Kinda of OT and Kinda on

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Kinda of OT and Kinda on
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Fri, 08-27-2004 - 2:05pm
Well I have been missing in action for a few days.

Tuesday I got a call from my ex fiances son, his dad was in the hospital he had a heartattack.

I called one of my friends and asked to borrow the money to fly out there and booked the flight within 20 minutes of that phone call. I was on my way that evening. This person and I had dated for 4 years and I left our relationship after I had found out he was cheating on me and lying to me all of the time.

I flew in after many delays, hyesterical I was not going to get my chance to say goodbye. He was fine when I saw him. I cleaned the house did all the laundry and made him a few healthy things to eat and threw them in the freezer. Took the kids (not really kids they are 22 & 24) (I am 28). I was in his bedroom where I was staying and putitng away his laundry and came across a box with some of my stuff that I had left behind and looked in it to find an engagement ring for someone else. We are not together so I could not be bothered by it. I had been listening to his cell ring and ring about 20 times that morning with the same # that had been calling it was the woman I found him cheating with. I answered the phone explained to her why I was there and told her I felt we were all adults and I would have wanted her to do the same thing so I wouldnt worry to death about him. She called later that afternoon and I updated her on his staus. I also told him I had spoken with her. He seemed fine.

He came home yesterday where he locked himself in his room while I went out to the couch so he could make some calls. After an hour I had not heard him move or anything so I decided to check on him. I knocked on the door, called out his name knocked again and nothing. I turned the knob it was locked. I pounded on the door fearing the worst and he came out a few minutes later upset with me because he had obviously told her I had gone home. We exchanged words I told him I cared enough to be out there for him and he asked me to stop patting myself on the back thre my cell phone at me and told me to go find a hotel room and my own way there. I did.

All in all it was horrible the fear of losing someone I cared about at one time, being faced with the woman and come to find out the WOMEN in his life and having him treat me like I was dirt. His son drove me to the airport hotel, sobbing and he said he was sorry for his fathers behavior. Ironically the week before this Terry had called his son was in jail and needed help with getting him out and I did. If I wouldnt have he would have been home alone when he had his heartattack and probably would have died. I am thankful I helped and sad that it went this way.

I stayed OP the whole time I was there even last night when I was at my lowest point.

I am going to get weighed in tomorrow since I missed Thursday nights weigh in.

I am hoping I get decent results.

Take care everyone.

~ JODI ~

293.5/241/175

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Registered: 07-26-2004
Fri, 08-27-2004 - 2:20pm
Wow Jodi, I don't know what to say other then you sound like a wonderful caring individual and the SOB was too wrapped up in his life to see straight. His loss and your gain.

Congrats on staying on plan! That was marvelous!

((((((((big hug))))))))))

furry

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Fri, 08-27-2004 - 2:27pm
I am so sorry that he was so selfish not to see what a wonderful thing you did. That was so kind of you, and selfless. Good for you for staying on plan and not letting him get to you. What a jerk. He doesn't know what a wonderful thing you did for him and how he should be grateful to have someone like you in his life.

Hang in there and congrats on staying OP.

Dawn

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Registered: 06-16-2003
Fri, 08-27-2004 - 2:34pm
That is terrible. You went to all that trouble just to have him disregard you. Don;t let people walk all over you like that. You may have loved him at one time, but he wasn't then and obviously isn't now worth the heartache.

HUGS, sara

~Sayruhb02
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Fri, 08-27-2004 - 3:25pm
Thanks guys.

I guess I am just so stunned by the whole thing I dont know what to do.

He sent me a two line e-mail. Thanks for everything. Hope you got home safe.

I wasted 4 years of my life with this person and continue to support his needs. When all along he has known this other women and has one locally and one living in a house we own together in Oklahoma. Except amazingly enough none of the others showed up to help him. Guess that doesnt seem to matter to him, the only thing that did matter was eliminating the problem (me) so he could mend some fences with the other ladies in his life.

I wished him well and kissed him goodbye told him to listen to everyone and to get better, that I would always love him and left.

I guess this is where I normally would have turned to food, this time I am not sure where I will turn, this shook me so hard I cant even really think.

I left my husband, my friends and family, my job and everything to move to this person who couldnt even respect me enough to tell someone I was there. I look at the bigger picture and realize I loved him enough to be by his side and get the call from her and as we were talking and she was telling me everything about them she said she never knew about me. I was never important enough to tell someone that I exsisted? Yet I ran to him within in an hour of getting a call I was packing my stuff to hold his hand?

I am dumber than I thought I was.

Sorry for dumping.

I get on the scale tomorrow hopefully that is at least good news.

~ JODI ~

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Fri, 08-27-2004 - 3:53pm
I think if you own a house w/him, you should sell it and take your money and RUN!

You don't want any of these other women getting your hard-earned money.

Hang in there, being good to yourself is the best reward. You can do it!

Dawn