To Joyce
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| Sat, 08-28-2004 - 2:27pm |
I have read your posts asking for everyone to calm down. I have read your posts on TOS violations. Now I have a question for you and iVillage....
This is a board that we (people who have 100+ to lose) are supposed to be able to go to for support, tips, and celebration. Yet, when we defend this board against those who ridicule us, make snippy comments to us (check out the Lane Bryant thread, esp. astri_c), WE get a "warning" from you telling us to cool it. Well, Joyce, what are YOU doing for US?
We get ridiculed from the public, told we're just eating too much, even tho there are studies to show MEDICAL reasons for weight gain, and genereally have to be on the defensive all the time, and now we have to take it here too? I thought I was finding a safe place to journey, but instead you (or whoever it is at iV) is telling us just to suck it up, turn the other cheek, so to speak. I have to do that EVERY DAY at work, church, and everywhere else. Why can't I have a place here that no one will mess w/me? Is that really asking too much?
iVillage has a responsibility to US, the members of this board who are here in the SPIRIT of the board. Not to those who ridicule us, put us down, snip at us and tell us we're just too lazy to lose the weight ---jsut because the don't violate TOS doesn't mean they should be allowed to continue to harass us. That is what it is, harrassment.
I've been a member of ivillage for almost 9 years, and I am incredibly disappointed.
Dawn

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A lot of us are hurt and confused
Generally speaking we just want to feel safe
Respected and able to
Express ourselves without being worried
Exactly as iVillage promises us; a safe well-lit place to post
*astrofortified*
I really think this needs to be discussed on the board. It is about the board, and it affects alot of us here, so private conversation with each member may not apply here. It would give us a chance to see what we all have to say(without violating TOS of course)and would only be fair.
Amy
I respect that this is a tough spot to be in and for that you have my empathy. But as a board regular for a long time, I agree with Dawn and I would like to see a response from ivillage regarding this situation. We have lost too many wonderful posters on this board and I don't want to see another mass exodus.
ivillage states that these boards should be a safe place.
Individuals on this board face harrassment and constant put-downs in life....they should not face this same anomosity on this board. We should be able to post freely and without fear.
All we are asking for is our dignity to be who we are. All we are seeking is safety to post our feelings.
furry
As a leader of this board, I agree with the others.
Brenda
I second, third, fourth and fifth this motion.
I did respond to you via email and have not gotten a reply.
Fear
Kerry
And to be honest here, the people some of you are attacking are NOT the problem at all. I was attacked, for example, for no reason whatsoever with my first post here. Now I've read here for some time, before posting, and I've seen the goings on. For example, I recall when your CL Shawna attacked Astri (for being so fat, sitting in a chair all day) and this poor girl Astri had already told the board she was wheel-chair-bound. I mean, how low is a person to attack another person in a wheelchair. Pretty low. And I believe there still is a post on this board, when Shawna told Astri (when Astri was brand new) that Shawna pitied Astri's sister, on active duty with the military in Iraq, not because she was serving OUR country and in harms way, BUT because Astri was her sister. Now where I come from, we respect the families of active military. And that post particularly was disgusting. I think that CMJoyce should look closer to home, and ivillage should be more careful of the quality of individuals they put in CL posts, because ANYONE who would speak thusly to a family member of an active military person....well, you complete that sentence.
And then little things, Shawna and her friend Yavie accusing another poster of lying about parents in Florida. If that poster is lying, so is FEMA and Jeb Bush! And Shawna accusing three other posters of "lying" in the thread about Kristie Allie.
I think even those of us who do not post all the time, but read more than post, are pretty much aware of what is really going on here. Shawna came to this particular board over a year ago....and in that time, how many people has she gotten her friends to gang up upon and run from the boards.
I think when her best friend, Yavie (who posts here only when shawna needs "help" running someone off) comes onto the board and tells Forte (whose first grandchild is in the hospital, whose daughter just lost her house) "I don't care about you, except that you lied about Shawna's parents" ---when Forte did no such thing, BTW---well CM Joyce you need to clean house on your boards all right. And I personally think you can start by checking your records and seeing how much trouble, how much discrimination, and flat-out cruelty Shawna and her best buds have caused here. You know, some people are really trying to diet and this kind of constant behavior by a handful of "regulars" has got to stop.
LOL I saw this coming from a mile away.
Jeb Bush a liar? No, no, no it can't be. He is probably the most honest, intelligent, and wonderful governer ever. Just look at all he has done for America. He single-handledly has shown all of us what democracy looks like! I am so glad that you are also a fan of his. Now I just know we can get along because you are smart enough to know that Jeb Bush is such a great guy! I love posting with people who have such wit and intellect as you do. Here's hoping Jeb can deliver Florida again this November for his bro, he is getting a nice head start by sending the police into neighborhoods to make sure no one is voting illegaly. Phew. I feel in such good hands.
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