or fish (or maybe a hamburger steak), fried okra, fried potatoes and biscuits. Ok, where is the healthy part? I'll admit though, we don't cook much of those foods anymore (my mom is also half-heartedly on WW) but on the occasions that we do, I dig right in. I tell myself repeatedly before I sit down "no fried foods", etc. Then, I gulp the good foods, along with the bad, down like I haven't seen food in weeks. If I get a notion in my head for, say, Froot Loops or Wendy's...I can't get it out. I'm too weak to fend it off most times. Some might call this an excuse...but, I truly think food addiction is a very real problem for many people. So, to combat my fast food problem, I try not to carry cash. I won't stop if I can't pay cash for it....but, now, with school in session I have to carry cash for parking. I'll have to work on some self restraint.

I can tell this is going to be a novel - but another thing that holds me back is my SO. He loves to eat out. It's hard to pick a salad when I'm looking at a menu filled with things I love. Again, self control is what I need.

Anyway, I'm there with you on this one Shawna. I'm beginning to wonder what is wrong with me. I know I can do this....but why am I not actively doing it? Grr Grr Grr! We'll figure this out.....

Amanda

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 2:28pm
Man, if I knew what was stopping me, I'd be sooo happy! I don't know what my problem is. When I see pics of myself, I want to cry. But my self control in zero. Zero, zilch, nada, nothing. I guess THAT is my problem.

I hate it, I reallly do. DH is tired of it all....the dieting, not, dieting, not.....and I'm sick of it, too.

Well, now that writing it out has shown me I have no self control, maybe I can do something about it? I don't know.....nothing has helped so far.

Interesting question....now for the solutions? I guess we'll find out!

Dawn

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Registered: 08-23-2004
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 3:36pm
I too am a food addict Shawna. And, I suffer from the same that you all suffer from self-control. I control my work, I control the fact that I am not in a relationship, I control my feelings for my friends and family, but FOOD CONTROLS ME. I'm tired of it. Once upon a time I lost quite alot of weight, and even though I was still "chubby" I was at the most happiest time in my life. God what I'd give to get it back. I need to work more at it....just saying it isn't going to make a dang difference!! I get so angry with myself, why is it that I can keep every other thing in my life in a straight line accept this one teeny tiny HUGE thing???

One thing that I've neglected to mention is that I am a compulsive over-eater. I am truly powerless to food. I eat when I'm happy, sad, angry, bored - heck, I'll be honest, I don't need a reason. I have a hard time saying no. I have actually fooled myself into believing that I am doing better...who am I kidding?? I know how much I weigh and how much body fat I'm lugging around, like no one else can see that right?? I can't stand it anymore....nor can I believe I am writing this to you all, I NEVER EVER acknowledge my weight issues to people....I have got to get back on track, I mean ladies....these are our lives we're talking about...we only get one of them!!! I want to maybe someday have children, watch them grow up, hug my grandbabies and swing them on my front porch under a moonlight night one day....I don't want to have heart disease, a stroke or diabetes as a future...or a PRESENT.

I guess the answer is just to committ to ourselves. I really want to love me again. I know I can do it....and that is the first step.

I love myself...I want to change! I am committed!!!!

Ok, I'll get off the soap box, thanks for listening.

-Cindy

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 4:52pm
Well, I'm in the same boat right now. A few days of total debauchery, and I weigh 162.5 freakin' pounds! What stops me is my love for food, laziness, complacency...laziness...

stress...laziness...Zzzzzz....

Amy

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Registered: 03-20-2004
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 5:36pm
Shawna,

Nothing stopped me, really. When I finally decided to get started and reclaim my life, I just got busy and started doing it. And it's been straight ahead ever since.

Forte

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Registered: 07-28-2003
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 7:49pm
I with Sharkie on this... laziness, loooove of food, more laziness... I'm up in the low 160's as well, and when I started WW last year I was 150! I hate that I keep having to go up a size in clothes, but I can't seem to force myself to get back on track, either.

- Yav

"What is an 'Oprah'?" - Teal'c, SG-1

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 10:03pm
Amen, sista!
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Registered: 10-02-2003
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 12:06pm
absolutely nothing can stop